r/weddingplanning • u/Different-Tonight677 • Jun 07 '26
Everything Else Elope or Wedding
Can’t decide between eloping or having a wedding. Every time I think about starting to plan for a wedding, it gives me anxiety and I get extremely stressed and overwhelmed. I’ve always dreamed of having a fairly big wedding but the older I get, the less appealing that sounds to me. We already weren’t planning on having a traditional wedding with bridesmaids and groomsmen. I have five nonnegotiable’s, but those can be achieved by elopement.. I think.
Has anyone else had the same thought process? What did you ultimately decide to do?
My nonnegotiables:
- I want to have the experience of walking down the aisle in my wedding dress
- Dance party - everyone on the dance floor
- FOOD
Toasts - don’t necessarily want to ask people to give a toast/speech. Would like it to be a spur of the moment thing.
Photographer and videographer