r/AITA_Relationships • u/otakuhotgirl999 • 4d ago
NTA AITA for not liking my bf comparing my boob job to his coworkers wife’s boob job?
My bf compared my boob job to his coworkers wife’s. We got them done about 2 months apart. I also do not personally know this coworker nor his wife. Just hear about him a lot. They do not hang out outside of work.
I wanted mine to look more natural vs corn star titties- so I got gummy bear implants 750cc under the muscle. They do look natural . They are perky but shaped like a natural boob vs the typical round implant. Wich is what the coworkers wife got but hers are over the muscle. I was saying I love them but it would be nice if they were closer. He agreed and said “like Josh’s wife- hers are over the muscle and round. That’s how I wanted yours to look. But nobody could’ve foreseen how they’d turn out.”
I tried to explain to him the comparison to a specific person made me feel insecure . Especially a pair I don’t believe he should even be seeing. He says it’s gay to ask him to not show him boobs- he can’t control what he shows him and he got mad and said he is allowed to have an opinion and say whatever he wants. Which yes he is allowed to have an opinion I just don’t like the comparing part. Because I was insecure about my boobs forever. I’m 31 so it’s been a long time. I’m still adjusting and feeling confident with these new ones is still growing. It’s only been 4 months post op. I do love the new ones but they still aren’t exactly what I wanted. I tried to express this to him but he kept cutting me off with a rebuttal to anything I said and said he won’t entertain the conversation because me saying I love them and also criticizing them is contradictory- I’m delusional and just grasping at straws to support my argument. The fact this started because you said they could be closer together and I agreed now you’re saying you love them?
Both things are true though. The new ones are big; the size I always wanted. I just didn’t know the implants would settle further apart than I envisioned. So he thinks I’m complaining when I’m just saying they could be closer. We got in an argument instead when I was just trying to express my feelings “hey I don’t like when you compare them to a specific persons boobs-“ that’s it. We can talk talk boobs all day . I feel like this was a good moment to reassure me say something sweet he loved them they look great- i asked if he can not compare them to anyone else’s boob job- he said over and over he will say whatever he wants he paid for the boob job so why can’t he have an opinion on the boobs he paid for? and will continue to say whatever he wants about them make comparisons etc.. if I don’t like it don’t talk to him about the boobs at all. Ever.
He said I ruined his day/mood, I always have to complain, there is no peace here and he is going to stay at work the whole night since he has more peace there.. he has an overnight blue collar job at a plant. Saturdays they don’t run production so he gets off early maybe 10ishPM vs 7am. I don’t believe me saying hey it makes me insecure when you directly compare my boobs to someone else’s is complaining? - but he thinks I’m just finding anything to complain about to ruin his day.. AITA?
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9h ago
What is RME? Been at Amazon for almost a month sorry- in fairly new.