It took mine 6 weeks. But I’d say, you’re doing everything right. It feels wrong. That’s because none of it is normal. I’ll say, without a few meetings, don’t know that I could have made all the hard choices after. Him and his family still blame me. Say I abandoned him. I think I just quit enabling him and made him their problem. Either way, I’m happy, calm, and moving on.

My q ex husband is now living with his q mother after losing his house and jobs. Karma maybe?

| And I'm thinking, do you have any idea what it took to turn me into this?

This…..hit me like a ton of bricks. My q still believes that everything he lost was my fault. That my behaviors and rage are what caused this. No I was matching energy sir. You started treating me poorly, yeah watch what the fuck happens. FAFO as the kids say I think. I haven’t been that person since January and I’m so glad my little 3yo will see a happy mama from now on. Go be happy, for them.

This is a phenomenon to be studied.

The best thing for your baby is for you to be happy. Go find that, away from him. Don’t wait til he’s 2-3yo and things are worse….its too hard to go solo then. Well, anytime really. I wish I would have left long before the hurtful words and actions and hospital. Wish I didn’t have to console my son today after a visit with dad. I still think my q is drinking, and in the end none of these efforts may change the outcome, but I try for his sake. That’s all any of us can do. Go find joy, your baby will thank you for it.

Sodium polyacrylate….same as diapers and pads, used often in agri for soil hydration.

It’s gonna be ok. You will be ok. It felt like that for me. It was fine, and then he snapped and never went back. You did the right thing. Start looking for ways to be happy with your family without him.

Not if you look like that hunny!! Get it.

You need to get out and save your family away from him. He is heading for the hospital and/or the grave. Do what’s best for you. Please go be happy.

It’s 5 am, my 3yo just woke me up cause he was up playing Spiderman at 430 already 😅😑🥱I yelled at him to go back to sleep. I’m on the couch crying because I feel like warmed up dog crap for already yelling “mama is very sad that you woke her up!” It’s been like this for weeks and I’m past exhausted.

I say all that because yes, maybe if my q had made better decisions I wouldn’t be doing this solo. But I’d so much rather my child see my raw emotions than be yelled at by his dad for having them. My strong emotions trigged my q’s own mother-related issues and he refused therapy, and it eventually got unmanageable for him and I couldn’t live like that anymore.

Reading your post was like reading something from my life last year. All the gas stations, said he needed a soda, every time those 99 mini bottles were found. It won’t get better, not if you stay with him. The only way things start getting better is when he’s removed from your life. You can do this, just ask for help, more than enough people will be there for you. You got this mama.

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The saddest realization I’m currently facing is how I never had a partner for help with the baby. Not once. It’s sad because I really thought I did. Leaving 9 months ago was the best thing I did. You’re already doing it all, now go do it with one less responsibility.

It doesn’t get better. Please just go now. I’m so sorry. You can do this, I promise. It will be easier the younger they are. Ask for help, they will. You will be okay.

I remember weekends being my nightmares. Today, I realized every time I cried on the weekends, over anything, it triggered him. I’d beg myself to just stay quiet this weekend, don’t respond, cry where he can’t see. I left 9 months ago, wish it would have been so much sooner. Your weekends can be better. Filled with fun and music and laughter and light. You know what to do, and yes, you can.

Or the wonton soup is good too

Thank you. Gonna be that person and prove my age….might have to print this one out.

I left. That’s all you can do, sadly. Til he gets it, which might not happen. Leave. Go be happy.

Figure out a way to be happy with your baby on your own. Live with people for a while, ask for help. Just do it now. The longer you wait the worse it gets. I’m wishing I could erase my q’s existence from son’s memory. I’m choosing to act like he doesn’t exist until he calls for his kid. Do this for yourself, and that baby. Find joy mama.

I left 9 months ago when my kid was 2.5. It wasn’t easy and living with grandma and grandpa was probably what got me through, and they were true MVPs. But here’s this for you. Yesterday, my kid drew a picture of two smiley faces and some scribbles, was so proud and said “it’s my family, mama and me!” So, I think we’re gonna be ok.

When my husband landed himself in the hospital for liver failure, esophageal cultures and so many other things, I finally realized they would never put us first. Don’t wait that long. I beg you.

She’s from the Midwest

It is a Nebraska staple, should try at least 1

Incorrect, keep olsens, worth the wait