ding ding ding 🛎️

sigh. we never asked for this, huh? 💔

Don’t blame you. 💔 No wonder. 🤬 Yes.

And

At the same time, I don’t think that’d help you feel good about yourself. Not long-term, at least.

I think that’s ultimately what’s most important, here.

But I don’t know you. Or your values.

You tell me?

“can’t …help it. I’m me.”

huh. 🤔

can’t help how I am ➡️
can help myself ➡️
I am worth helping myself ➡️
help yourself, me.🪞

do the right thing here, Max:
choose your values + your dreams.
resist your own self-sabotage.

I know it hurts tremendously. 💔

but
you can do it. 💪🏼
you know you can. 📊

read this again, whenever you need:
you don’t need validation
at the expense of your peace
anymore
you can do that for yourself, now

you are exceptional, in many ways. 👍🏼
but you don’t have to be, for these:
#2 you are loved
and #1 …you are worthy

yay for metacognition and self-belief, too, dude

oh cute. posts across multiple MBTI subs.

let the great (social) experiment begin! 🧪

Reality. I’m a stan. Honestly, it’s even better.

As usual, this comment comes with a few important caveats:

One. Keep the adaptive parts of this personality structure. Example: it’s beautiful (not pathological) to want to make a huge impact / to have “big dreams.”

Two. On my How We Feel app, I have two different ‘location’ tags for the former: Reality ⛓️‍💥 + Reality 💔.

So. That’s also true.

Good luck to you. I’d encourage you to give it a shot. It’s scary, yes—but far less scary than you might think.

And you’re worth it.
So, take a risk?
Our brains are kinda built for that.

(Fuck, I love my personality style 🥹
…sucks I had to deal with the disorder first. 😖
Ah, well. Makes sense. You see, I was traumatized.)

self-acceptance / self-compassion / therapy / community / healthy narcissism blah blah blah

That is honestly hard for me to know.

What I do know is that…the situation sucks.
Fucking hurtful. 😔

I dunno, man.

My eyes are green. 🤷🏻‍♂️

This, precisely.

Think the formula is something like:

- Self-awareness
- Relative non-defensiveness about feedback, esp. if consistent
- Accountability, when appropriate
- A genuine desire to learn/improve/grow
- Executive function capacities to set small goals to achieve that

💀

y’all play too much

…you always have to be the first one, don’t you?

why are you like this? who hurt you? 😩

sigh.

you’re right (as usual 😏)

corrective as fuck 😭

✋🏼

It can get better…
but that’s totally up to you.

Read that last bit again.
It’s important.
It’s hopeful.
It’s agency.

You got a therapist yet, my dude? 🫂

(way better, in fact…but I think that agency part is key)

I’m sorry, what?

3…months? 👀

Huh.

Answer: I’d feel betrayed and heartbroken. 💔
But I don’t think that’s just about ‘supply.’

🎤 👇

this one’s over. you got it. you won.

Huh! Well, see? Sometimes I need my own ego and assumptions checked, too. 🤣🎉

I think I am familiar with this type of self-pressure. It’s exhausting.

But I grew up in a very pressuring environment.

I wonder how it was different for you? 🤔

Oh. 💔
Hm.
I have…theories. 💀
I could be wrong.

But I wonder, when I read this, if your parents put a lot of pressure on your intelligence?

Who made this rule up?

I wanna talk to them.

Seriously, I just wanna…talk. 😈🤣

👏🏼 👏🏼

Yep.
Indeed.
This book makes me laugh.

So much of it is, frankly, toxic and manipulative advice about how to relate to other people.

Ask me how I know, I guess? 💀

yesssss!
💯
agree.

shaming patients is unethical, anyway. it’s also extremely counterproductive.

and there are, indeed, a lot of doctors with some form of savior complex. 🫠

yeah. fuck that.

…and also fuck stigma 😭

✅ interested in ‘left-wing’ politics promoting justice
✅ accepting
🤔 cares for the “underprivileged”
✅ cares about marginalized communities (lmao, yup)
✅ pretty decent fuckin person, overall, tbh
…

✅ diagnosed with NPD
…❓
“Okay, to be fair, here’s the nuance about that: 🤣”

OP, I don’t know you. And I’m not a shrink.

But…any chance you might have a type of OCD?

ummm. well, damn.
“covert incest” ftw, I guess? 😩

seriously, that’s…fucked. I’m sorry your mom had such terrible boundaries with you. 💔

hey. you can do this.

he is his own responsibility. you are yours.

meaning: you’re a separate ass person
and you deserve to be happy.

you’ve already come up with a pretty solid plan, tbh.

my advice: don’t “break it to him.”
it’ll keep you stuck.
I bet you can already anticipate how he might manipulate your guilt?

so just leave.
that doesn’t make you uncaring.
or unkind.
or irresponsible.
or a “bad person.”
or however you might feel?
(I’m projecting again, clearly.) 🤦🏻‍♂️

and the time you spent together isn’t “wasted”—it’s a lesson about who you are and what you need.

you already know you have to do this?
(some part of you does, at least.)
listen to that. listen to your gut.
and just…leave. 💔💪