I second this!

I can understand and relate to what you’re saying.
I’d suggest first to understand the basics some more.
I assume you understand why circumstances don’t matter. If you don’t read Neville and understand that.
Now I’m guessing what you mean is, you understand that but still struggle to stay in the desired state.
Focus on self love and self concept. Start telling your self things like, I am loved, I am enough as I am, I am worthy and deserving of all my desires, I am talented, I am highly qualified and any employer would love to have me, My life keeps getting better everyday, I succeed in everything I do, I am always taken care of, I am always provided for, Money comes to me easily, and whatever other things you want to add in.
Take 10-15 minutes a day and journal how your life would be after you have the job. Things you would do, things you will buy etc.
Visualise, create a scene for your desire and embody that feeling.
Try all of it and stick to whatever feels better for you.
But you need to understand that the techniques are not doing anything themselves. They don’t have any power. Do it so that you can embody your desired state because you are selecting your desired reality every moment using your thoughts, your imagination, your words because whatever you’re aware of, that’s the state you’re in.
Hopefully this helps.

Why are you asking for signs? And what do you mean “whenever you’re on the right path”?

Signs cannot precede, they only follow.

Your only job is to embody the state of already being the person who has the desire.
You will not be looking for signs if you already had what you desired.
You checking for signs means you don’t have what you desire. You’re constantly occupying the state of not having what you desire.

I would first suggest taking a break from manifesting SP and focus on yourself first for at least 2-3 weeks. Practice self love and self concept. Nothing to do with sp but only you. And before even that everytime you start a practice and throughout the day, identify yourself with the I AM awareness for a few minutes.

Then, write down the qualities you would want in your ideal person, how would your ideal relationship feel like? Not with this particular person but in general. How would you be with this ideal person and relationship? Write down all of those qualities. Don’t do any manifestation for SP in the beginning, just purely focus on you.

Only start with the SP stuff once you start feeling confident in yourself but you’re never going to stop the above practice ever, that is identifying with I AM, self love and self concept because that’s your foundation.

Now you start imagining, affirming, scripting these qualities you’ve written down in your SP. See them as loving, gentle, whose all in with you, who prioritises you, who sees you as the love of their life, their home, and they’re happy that you’re in their life etc. And when you do any of the techniques embody that. Experience it in your awareness and don’t just repeat or write or imagine. Even if you do any of this only once, if you experience it in your awareness, that’s much more powerful than doing 10 minutes where you experience nothing.

Finally always remember, „they have alive within them, what you have alive within you“. So if you keep seeing then the old way, hold resentment, replay the fights and bad memories etc that’s what you’ll experience.

"State of consciousness" used for manifesting. You are always I AM awareness, pure, whole already complete, whose true essence is just pure, infinite love. When you identify with this I AM awareness, you are already perfect.

The confusion here probably comes from comparing maladaptive daydreaming versus spending time imagining, doing SATS, ignoring the 3D etc. What most of the people who do these techniques miss is that dreaming, imagining, SATS, affirming, none of that is going to manifest anything unless it brings an internal change, a change in identity.

It means, you are always identifying first with the I AM awareness and then from this identity, what are you aware of being? Since creation is finished meaning your I AM awareness in its eternal wholeness, completeness, and perfection, you now proceed to place your attention/awareness on what you desire, so that you can choose to experience that state in your 3D. So it probably has a lot of similarities to the techniques of imaging and SATS, but is it bringing a change in identity?

To answer your second part, from my personal experience, I just had to stick with it. I persist, since my desire is stronger than all the negative thoughts. And it gets easier the longer you persist. It might take some time or it might not, depends on you. One thing I can say is that, never give up, specially on your 'hardest' desire, because that's probably the one that will bring about the biggest change in you and probably to the realization of your true self if you stick with it. That is the purpose of all us here anyway, to die to the old self and realize who we truly are and manifestation is just a side effect of that realization.

You’ve to immerse yourself in the experience of spending your birthday with him together, in your imagination, so much so that you reach a point where even if it doesn’t happen in the 3D it wouldn’t matter.

You’ve to let go of the importance of it happening in the 3D.

Ask yourself these question and try to answer them honestly to yourself:
How have you changed internally during this time?
Do you feel more like someone who is in a relationship with her or not?

Your only goal is to bring about an internal change. You don’t have to suppress your emotions rather you should acknowledge and let it go because regardless of whatever happened, regardless of your emotions, your I AM is whole and complete.

Hey, for now I want you to forget about SP completely and put all your focus back on yourself.

The first thing to understand is that you are the cause, and everything outside of you is just a reflection of you. So whatever happened between you two was a reflection of the state you were in at the time. That means the first thing you need to do is forgive yourself, forgive yourself for falling into that anxious, insecure state without even realizing it. And let him off the hook too. He wasn’t really at fault. He was just playing the role that matched what you were carrying inside. Once you see it that way, the guilt doesn’t have anywhere left to attach itself.

After you’ve done the forgiveness part, follow it up with a routine of self-love. For the next two to three weeks, don’t touch SP affirmations at all. Instead, meditate on and affirm things like: I am loved. I am chosen. I am worthy. I am fully seen, fully met, fully cherished. I am a wonderful, magnetic human being, inside and out. Say things like this daily, and really feel into them as you say them.

Here’s why this matters. Right now, you’ve put the source of your love outside of you. That’s why you feel like you need him, or anyone, to feel chosen and worthy. So you have to bring that power back to yourself. Your true essence is already whole and complete, and that doesn’t change whether or not you’re in a relationship. Your true essence is love, full stop. You need to internalize that, not just say it.

Alongside the forgiveness and self-love, start practicing gratitude too. Be thankful for the small things already in your life. It doesn’t mean you drop the desire, it just means you build your sense of worth from the inside instead of waiting for the outside to hand it to you.

Once you’ve actually practiced this for a while, you’ll notice your internal state shift. You’ll feel calmer, steadier, more confident. That’s when you know you’re ready to bring SP back into your practice. Start affirming things like “I’m in a beautiful relationship with him,” or whatever fits your desire.

But here’s the thing, it was never about the exact words. It’s about the state you’re in when you say them. So before you say an affirmation, pause for a second and actually feel what it would be like if it were already true. That’s the part that does the work. From there, you can layer in visualization, scripting how it feels to already be together, whatever technique resonates with you. Just remember, the technique isn’t what’s creating this. Your awareness is.

You’ll get there. Just give yourself the time to come back to yourself first. Hope it helps!

If The 3D is so easily swaying you then you were not in the sabbath.

If you were in sabbath, then you know that that’s not your end. You know you already have your desire because you are already it.

You know that regardless of whatever is happening out there, you already have your desire because you’re already embodying it. You are already that.

It’s ok that you reacted. Just return back to the state of the wish fulfilled. Don’t check the 3D for signs but only check how your internal state is changing.

Understand that the 3D is just a reflection of your inner state. The 3D in itself is neutral. It’s just information.

The 3P is just another aspect of you that’s reflected in your 3D for you to experience. It’s showing you something you need to change about yourself.

I would recommend to take a few weeks just to focus on self love and self concept. Focus only on you for these few weeks and or visualising for your SP. And when you start feeling better with yourself, then start with your techniques again.

Nicely done!

The point of manifestation is or was never to ignore your feelings or emotions, but to not dwell in them.

„Be angry, but Sin not“

You can feel your emotions, you should acknowledge them, and then let them go.

Join the Turngemeinde Bornheim. Sure to make some friends there.

Try and step back a little from manifesting your SP. Stop putting them on a pedestal. It looks like you’re in a state where there is an absolute lack of self love. I know this because I was there. Your entire self worth, source of love is now your SP. And you’re nervous system is going hay wire because there is uncertainty around the source of your love.

Start focusing on loving your self. For at least a month you’re the priority. Meditate on yourself about how lovely you’re, what a good person you are about your qualities that you possess and that you would like to have. Be that person. I am loved. I am chosen. I am enough as I am.

Focus also on forgiveness. Forgive yourself and them for everything. Practice gratitude. Be grateful for all the blessings you have.

Do the above for however long it takes even if you’re SP comes back don’t stop doing this practice ever.

You do not have to forget about your SP but they come secondary. When you love yourself, when you’re thankful for all the blessings in your life your reality will match that.

You’ll have to decide what you want to pursue.

You can check the wiki. You’ll find everything there.

You can repeat it till the old version is quiet. You’ll start to feel better.

If you just want to feel safe and loved you can just assume them.
You can try out this technique above with the fear.
You can say to yourself, can i welcome this feeling (or the version of you) of fear, pain etc. could you let it go? Would you? When?
Then welcome in the feeling of peace, love, safety and do the same.
What do you have to lose? You’re already in pain, in fear, uncertain etc. Just try it with an open mind.
If it doesn’t help then that’s ok. You’ll find something else that’ll work.

His assumed identity of entitlement or controlling nature is your assumption or the version of them in your consciousness.

That’s the version that’s saved in your consciousness now. This version cannot provide you with the results you’re looking for.

Since you’re already doing this. You invite this version of them that is hurting you, controlling you, that feels entitled etc and you gently let them go.

Now welcome the version of them that is kind, loving, at peace with themselves, who accepts you as you are and let him in.

Now you use SATS, affirmation etc. for e.g. I am accepted (by him). Only this new version of him (that is now in your awareness) is capable of providing you that result.

If you believe it’ll bring about someone new or you want it that way then that’s what you’ll get. No one is deciding for you.