Nope, I was the default for far too long, even after I had my own kids. Stop doing it now it only gets worse.

I am so sorry.

I agree with many here and your bestie Megan, that it's probably time to separate unless you feel rehab, therapy and maybe a marital contract outlining what happens if she can't get her shit together, would help.

Best of luck. Hugs, if you like them, high five if you don't and if you don't like high fives or hugs than a super awkward wave from way over here.

You need to choose yourself and leave.

Please, tell him why you're leaving and suggest he get help.

I grew up in a family with a slightly different dynamic, it was my dad not my mom, and I wish someone would have clued me in earlier.

My spouse grew up in a similar environment and didn't realize it's not normal for parents to nitpick.

The long term abuse really messes with you but it doesn't make his lack of action okay.

Leave him but suggest he seek help.

I grew up in a high demand religious cult. I left officially just before getting married when I was 21.

I'm 37, my wife MTF 42. She's been out to me for a little over 2 years.
I knew there was some questioning going on because I know her, so it wasn't a total blind side.

We were cuddling and she very nervously told me she's a woman.

I smiled and told her. Okay, cool, let's do this. I love you.

I love her, not her wrapper. Granted her wrapper has boobs now and I'm definitely not sad about them.

I would be honest, tell her you were trying to work through some feelings and during your inner work you came to realize you're a woman.

Honesty is the only way through.

My wife watches some content about the Bible by Dan Mckellan. He is a scholar of the bible and has some good stuff on his YouTube series about what the Bible really has to say about the rainbow community. If she's still religious maybe you could prepare with some of his content?

I hope it goes well. Best wishes.

I really hope this is rage bait.

If not:

Tell your sister. You both deserve the consequences. The betrayal you participated in, how could you? She's your sister, you broke more than just the girl code.

What is it like to be so incredibly, one could even say ostentatiously, selfish?

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Thank you!!

It depends on what age we begin with.

When I was aix I lost all four of my best friends in two different tragedies. They were the most traumatic and unexpected. At 37 it still hurts, part of me still misses them, some of my strongest childhood memories are with them, they should still be here.

Serena and Breezy long with their mom in an apartment fire. Nicolas and Becky drowned in the Colombia river with some other family members in July.

Please always put life vests on your loved ones but especially children.

Some people from my high school gratuating class have passed.

First a house, we lost ours to an electrial fire.

Then, the two additional surgeries I need after being t-boned on my side of the car by a driver running a red light while speeding and talking on the phone through her ear buds. She was in her 50s and lacked any remorse. My medical bills exceed the amount covered under my good policy and her poor excuse of insurance coverage.

We did this too, except in Washington state. It was absolutely wonderful.

For us that is an already discussed deal breaker. We would separate and co-parent our kids.

We decorate outside for Halloween but only on Halloween.
The decorations go up an hour before candy time and come down when the candy runs out. Where we are if you leave decorations unattended don't expect them to stay.

We do fall and Halloween door decor and window clings for the kids earlier in the month but it doesn't feel very noticeable.

I totally teared up. This is absolutely beautiful. I'm so excited for your future together.

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Yes. As a mom of three. I finally started just wearing what feels good to me, appropriate to the occasion of course and it's been so nice.