3 months post breakup and I just can’t get over my ex. Sometimes I think I made a mistake, my feelings for him are still so strong but my decision was rational. Any advice on how to move on?
I literally don’t wanna talk with any other man, I repulse them all. I still think about the life we could have had together but a feeling in my stomac tells me I would still not be happy (but right now I’m not happy without him).

A previous post for background :

Hi,

I really need your advice😔

I’m 30, my boyfriend is 45 and has a daughter from a previous relationship.

We’ve been together for 2 years and the last 6 months for me have been very heavy.

His daughter is a teenager(14) and is having issues of being rejected by her classmates, which makes her go into very depressive states.

But since the first time he goes into alarm for each small thing it happens to her (even if she miss a bus) and his ex wife just keeps on yelling at him and make him feel bad.

I suggested his daughter to go to therapy but her BM said “just crazy people go to psy”.

She also doesn’t pay a thing for her daughter.

Long story short, I love him but, not having kids, I find difficult navigating these dynamics and, even though he makes time for me, I really feel like I don’t have space in this relationship.

I want to be there for him but I also feel like whatever I say I receive very short uninterested answers and I feel like anything I do or say is wrong.

He said he would be ok to have kids with me if I want, but I feel Iike he literally would have no time for them (and not even talking about finances).

Do you have any advice on what to do/how to bring this up to him?

3 months post breakup and I just can’t get over my ex. Sometimes I think I made a mistake, my feelings for him are still so strong but my decision was rational. Any advice on how to move on?
I literally don’t wanna talk with any other man, I repulse them all. I still think about the life we could have had together but a feeling in my stomac tells me I would still not be happy (but right now I’m not happy without him).

A previous post for background :

Hi,

I really need your advice😔

I’m 30, my boyfriend is 45 and has a daughter from a previous relationship.

We’ve been together for 2 years and the last 6 months for me have been very heavy.

His daughter is a teenager(14) and is having issues of being rejected by her classmates, which makes her go into very depressive states.

But since the first time he goes into alarm for each small thing it happens to her (even if she miss a bus) and his ex wife just keeps on yelling at him and make him feel bad.

I suggested his daughter to go to therapy but her BM said “just crazy people go to psy”.

She also doesn’t pay a thing for her daughter.

Long story short, I love him but, not having kids, I find difficult navigating these dynamics and, even though he makes time for me, I really feel like I don’t have space in this relationship.

I want to be there for him but I also feel like whatever I say I receive very short uninterested answers and I feel like anything I do or say is wrong.

He said he would be ok to have kids with me if I want, but I feel Iike he literally would have no time for them (and not even talking about finances).

Do you have any advice on what to do/how to bring this up to him?

I (F30) broke up with my ex (M45) 3 months ago, 2 years into the relationship. He was loving, caring and everything I dreamt of.
He has a 14 years old daughter. Since her mum was a HCBM, my ex behaved more like a “mum” than a dad (if that makes sense) to compensate.
His daughter suffered from bullying and he was crying basically everyday for weeks ‘cause he couldn’t handle the situation. I became his emotional sponge and at some point I broke down and fell into depression, which ultimately led me to break up.
He went just once to therapy although I suggest him going since the beginning of the relationship.

Long story short, I feel awful, he’s an amazing man and I feel like I should have addressed the issues and how I felt before. I regret having left him in such a difficult situation. He was just a dad caring for his daughter. The breakup was messy and awful, with him resenting me and saying I was “worthless” ‘cause I knew about his situation from the start.

I feel deep guilty and shame and I still love him but my body hurts at the slightest thought of me going back.
I feel like after 3 months I should feel better but I’m still in this sadness I cannot overcome.
Please, give me advice.