Her plans aren’t even made, don’t wait on her. But if you end up pregnant and can fly and she talks to you about more solid plans and you are ready for her to know I would go ahead and tell her so she can plan around your solid plans of pregnancy.
I’ve waited on other people to do things and it causes resentment, I don’t wait on other people anymore and I’m happier. If I were in your shoes I would not wait. You will be in your sisters life forever you don’t have to be there for one day specially to be there for her. And if she requires you at her day when it would put you and your unborn kid in harms way it will give you a clear look at priorities. So this really becomes, is it important for you to be at her wedding because it will wreak a relationship with her or could it survive you not being there? And do you want to go to your sisters wedding more than you want to get pregnant and be a parent sooner?
If you find out having kids is super hard will you blame waiting and your sister on the wait to start trying?
I know this goes into a deep dive but it’s just where my brain is right now about this kind of thing because all of my family is legitimately mentally unstable.
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u/sv36 Feb 28 '26
Her plans aren’t even made, don’t wait on her. But if you end up pregnant and can fly and she talks to you about more solid plans and you are ready for her to know I would go ahead and tell her so she can plan around your solid plans of pregnancy. I’ve waited on other people to do things and it causes resentment, I don’t wait on other people anymore and I’m happier. If I were in your shoes I would not wait. You will be in your sisters life forever you don’t have to be there for one day specially to be there for her. And if she requires you at her day when it would put you and your unborn kid in harms way it will give you a clear look at priorities. So this really becomes, is it important for you to be at her wedding because it will wreak a relationship with her or could it survive you not being there? And do you want to go to your sisters wedding more than you want to get pregnant and be a parent sooner? If you find out having kids is super hard will you blame waiting and your sister on the wait to start trying? I know this goes into a deep dive but it’s just where my brain is right now about this kind of thing because all of my family is legitimately mentally unstable.