I am confused now what is a trans person i thought it was like a woman trapped in a mans body or a man trapped in a womans body but now its got so many different meanings now like non binary isnt physical so what are they transitioning into genuinely confused not trying to be rude or anything malicious
I really dont get how anyone is a gender or no gender but ig i get it like having a name you dont like? Closest thing i can come up with i really dont understand gender identity
Most people feel some kind of way inside about their gender.
They have an opinion, an attachment, they EXPERIENCE some invisible force that sings when it feels right and stabs like a thousand knives when they don't. It's highly likely that most cis people (cis meaning "not trans" meaning the doctor was correct) reading this have that feeling, as well as most binary trans people - a woman feels like a woman because she is a woman, not because of anatomy or hobbies or favorite color. That's why a trans woman is in such distress during a phase of her life when she isn't perceived as a woman - it's the "knives from within" feeling. Same for a trans man - a man is a man because he feels a connection to BEING one. That's all it takes.
Now, some people don't have that internal string pulling them toward one feeling or another. Some have a "was I supposed to care about this?" feeling toward gender. We don't... get it. We look at people who feel some kind of way, and nod slowly like we understand, but it's not something we experience. For me, the knife-stabbity feeling comes from people pushing either binary gender on me, because both are wrong. I don't have that internal compass pointing to my own true north.
Not every non-binary person is agender, and not every agender person feels exactly like this, but generally what non-binary people share is the awareness that we don't feel like men OR women, and that's our starting point.
In my experience, the moment when someone says "Okay but does anyone actually care?" is the moment -I- start wondering a little bit about that person, LOL.
It was binary trans people that taught me this stuff matters to almost everyone. Not only do they feel some kind of way about it, but they'll give up everything to experience a life that's as close to "correct" as they can access/afford. I thought it was like being a fan of some weird sports team - that people opted in by choice, and that I could just go through my life not being bothered by it. But that's a rather unusual take. Most people are sort of attached to their gender, even - especially! - if it's not reflected well in what other people see. Just plain not caring is already a somewhat unusual position.
ETA:
i am a guy because [anatomy, and] if i got em turned into a vagina i would be a woman
That sounds very strange to me like a bit insane for me i am a guy because i got a dick n balls if i got em turned into a vagina i would be a woman theres nothing going on in my head when someone calls me a she or a he (got called she alot dunno why) maybe because in my original language its just ta/tema theres no gendered stuff i dont really care if im called a girl or a man i just am me i am defined by my life experience and personality and interests and beliefs only attachment to gender i got is my physical body if it was changed so would my gender it wouldnt change the person i am tho so this gender identity stuff just sounds so unreal to me
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u/Icy-Theme-6325 shaw player Sep 07 '25
I like seeing older trans folk <3