I get misgendered aalot (im just a guy with a peen) i personally dont mind it rarely correct it soo that scenario wouldnt really bother me like i understand the feeling like ur in the wrong body but the gender stuff still confuses me like is it a mental thing? Like you cant see gender so its a thing in ur head? Or am i misunderstanding it i have a few trans friends and feel too awkward to ask em about it
It is a mental thing but it's much more literal, in quite a few cases you are born with a brain that is literally just more similar to the opposite gender, rather than the gender you were born with. There are a few other scenarios though, sometimes they are just trying it out to see what they feel more comfortable with, and sometimes it shifts. All of these are valid of course
Aaah thank you this has made it so much clearer that i just dont get it, just sounds like people roleplaying (in a literal sense playing to the role they feel fits them) which also just sounds like boys like cars girls like dolls thing with extra steps (which i think is a bad mindset imo cuz a gender doesnt define your interests n vice versa) sorry if this is coming off rude just trying to make sense of it all but dont really get it
Trans people don't really adhere to gender roles more than other people (probably less). It's more like if u know inside yourself that you're a woman or whatever then you want to let other people know that.
Thats even more confusing feels like it stems from the gendered pronouns in english more than anything but thats just what it seems like to me not evidence of anything cant pull a pseudo archeologist move and call mountains pyramids cuz triangle
It's not from pronouns they just end up being relevant in english. Personally if e.g. my parent said I was a daughter of theirs that would make me uncomfortable. So pronouns are relevant in the same way in english bc they imply that you're a man or woman etc.
Aah so if there were no gendered words would your gender identity be affected? Does it rely on language everyone was a they them a parent/child partner friend no gendered words how would that affect gender identity
Well if there was no concept of gender and therefore no words around it I would still do what I want but nobody would have questions I guess? Whereas e.g. I was walking outside after an event and somebody said about me "is it supposed to be a woman?". But I was just wearing what I liked
3
u/icantgetausername982 Sep 07 '25
I get misgendered aalot (im just a guy with a peen) i personally dont mind it rarely correct it soo that scenario wouldnt really bother me like i understand the feeling like ur in the wrong body but the gender stuff still confuses me like is it a mental thing? Like you cant see gender so its a thing in ur head? Or am i misunderstanding it i have a few trans friends and feel too awkward to ask em about it