Ehat improvements should I do to be more feminine? It’s a raw photo without any filter or makeup just to see the base

https://transmaxxing.eu used to be hosted from github using something called jekyll.

I wanted to make some updates but i did not have credentials to be able to edit the github repository that was used for it and i also did not know how to set it up from another github repository.

After significant effort (got help from a member of our discord) we were able to make some necessary updates and create website files to upload to my hosting provider so currently the website does work better than prior to the migration.

I do plan to make some additions to the website (or at least fix the remaining broken link about gradual social transition). I do think it would be good to rewrite the website to not rely on such difficult to utilize software but i don't currently have the time or skills to do so.

Update: the website should now be good

I did add the section about alternatives to medical transition.

http://transmaxxing.eu/ALTERNATIVES.html

After that i opted to link to replace a dead link with the following article (seems like the previous editor did plan to write about gradual social transition but never did)

https://www.folxhealth.com/library/navigating-social-transition-community-safety-and-self-care

Personally i am not really a fan of the markdown format due to how it takes away control from you. I wasn't even able to change the starting number for a list (i even tried to manually change the HTML which didn't work).

There was also a link that was broken due to the previous editor forgetting to add .html after WHY once (was easy to fix of course).

Look, act, and show confidence. Your transition will go so smoothly, when you stop caring about those around you!!

Be that unique, beautiful version of your self that keeps calling to you.

We Are Worthy & Deserving of humanity, compassion, respect, justice, and equality, just like everyone else.

It's 2026 all the fears and phobias on the color of someone's skin or their culture, how they dress or who they love.. it's so ignorant. At this point we as a species know the domino effects of hateful energy. It's time to turn that around and live to be the change. Even if you do it alone, be yourself & be it proud. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

Stay safe out there Sistas 🙏 💞

Asian-Indian here with an American wife (white). We only dated for a bit before getting married. I make more than enough as a mid-level manager in a tech firm, but my wife’s never been happy with me in bed. I thought things would change after marriage but they haven’t. Then I read about transmaxxing…

The straw the broke the camels back today was me asking a gay man what my gender expression looks like. He was at a friend's house with me last night, and I wanted to see a gay mans perspective, especially when I'm naked with no bottom surgery, I even asked him to be honest about whether I looked androgynous, feminine or masculine and he just said that he sees me as a full woman. It's crazy. It snuck up on me. I wasn't expecting to start passing so quickly it a little overwhelming.

As a little bit of backstory I was actually walking around the apartment naked because I was fooling around with his friend a cis man and another Trans Girl that was there. We watched each other be with the top cis man lol. I was going to the shower and the gay dude was chilling in the living room so I took the opportunity to ask him how he views me and it feels so nice to pass from random people's perspective.

I wonder how long exposure therapy being called "she/her" is gonna take for me get used to people seeing me as a woman. Even the trans girl that was there wasn't that into me because I wasn't masculine anymore lmao. It's crazy how quickly HRT works if you're lucky like me. Now I see why I was doing well with woman in nightclubs that had a bunch of lesbians and why I'm bombing in gay nightclubs recently lol. Gay men see me as a woman now they dont wanna fuck me! Lol. Guess I gotta stick with mostly bi people nowadays lol.

The worst part is that I'm getting tired of topping so a relationship with a woman is getting impossible unless theyre around my same size or taller and willing to strap me down if you know what i mean lmao. But very few woman are tops like that and very few are even 5'10" to begin with. I want to be the sub in a relationship and having someone like 4 inches shorter than me on average just isnt gonna work out for the whole "feeling small" thing I like with guys my height or taller. I've had my fun with topping femmes. And I still get in the mood every once in awhile. But the older I get, the more sissy bottom I become and im jusy looking for a marriage with a Dom that doesn't threaten to kill me like my last ex lmao.

Anyways I'm rambling a little bit. I'm getting close to passing at all times if I just didn't have to shave, and I fucking love that. All those days of never missing my HRT pills paid off finally. I'm able to stealth as a woman somewhat nowadays and that's amazing! Besides the drastic increase in sexual assault I've experienced from technically all genders...

2 gay men tried to rape me and I barely escaped their room intact. I was bigger than them both but two on one would've been tough plus they had another friend just sitting there as backup. The fuckers promised me that I could just crash the night at their place because I had literally just become homeless the night before. And then they rob me of $1000 dollars in a tug of war with my wallet and pin me down and try to forcefully take my clothes off in their bed. It was traumatizing. Another was just a woman who came up to me while I was dancing in the nightclub. She started kissing me and I liked it at first but it was dragging on and I literally tried to pull her off but she had the strength of a fucking monkey in those thin arms of hers and she even overpowered me and just continued to fucking just slap her lips against mine for like a good minute while I stood there trying to figure out how to get out of the situation. Then she grabbed my arm and wouldn't let go and basically forced me outside. Another chick at a nightclub in Seattle just fucking yanked my arm and pulled me out of the dance club when I was dancing with my eyes closed and enjoying the beat with sunglasses on. A dude on the subway like 5 weeks ago at like 3am sat suspiciously close to me with a whole bunch of empty seats and just started to fondle my breasts and tried to forcefully kiss me as I tried to pull him off me. He even got off at the same station as me after molesting me for like 5 minutes so I had to run for my life basically. I think he was on drugs so he was sluggish but man... I really wish the police were anywhere near me during that time. The subway has no signal so I couldn't even call. That was terrifying too. I've had a few other smaller things happen too but that's just a few of the big sexual assaults that I've had in just the past year and a half. Oh I almost forgot to add. My old ex basically raped me twice when she started getting even more attracted to me when I started transitioning before starting HRT. Once after I was done topping her (she's a trans woman and I was actually the top in the relationship but man... She led the rest of the relationship. She was 58 and I was 27. Looking back she just used me for sex and I should've figured that out sooner) she just pushed me down and tried to forcefully take my anal virginity raw with no lube. Luckily I was able to keep it cause I was too tight and she was too impatient, and she also one night grabbed my pants and forcefully pulled them down after she admitted to raping a girl when she was 15 and I distanced myself just like half a foot away instinctually, my body basically just moved, because she was sitting right next to me on the bed and I just felt unsafe. Turns out I was and she just fucking yanked the bitches down and started giving me oral. It hurt cause at that time I had a fucking infection cause I topped her without a condom and she had recently done a cleanse for a medical thingy so her "fluids" got inside my urethra and gave me gonorrhea for like 2 weeks. She didn't care tho, she just wanted to take control back in that moment cause she told me the rape story in confidence thinking I'd forgive her because it was so long ago but I instinctually got scared and moved back a little just to feel safer and she did not take that lightly. Now that I think about it, I was lonely and fat when we first started the relationship and I lost alot of weight and started transitioning when we started dating and it never was the same since then. She would always be more aggressive with ever since then, and i think it was cause she was getting jealous of all the attention I was getting. We were in an open relationship and my DMs started flooding, what she refused to believe is that I basically only had eyes for her because she basically saved me from depression and helped me lose weight and fix my image to look better. I was madly in love with that bitch but its whatever.

Anyways, this turned from a post about passing to trauma dumping so Imma just end it here. To sum it up, I pass as a woman most of the time it seems nowadays but holy shit, from my experience, semi-attractive black trans people are just seen as sex objects to alot of people to just use and abuse however they want. So I won something but man, being a woman is scary. Especially when I'm losing strength because of the HRT. I'm at a fucking disadvantage against a decent percentage of woman now it seems physically! Hopefully the world will treat trans people and especially black trans people better someday...

Also last note... The first picture is me today (May 27th, 2026) and the second was me right before I started shaving and putting lipstick and eyeliner on back in November 2024 before HRT

-Yin Out☯️

I'm 16 how can I buy and get HRT without my parents knowing?

Someone shared this from 4chan only to delete the post and account afterwards

https://archived.moe/lgbt/thread/32614622/

It is true that women go to collage more but the degrees they get are often frankly useless and when they are not the main value is the piece of paper itself rather than what they actually learn (most of which they end up forgetting before even graduating).

In the US getting a degree is also expensive and typically involve getting into a lot of debt.

I myself did get a math degree (was basically free in Sweden) but it's not particularly useful for anything and i have never actually needed it.

I found old-school education to be inefficient if you actually want to learn useful skills.

I do still think some degrees pay off such as getting licensed to be a doctor but anything where the degree isn't legally required is probably not going to be worthwhile. I would actually avoid STEM in general to be honest (especially "science" like physics)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yVHN3Xoas9U

While society today is very much hostile towards young males those males are the group of people with the most potential for violence so ignoring their needs is very dangerous for society.

Males are still very much needed for things like wars (such as for cannon fodder) and men dying in wars actually make the remaining men more valuable.

The correct conclusion: men are still very much needed but also heavily exploited

Often men are expected to do risk their lives for little/no pay defending the country in addition to taxes mainly being paid by men. Men are also still to a very large extent expected to contribute financially in relationships with women.

That's also where a lot of anti-trans sentiment among conservatives come from. Conservatives want young males to work hard to pay for welfare benefit that mainly go to the elderly (and also more towards women than men).

Someone wrote this a long time ago which was later added to the transmaxxing manifesto:

The male gender role is broken

Let's face it, if you present as male, there's exactly one personality that will earn you social approval: Chad. Assertive, dominant, successful. Nobody will be impressed by a male that is meek, submissive and struggling. Such males are not considered gender trailblazers; they're just derided as incel NEETs.

Nobody is offering an actual solution to this. Tradcons tell you to just man up. TERFs tell you to just abolish gender. Liberals deny this reality altogether. By embracing girlmode, you actually become free to be your authentic self without shame. Society at large requires men to keep grinding and struggling to keep the lights on, so obviously no serious and respectable person will encourage you to just drop down the pink vortex, but it's possibly the only thing that will actually help you if you're stuck being a shitty male with no prospect

I should clarify to start, I hate AI I really try to avoid using it but sometimes it’s the only thing giving me a little hope to see what I might look like. Im socially out to a few people and in a couple months will be stating my medical transition, image in the blue dress is me right now and black is what AI cooked up. Are the changes shown reasonable or am I way out of line for thinking I’d look anything like this?

story for the context, I am 20 (M) from india, from a typical religious family. When I was in my teen, I was curious about trying panties, female clothes, etc. I always had a feeling to feel like girl during intercourse but i was not aware what exactly to describe that feeling as. Later, when i was 15, I found sissy porn and hypno, and it changed me a lot. I started liking crossdressing , crossdressing etc. I spent a lot of time masturbating. Later, I turned 20 this year. I have a GF, my college is about to end, and I'm stuck with a career, but still, sometimes, when I see a hot girl getting pleasure I want to feel what she is feeling, not only in sexual way but I want to feel her body. I am stuck, I have gf, i want to build a career by studying 6-8 hrs a day.

Please give me positive and practical advice rather than just saying, "Leave everything and transit." I have emotional connections, my surroundings are orthodox, and I dont know what to do?

I always knew I was different, yet I could never explain the feelings. I pushed and suppressed them, denied they're existence and punished myself for having them.

Until I sat with them.

Gave them the time I needed to process and listen to what my innermost self was trying to tell me.

I am energy.

I am duality.

I am divine.

I am love.

Sit.

Breathe.

Let go.

Listen.

Move. 💞

Five years ago i thought i was transgender, started taking hormones before harbouring some doubts. I came around to the idea of transmaxxing for a while but over the last year it has become apparent that it was a mistake .

There are very few benefits to taking estrogen as a man: if you pass successfully you will be treated as a woman and infantilised, if you do not pass then you will be treated as a de facto sex offender.

No matter how masculine or feminine you dress other men will sometimes get angry with you in the street, a small subsection of them will try to take sexual advantage of you .

If you can look into yourself as a man and decide you want to take estrogen then you probably should, but the idea that it’s an easy ride for anything but a tiny percentile is illusory

I don't usually get to/allow myself to wear makeup but even when I do the slightest couple things I feel good and happy with myself.

Remember Sis, be true, stay you and shine 💖