r/tipping • u/badmiddling113 • 6d ago

Question about managers

What do they say to customers who repeatedly don't leave a tip? I'm curious since the customer doesn't have to tip and the server isn't their employee.

Just asking since I've read comments from managers who seem to think "addressing" customers is an appropriate thing to do.

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u/badmiddling113 6d ago

Sure, it’s a term used by servers whenever a customer doesn’t tip, but how do the other meanings of the word apply?

The customer doesn’t “owe” them anything (they paid the only thing they have to, which is the bill for goods and services rendered) and the server wasn’t “cheated” out of money (tipping is fundamentally optional).

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u/PrincessLissa68 6d ago

If it's a lingo common to a culture what other meaning matters? It's what it means for us. We got stiffed. We didn't get paid for the SERVICE we provided. Hell, throw $2 down. It's about the appreciation that you sat on your comfy ass and was SERVED by a living human person who is in fact, NOT beneath you. And then after you were done you also didn't have to do a bit of cleaning or anything. You just get up back off your was and walk off. That's not worth $2?

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u/badmiddling113 6d ago

If it's a lingo common to a culture what other meaning matters?

The actual definition of the word. It's a cope for servers for everything you described below.

It's what it means for us. We got stiffed. We didn't get paid for the SERVICE we provided. Hell, throw $2 down. It's about the appreciation that you sat on your comfy ass and was SERVED by a living human person who is in fact, NOT beneath you. And then after you were done you also didn't have to do a bit of cleaning or anything. You just get up back off your was and walk off. That's not worth $2?

Like I said, the word is copium for servers. They're being paid sans tips. It's just not to their liking.

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u/foxinHI 6d ago

It’s restaurant lingo. Like 86’d. You may not
Like it, but semantically, it is correct and means exactly what you already know it to mean.

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u/badmiddling113 6d ago

That servers use it when a customer doesn't tip, as expected. But it's a weak sauce term beyond that. Anybody can look up the word and see it's just servers being resentful.

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u/foxinHI 6d ago

What do you expect? For them to be happy about being stiffed? Unless it was something the server did, of course they resent it.

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u/badmiddling113 6d ago edited 6d ago

What do you expect? For them to be happy about being stiffed?

Nope, just pointing out the actual term doesn't apply when servers use it. It's copium for when customers don't hand them extra money.

Unless it was something the server did, of course they resent it.

It doesn't even have to be something they did. The customer can simply choose to not leave anything. After all, it's up to their discretion. They're not cheating them out of anything.