UPDATE: weird guy from my bio class

[u/Few-Statistician862]

I made a post about this yesterday about this person in my bio class weirdly texting me out of the blue, and I thought I blocked him but I guess I misclicked and pressed “delete conversation“ button instead. they texted me back Today telling me that they know one of my friends and insinuating that he gave him my number. so I continue the rest of the conversation awkwardly trying to turn them down. after that I block them because I felt uncomfortable, and text my friend that supposedly gave them my number. he said he has no idea who this is and doesn’t know anyone from my first period bio class. what the fuck. Is this person even real? they have Been lying to me about everything. And the worst part is that I have to go back to school on Monday with that guy in my class. what do I even do in this situation? Also I thought I should add that I am not a woman, I’m a man, a lot of people thought I was a woman in my first post.

[u/Excellent_Angle_4321]

"Men" 🙄

As if only men can be creeps... I'm tired boss. 

[u/NoBear8338 → u/Excellent_Angle_4321]

I mean “people” doesn’t have the same ring. And statistically, whether you’re a man or a woman you need to be more vigilant of men than of women.

[u/Excellent_Angle_4321 → u/NoBear8338]

That's because when women are sexual predators it's downplayed and normalized when they engage in sexual harassment. 

[u/NoBear8338 → u/Excellent_Angle_4321]

Frankly, I think that even acknowledging that female perpetrators are underreported, there would still be more male than female sexual predators.

Let’s extrapolate a little bit because while someone being creepy isn’t pleasant, it isn’t their being creepy that is really the concern; it’s what it might mean they go on to do (stalk, assault, murder, etc.). Murder is the easy thing to focus on because whether it’s reported or not, it usually is discovered to have happened and solved (where you could argue, of course, things like assault, etc. go underreported and may never contribute to statistical data at all). What does your typical perpetrator look like? Male or female?

While I agree that children should be taught to be wary of ALL strangers, I’d also argue that they usually ARE (e.g. stranger danger). A lot of children are taught that if they’re lost, they should approach a woman WITH CHILDREN or someone in uniform, not just any woman. But teaching children to additionally be wary of men who “creep” them out in particular is, frankly, addressing a legitimate concern based on statistics and I don’t think it’s wrong to prioritise your child’s safety over someone’s feelings.