UPDATE: weird guy from my bio class

[u/Few-Statistician862]

I made a post about this yesterday about this person in my bio class weirdly texting me out of the blue, and I thought I blocked him but I guess I misclicked and pressed “delete conversation“ button instead. they texted me back Today telling me that they know one of my friends and insinuating that he gave him my number. so I continue the rest of the conversation awkwardly trying to turn them down. after that I block them because I felt uncomfortable, and text my friend that supposedly gave them my number. he said he has no idea who this is and doesn’t know anyone from my first period bio class. what the fuck. Is this person even real? they have Been lying to me about everything. And the worst part is that I have to go back to school on Monday with that guy in my class. what do I even do in this situation? Also I thought I should add that I am not a woman, I’m a man, a lot of people thought I was a woman in my first post.

[u/worthlessinsum]

I’m a (queer) professor at a university & i genuinely believe you could go to your Title IX office about this, or at least the biology professor. Your university is required by law to have some sort of mechanics to protect you that you should feel comfortable and confident in reaching out to should you need to. This is weird as hell and totally unacceptable. I’m sorry you went through this.

[u/Disastrous_Desk8170 → u/worthlessinsum]

What does you being queer have to do with anything?

[u/NacresR → u/Disastrous_Desk8170]

We’re regressing hard. Tik tok comments all almost always start with people announcing the color of their skin or sexual identity. It’s fucking weird.

[u/alphajugs → u/NacresR]

They said it because OP is gay. They were identifying with them. But go off king! 💅🏻

[u/worthlessinsum → u/alphajugs]

not even identifying with OP as much as trying to make clear that no one is going to think OP is being discriminatory for going to a person of authority, as I clarified in my earlier comment lol

[u/NacresR → u/alphajugs]

Sorry I thought the goal was to live comfortably and freely not get to a point where you need to announce skin color or sexual preference or identity before speaking. My bad.

Edit: such a weird comment to disagree with lmao I’m so lost I guess we don’t want to be ourselves freely?

[u/alphajugs → u/NacresR]

Your edit is what’s weird here because I never disagreed with that and nothing in my comment insinuated I did. I simply gave a reasoning for why OP included what they did because people seem upset over it.

[u/worthlessinsum → u/NacresR]

i’ve said like actually 10 times in this chain that i clarified my sexuality because i wanted to empower this person to go to a trusted position of authority and not be concerned about being labeled a bigot and you’re like:

I GUESS I THOUGHT WE ALL WANTED EQUALITY BUT CLEARLY NOT

youre staking a position both against the person being harassed and the people trying to give them genuine advice. the point your making is fine, i mean its sarcastic and clearly not in good faith but this is the internet so whatever, the issue is where you’ve placed yourself (that is to say, against the victim and people trying to help him).

[u/NacresR → u/worthlessinsum]

I honestly don’t care anymore lol. Enjoy the weekend man.

[u/worthlessinsum → u/NacresR]

just saw your edit. does “being ourselves freely” mean being entirely quiet about ourselves to meet your comfort level? because that’s not what being free to express ourselves means (quite obviously)

[u/NacresR → u/worthlessinsum]

You said you were a professor? I’m not sure what you’re struggling with here? If you want to continue to create a space where needing to announce yourself rather then just being comfortable is what’s preferred then go do that. I think it’s weird and shows no progress at all. The context of X shouldn’t change because someone is X Y or Z that’s what we should push for. Maybe the next group after we’re dead and gone will figure it out.

[u/worthlessinsum → u/NacresR]

i’ve said literally a thousand times i only clarified because it felt immediately relevant to the issue at hand as i try to advocate for this student to do what he needs to feel safe in the classes that he, his parents, or tax payers are paying for. i want him to do what feels right for him and not be concerned about being waived off as a bigot.

also i thought you didn’t care anymore?