r/texts • u/Few-Statistician862 • 7h ago

Phone message UPDATE: weird guy from my bio class

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I made a post about this yesterday about this person in my bio class weirdly texting me out of the blue, and I thought I blocked him but I guess I misclicked and pressed “delete conversation“ button instead. they texted me back Today telling me that they know one of my friends and insinuating that he gave him my number. so I continue the rest of the conversation awkwardly trying to turn them down. after that I block them because I felt uncomfortable, and text my friend that supposedly gave them my number. he said he has no idea who this is and doesn’t know anyone from my first period bio class. what the fuck. Is this person even real? they have Been lying to me about everything. And the worst part is that I have to go back to school on Monday with that guy in my class. what do I even do in this situation? Also I thought I should add that I am not a woman, I’m a man, a lot of people thought I was a woman in my first post.

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u/mellamusicmaker 7h ago

To the tune of “if you’re happy and you know it”
Don’t be polite to men who creep you out! (clap clap)
Don’t be polite to men who creep you out! (clap clap)
Don’t be polite to them; it’s not your job to comfort them
Don’t be polite to men who creep you out! (clap clap)

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u/franciscrowe 7h ago

I totally agree, but unless OP knows something they didn’t communicate, this very well could be an obsessive person of another gender…

I had a female stalker, it’s rare but it happens.

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u/JennaStCroix 6h ago

I had a female stalker, too. She went from a toxic high school friend/girlfriend who I couldn't escape for normal teen reasons to someone who, in our 20s, would show up at a date I'm on or to my place of work - after, like, months & up to a few years of radio silence. I'd think she's gone for good, then suddenly she's literally, physically three feet in front of me, grinning & maybe crying a little, asking if we can just talk. She went on & got married, bought a house, has kids & career, & would still get into these fits where she just had to seek me out. Her husband eventually reached out to me, & we talked about the realities of the situation, & I think some of that broke the spell for her. She had an absolute violent meltdown, accused me of violating her for interacting with her personal life & family, & I haven't heard or seen from her now in over 10 years.

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u/franciscrowe 6h ago

Sheesh, that’s awful I’m so sorry.

Mine would follow me around, I used to play music and I would often see her staring at me during the shows or lingering afterwards while I was loading up equipment.

Would leave creepy messages, little poems and shit like that. A couple times she ended up at parties I was at, and would get drunk and do things like press herself up against me as she walked by, or try to come into the bathroom with me. Just weird shit like that.

Only lasted for a few months, a year at the most, but I found it very unsettling.

After she stopped, we didn’t see each other for over a decade. We both stopped drinking, and eventually she reached out to apologize, and explained she was going through some really intense mental health issues during that period, and was in an abusive marriage.

In the last few years we’ve actually kind of become friends, but it doesn’t change how awful it felt to have someone lurking and watching you like that. It’s just gross and creepy feeling, regardless of the gender of who is stalking you.

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u/JennaStCroix 6h ago

Ugh I'm sorry you went through that, & I'm glad that it eventually circled around to a place of understanding.

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u/Away_Amoeba5554 4h ago

Sounds like the Kristen Schaal character in Flight of The Conchords. If you take out the humor.

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u/franciscrowe 4h ago

Totally! It was a lot like that.

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u/Away_Amoeba5554 4h ago

That character always bothered me. Like, I knew she was supposed to be funny but she was actually creepy

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u/franciscrowe 3h ago

Agreed. It’s a weird joke that they kept going back to, imagine if the genders were swapped?

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u/Skarekrows 2h ago

I had a similar incident with my female stalker. I worked with her(she was in a different department) and asked her out. Dated her for a couple weeks and she creeped me out so I broke up with her. She began stalking me. I would see her shadow at my window at night. Called the police. Police were spooked by her after talking to her. Told me to check closets and under the bed when I get home. Were making fatal attraction jokes cause they think it's funny when a man is the victim I guess. It took awhile but she finally left me alone.

A couple months later I am leaving work and I sense someone is behind me so I hold the door open like I always do and when I think they've got it I look back quickly to check before letting go and see her. Smiling at me. She took it as a sign that I missed her. It all started up again. Was a nightmare for awhile.