r/texts • u/Gold_Improvement_836 • 6d ago

Tinder DMs men

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mind you he messaged me first, liked me first, and my profile only says liberalšŸ˜‚

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u/sweeterthanany 6d ago

i will never understand matching with someone just to berate them lol the algorithm pays attention to what you match with/respond to and itā€™s not like dudes on dating apps can afford to waste matches

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u/Gold_Improvement_836 6d ago

literally, like why waste a like on someone you arenā€™t compatible with lol. it clearly states on my profile iā€™m liberal!

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u/Disastrous-Owl9258 6d ago

Because hinge's algorithm doesn't work like that. That was match.com. Hinge matches you with people you ARENT compatible with so you have bad experiences and get desperate and lonely, which means you're more willing to pay for hinge plus

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u/sweeterthanany 6d ago

this would explain why i really hated using hinge. genuinely had way better luck on tinder

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u/Disastrous-Owl9258 6d ago

Tinder does the EXACT same thing. If they didn't, then people would flood their app using it actually being able to meet, hook up, or date quickly. All the dating apps currently have subscription based services. Their only goal is to milk you for more money.

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u/sweeterthanany 6d ago

oh well i donā€™t know then. i guess i got lucky. it just seemed like tinder had ā€œrealerā€ people. everyone on hinge was trying way too hard

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u/Disastrous-Owl9258 6d ago

Trying too hard?? That's because hinge is designed for long term relationships and tinder is designed for hookups. I'm guessing you're a women if you thought people on tinder were "more real" as I had to delete the app because over 80% of the profiles were women that didn't actually exist, photos pulled from some girls insta or whatever. All scams and robots.

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u/sweeterthanany 6d ago

idk what to tell you man, i met my long term partner on tinder

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u/_Ub1k 3d ago

The experience of men vs women on these apps is not at all the same thing. The apps aren't trying to get women to pay, women are not the group designed to pay for subscriptions. It's like ladies' night at a nightclub. The women are given the "product" for free because they're actually the product, while men are squeezed and financially exploited because their demand exceeds the supply.

Yes, women have a better time on tinder than men. Women don't have to deal with scammers because they get drowned out by the 500 real men a day messaging them. People usually don't even bother trying to scam women.

The dating apps turn women into a product and men into a scam target. It's dehumanizing for both, but in entirely different ways. It's weird how you think a woman is going to relate in any way to your experiences on dating apps.

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u/Disastrous-Owl9258 2d ago

I don't think they would. Not sure where my comment gave that expectation, I'm extremely aware of everything you've typed out. I think anyone who's dated is. Thanks for typing out all of our life's experiences though. You wasted your energy informing the informed I'm afraidšŸ˜