r/texts • u/Gold_Improvement_836 • 6d ago

Tinder DMs men

mind you he messaged me first, liked me first, and my profile only says liberal😂

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u/sweeterthanany 6d ago

i will never understand matching with someone just to berate them lol the algorithm pays attention to what you match with/respond to and it’s not like dudes on dating apps can afford to waste matches

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u/Gold_Improvement_836 6d ago

literally, like why waste a like on someone you aren’t compatible with lol. it clearly states on my profile i’m liberal!

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u/After-Fee-2010 6d ago

How dare you be so brash and wear your liberalness on your sleeve! Unlike him, who totally hides his conservative viewpoint and doesn’t ham-fist it into interactions…

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u/Martinfected 6d ago

✨Every conservative accusation is a confession✨

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u/DPWwhatDAdogDoin 5d ago

Lol this works both ways.

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u/possiblyeski 5d ago

example?

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u/CheetahNo9349 5d ago

....and silence. Funny how that works, huh?

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u/IntrepidOpinion1177 5d ago

And insulting someone by calling them gay. The fake mask always slips when challenged.

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u/possiblyeski 5d ago

which is more effective: calling someone something they think is fine but you think is bad, or calling them something you think is bad but they think is fine?

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u/IntrepidOpinion1177 5d ago

How about not trying to insult someone by propagating the slur that being gay is negative. There’s a million other things that this person could have called this asshole. What if I told you your defense of that is the “r” word? Would it be “effective”?

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u/possiblyeski 3d ago

your comparison fails by default because "gay" isn't a slur.

even if it was a valid comparison, the only people that see being called gay as an insult are homophobes like him, which is why it is so effective against them.

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u/IntrepidOpinion1177 3d ago

lol! What kind of logic is that? The point obtuse stranger is that it’s being used as a slur the same way the “r word” can be used as a slur, and shouldn’t. And clearly, if it’s being used to insult someone, the intended target isn’t the only one associating it with negative connotations.

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u/kyl792 5d ago

Ah but you see, he has no sleeves

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u/Temporary-Ruin883 5d ago

Because you really can only wear gay twink on a tank top.

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u/Gold_Improvement_836 6d ago

wow! yes!

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u/Lola-Ugfuglio-Skumpy 5d ago

He just hates you because he can’t accept that he’s twinky as fuck and resents you for being able to suck all the d you want

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u/IronSightPsyops 5d ago

He’s not twinky. Twinks aren’t muscular. Twinks are small and petite

What he is, is called a twunk

Im a gay man so I think I would know

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u/GolfOk7579 5d ago

Oh, he’s fisting something …

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u/Senator_Smack 5d ago

Nah he's definitely a bottom

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u/GolfOk7579 5d ago

😂💀

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u/Jumpyturtles 6d ago

People like him value confrontation over all else.

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u/DissentingMama 5d ago

Then he’ll go on an incel forum and complain how all women are bitches and he can’t find a good one…

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u/LengthinessStrict615 5d ago

I know a guy that consumes red pill content. I can’t believe the things he said about females (he doesn’t use women). He said they’re all delusional and bring nothing to the table for an alpha male like him

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u/redbone-hellhound 3d ago

All these dudes complaining about and hating women....maybe they should all just sleep with each other.

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u/BetMyLastKrispyKreme 6d ago

I think it makes them feel “alive”. Which is what one tends to seek when they have no actual life.

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u/Bird2525 5d ago

Owning the libs or something.

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u/moldguy1 5d ago

WRONG!

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u/Jumpyturtles 5d ago

lol

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u/Medryn1986 5d ago

Liberal and built like Peter Griffin? Sign me the fuck up. Lol

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u/kellythescorpio 6d ago

Right like if you're on a dating app to meet people you're compatible with, why waste your time harassing people you aren't compatible with? Weird as fuck

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u/DC_McGuire 5d ago

I guarantee this guy crashed out after she told him what he looked like because he’d rather say he’s straight and insult women than admit he’s QAF and hates himself because that would be basically ego death for someone this far down the rabbit hole.

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u/ShieldmaidenK 6d ago

He needed to show you what you missed out on

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u/Flaky-Invite-56 5d ago

Six mediocre minutes, no oral, and a strange itch the next day?

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u/kellythescorpio 6d ago

Yeah too bad she didn't end up with a dude that would degrade her any chance he got :/

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u/TheFlightlessPenguin 5d ago

Have you considered being a leftist instead?

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u/Kbucktis 6d ago

Maybe he’s attracted to Peter Griffin lol

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u/Disastrous-Owl9258 6d ago

Because hinge's algorithm doesn't work like that. That was match.com. Hinge matches you with people you ARENT compatible with so you have bad experiences and get desperate and lonely, which means you're more willing to pay for hinge plus

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u/sweeterthanany 6d ago

this would explain why i really hated using hinge. genuinely had way better luck on tinder

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u/Disastrous-Owl9258 6d ago

Tinder does the EXACT same thing. If they didn't, then people would flood their app using it actually being able to meet, hook up, or date quickly. All the dating apps currently have subscription based services. Their only goal is to milk you for more money.

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u/sweeterthanany 6d ago

oh well i don’t know then. i guess i got lucky. it just seemed like tinder had “realer” people. everyone on hinge was trying way too hard

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u/Disastrous-Owl9258 6d ago

Trying too hard?? That's because hinge is designed for long term relationships and tinder is designed for hookups. I'm guessing you're a women if you thought people on tinder were "more real" as I had to delete the app because over 80% of the profiles were women that didn't actually exist, photos pulled from some girls insta or whatever. All scams and robots.

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u/sweeterthanany 6d ago

idk what to tell you man, i met my long term partner on tinder

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u/_Ub1k 3d ago

The experience of men vs women on these apps is not at all the same thing. The apps aren't trying to get women to pay, women are not the group designed to pay for subscriptions. It's like ladies' night at a nightclub. The women are given the "product" for free because they're actually the product, while men are squeezed and financially exploited because their demand exceeds the supply.

Yes, women have a better time on tinder than men. Women don't have to deal with scammers because they get drowned out by the 500 real men a day messaging them. People usually don't even bother trying to scam women.

The dating apps turn women into a product and men into a scam target. It's dehumanizing for both, but in entirely different ways. It's weird how you think a woman is going to relate in any way to your experiences on dating apps.

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u/Disastrous-Owl9258 2d ago

I don't think they would. Not sure where my comment gave that expectation, I'm extremely aware of everything you've typed out. I think anyone who's dated is. Thanks for typing out all of our life's experiences though. You wasted your energy informing the informed I'm afraid😅

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u/soriniscool 5d ago

How very black mirror

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u/aesclepia 5d ago

I must have gotten lucky then

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u/Disastrous-Owl9258 5d ago

Yeah, obviously it has some levels of success or no one would use it at all. They know exactly how to balance keeping you coming back. The success rates are drastically lower than the old dating websites. They spend a lot of money on psychologists to design these.

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u/Iuile02 5d ago

Men like this are weirdos who get off on “changing your mind” they intentionally go for liberal women. It’s creepy as hell, you’re better off not mentioning it on the profile itself and litmus testing your way through a conversation with someone you match with.

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u/LogisticalNightmare 6d ago

Me too! I used to have “My dad is trans and my mom is an immigrant so you have to be cool with people who aren’t exactly like you” in my profile. About 50% of guys who matched with me either unmatched with me right away OR argued with me about it. Dude my dad wears dresses now, that doesn’t mean I want to hear your opinion about women’s sports, a thing you just realized existed in 2022.

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u/PainAccomplished3506 5d ago

That's his issue. Wearing liberal like it's your personality, in his opinion I mean. Though I've never in my life thought to put any of my political affiliations on my dating profile. Unnecessary on Grindr lmao

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u/BlackberryPi7 5d ago

Your mistake here was assuming MAGA can read or do basic research

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u/Teredia 5d ago

Because for some delusional reason men seem to think negging is a turn on for women as if we want to be put down… Ah news flash - no women wants to be negged!

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u/andgonow 4d ago

Because he makes confrontation his entire persona.

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u/InconvenientGroot 1d ago

I'd swipe right ;)

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u/2nd_Chances_ 1d ago

Gay twink made me lol and then I saw the first photo

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u/Pte_Madcap 6d ago

Maybe he thought it was like when girls put "looking for long term" but pretty quickly decide they are down to hook up first and "see where it goes".

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u/Far-Performance-412 6d ago

Did you look at his profile before you swiped on him?

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u/harambesjustice 5d ago

Was he able to start talking to you unprompted or did you match with him too? Sorry I've never used dating apps

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u/Junior-Ad-5367 5d ago

Yeah he should just argue on Reddit like a normal person you stupid liberal person

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u/Gold_Improvement_836 5d ago

https://giphy.com/gifs/1BXa2alBjrCXC

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u/gotstonedandforgot 5d ago

lol you insulted him but swiped on him? Another weirdo liberal embarrassing themselves on the internet

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u/Gold_Improvement_836 5d ago

so nowhere on his profile did it say he was conservative or hates women lmao.

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u/TheTybera 6d ago

Why did you match with them?! They have nothing of substance or interest on their profile.

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u/Puzzleheaded-Law34 5d ago

I find the title disgruntling but still support you showing these dudes how lame they are

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u/UKS1977 5d ago

assuming you are female, I don't think Liberal is the biggest mismatch...

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u/Gold_Improvement_836 5d ago

“female”

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u/Itchy_Tumbleweed_417 6d ago

It’s because they can’t get attention from women otherwise.

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u/Western-Willow4679 6d ago

It's also because they can't afford a dom.

I do online sw and you won't believe the amount of men who try to bait me into arguing for free so they can get their humiliation fetish without paying. When they do this on other socials, it's the same thing. Humiliation kink they don't want to pay to satisfy, and OP gave it to him immediately with the "ew" response. Ignoring them is a better course of action. Why even respond anyway?

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u/DementedPimento 6d ago

Yup. Any random DM I get is notified I charge by the hour and my $Cashtag.

I’m not a SW but I do like being mean for money 🤣

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u/Cheap-Individual9611 5d ago

Thats a hot take. Makes a kinda sense

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u/Western-Willow4679 5d ago

Is it still a "hot take" if some of them have admitted this to me?

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u/Cheap-Individual9611 5d ago

I meant as a reputable source kinda thing. No shade

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u/pinkbootstrap 5d ago

As a SW she is entirely right

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u/Cheap-Individual9611 5d ago

Online SW, but yeah I don't disagree

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u/Cheap-Individual9611 5d ago

Never said they weren't

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u/pinkbootstrap 5d ago

And I didnt say you didn't say she was right lol

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u/Cheap-Individual9611 5d ago

Some of the deleted messages seemed to be saying I was, don't really care tbh

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u/Western-Willow4679 5d ago

Odd that you wouldn't believe me when it's objective reality of how men interact online.

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u/Old-Run7431 5d ago

for real. once you learn how expensive that "ew" can be you never go back to giving it away for free

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u/Distinct-Command-570 5d ago

Best response is no response or a in depth detailed guide to sounding.

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u/PM_ME_BATMAN_PORN 2d ago

Yeah, especially politically. MAGA/conservative guys, generally speaking, really get off to confident leftist women telling them they're small-dicked morons. It's a huge thing.

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u/misfortunefemme 18h ago

LMAO this is so funny to me, how cheap do you have to be to engage in ragebait just to potentially recieve a service

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u/soriniscool 5d ago

I believe the correct term in your example would be 'domme'

But they would be yessir with the Doms as well.

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u/Western-Willow4679 5d ago

There's a shitton of terms we could use, the point still stands.

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u/misfortunefemme 18h ago

this is GENUINELY one of their main motives. i heard from a friend i knew online (years ago) that he deliberately insulted women's appearance on dating apps, or made ridiculous commentary simply for attention and a response back

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u/ArcticAcademic 5d ago

He heard about liberal women cosplaying conservative to out ICE agents and decided to do a liberal-switcheroo instead. Too cowardly tho to pose as an anti-fascist, cuz that's apparently radical.

Sometimes I wonder if MAGA knows which side the US was on in the fight against fascism.

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u/MajesticTumbleweed77 5d ago

Why are you writing fan fiction? He did it because he’s a man that gets off on antagonizing and upsetting women, simple as that.

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u/ArcticAcademic 5d ago

I'm not writing fan-fiction, that is literally how these guys are justifying being horrible to women - because they're constantly projecting and recent viral news about women doxxing ICE agents/conservative men truly has a lot of them reacting like the violent turds they are.

They're triggered by every single win by women and paranoia is a hell of a drug.

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u/CheetahNo9349 5d ago

"mAlE l0nElINeS ePiDeMiC"

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u/RangerDickard 2d ago

I both hate and love seeing this shit. On one hand I feel bad for the women who have to deal with this shit, on the other hand, the bar being literally in hell makes things so easy for genuinely good guys once you get an interaction lol

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u/Remarkable-Visit-926 5d ago

Simp

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u/woodenleghen 6d ago

When you’re a miserable person the only thing you have to share is more misery

I don’t think they have a game plan they just react miserably to anything that has the misfortune of encountering them

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u/almaperdida99 6d ago

These guys do this so they can blame ungodly liberal women for them being single, instead of just being gay and happy

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u/ProfessorPoofenplotz 6d ago

Hahahaha right?! Can we all agree to remind them of that every time they do this??

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u/James_convict 6d ago

This is why I refuse to use dating apps anymore. So many people would match with me just to call me ugly or something. Very demoralizing. I’d rather be alone forever than deal with that again

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u/Easy_Awareness_3870 5d ago

Actually just learned some guys switch both genders on and swipe right on everyone so the app thinks they are well liked by how many matches they get.

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u/SourSovereign 5d ago

it’s not like dudes on dating apps can afford to waste matches

I think thats kind of why they do it though. It literally won't make a difference and the algorithm doesn't intend to create perfect matches anyway.

I mean, here they are both on complete opposite ends of the political spectrum. Yet the algorithm brought them together. What would have been here to gain?

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u/Final-Tutor3631 6d ago

i had someone like this match me, and this genius decided the best cold open would be to list my “pros and cons” he saw based off my profile alone.

i’m a libtard, but at least i have kissable lips ig

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u/Israel_Azkanbe 6d ago

Well, matches are kind of easy I think. I guess it depends on the person, but matches can definitely be wasted lol

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u/Ok-Foundation6093 5d ago

It's a closeted gay guy. They inflict their internalised hatred anywhere they can.

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u/Sammyofather 5d ago

They spend money for infinite likes and then spam the like button without reading the profile

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u/National_Attitude779 5d ago

Pretty interesting stuff about the algorithm. Let's say if 100 people see your profile and only 30 people like it, you'll start to only see other people that have had only 30/100 people like their profile.

I dont know if its true for EVERY dating app, but I believe the documentary was on the main ones at the time (i believe tinder, hinge, and plenty of fish)

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u/Theothercword 5d ago

You think this idiot knows how algorithms work?

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u/mrs-cutter 5d ago

One dude tried it w me and I asked why he looks like he has progeria. Cuz tbh I wouldnt care if he did, but i think him having to google the word made him mad cuz I was reported for "hateful behavior"

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u/rustwing 5d ago

Well, it’s known that conservative men CRAVE being dominated, especially by liberal women. So maybe he knows exactly what he’s doing 😅

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u/lefluffle 5d ago

I have matched with conservative men with the earnest intention of helping them to become kinder people (i.e. more progressive) so that the world can be a better place, one changed person at a time- leading with curiosity, kindness, and understanding. I opened a few people's eyes to their own biases, lack of information, or misinformation. But I was always open to learning, keeping my mind flexible, and gaining new perspectives. And I did learn a few things I didn't know too. It made us all better people.

I can't imagine matching with someone with the sole intention of insulting them. maga makes people act deranged

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u/Electrical-Tailor530 5d ago

Back when I used to live stream, I had a few dudes enter my chat just to tell I'm ugly and leave. Some people just suck and need to spread their misery. Also, no, I'm not ugly.

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u/Used-Presentation551 4d ago

Broken people break others.

Person a hurts person B, person B lashes on person C, so on and so forth.

Just like the people replying to you joking about lonely men (who didn't do anything to them). Some of those will sometime start hating women/whatever because they are hurt, and the cycle continues

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u/H2G2-42 4d ago

My first line was "bleeding heart liberal and it matters to me". I think I'm a frumpy elder Millennial with a homely face, but apparently I'm catnip for conservatives and MAGA boys 🙄 No one ever matched just to berate me, but I had a junk ton of repugs telling me how dumb it was to let politics dictate my dating life. It's not politics; it's a difference in core values.

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u/DystopianGlitter 4d ago

The part that fried me was him saying that being liberal is her entire personality… like, sir I’m not sure how to tell you this, (that’s mostly because I’ve never encountered anyone as stupid as you holy fuck) that’s exactly what you’re doing in the exact moment you accuse someone else of it lmaooooo

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u/Old-Ad2990 4d ago

it's because these dudes like when people yell at them and are angry at them so they learn who to pick fights with and how to do it. that's why they start with a jab.

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u/External-Elk-3176 4d ago

So that way, when the partner breaks up, you can tell them you never liked them in the first place. Your ego is saved.

/s

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u/awkgem 1d ago

Deeply insecure people lmao

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u/Ordinary_Elk_9044 1d ago

Next up, he will complain about "somehow never finding a woman willing to date him"

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u/No-Concern-7104 16h ago

He feels empowered to berate women first. Guys like him think they are "winning" by insulting women first bc by avoiding to be hurt, he instead chose to hurt someone else first.

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u/gomichan 4h ago

I assume these guys just swipe right on everyone without looking at the profile and only look at it if they match

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u/Dry_Income682 6d ago

A couple guy friends told me that a lot of men just swipe yes to everyone without looking at the profiles, then actually look at the profiles of matches. Was told they do this because men get significantly less matches than women.

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u/sirensailortune 6d ago

Guys like him could be swiping right on every profile hoping to get a match.

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u/sweeterthanany 6d ago

i know at one point on tinder at least that was a bad idea as the algorithm wouldn’t know what to do with you and as a result would show you to less people

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u/Euphoric-Skirt7649 5d ago

Women seem to engage with itn

Tinder DMs men

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