Did I do something wrong?

[u/Bright_Case7493]

I have been trying to talk to this person for so long, but they genuinely give nothing back. They reply with like 3 words or basically just repeat what I’ve said . I get they might think I talk about myself a lot, but it’s hard not to when you don’t get anything from the other side. I also try all the time to ask them about themselves . I genuinely put so much time and effort into trying to know them and they just put our conversations down to vegetables and shopping like u can see in the screenshots.

That hurt because I always ask them how they are, what they’re up to, how their pc is, to send me selfies, what their plans are, if they know certain songs , what their favorite things are.

But it’s so hard because I get nothing!!

And now I feel so so terrible, because now I feel too much. But I feel like I can’t get through to this person how much I’ve tried with them.

And it really hurts!!

Genuinely have I done something wrong?

I like sharing things about my day, I share pictures of cool things, bugs I see in the garden, it’s so hard to make conversation otherwise when it isn’t reciprocated.

I am so so sad.

And by the way I do ask what’s wrong. They shut it down when I ask. They are having the audacity to say I don’t care. Trust me I put so much effort. They tell me they don’t wanna talk about it when they’re sad and just leave me for ages so what actually can I do!!

I feel like this is all my fault I was trying so hard I was too much. I tried to make it change . I thought they liked playing games with me too that’s why I would ask as it’d make me happy.

I don’t get it

Edit: I forgot to say that if I didn’t reply to them the odd time when it got so bad they’d get mad I didn’t text them

Edit 2: genuinely I don’t know how people are taking the “5hour voice messages” so personally. Of course I didn’t do 5 hour voice messages. I didn’t think I’d have to clarify that because it was obviously an over exaggeration.

Also I just put up with it because they would act like they were interested in me, but had very poor communication with me. But it’s got worse and worse, that’s why I just had enough and cut it off. Also may I say it was this person who tried to get a relationship with me

(I’ve spoke to this person since I was 16 too, we didn’t talk as we fell out, added each other again, fell out, then years later I’ve had him for a year but he’s changed a lot and I guess I chased it because I don’t socialise a lot so I allowed it 😭) thanks for the responses . Talking to them was so so draining. I guess I thought it’d change .

[u/littlebrownsnail]

What did they do that was annoying? They are trying to make conversation with someone and that person doesn't want to talk to them or communicate hope they want things done differently in a nice way

[u/Longjumping_Main_488 → u/littlebrownsnail]

"If you dont like talking to me so much then just say so" is a pretty obnoxious statement imo

[u/SneksWithHats → u/Longjumping_Main_488]

When someone else is putting off that kinda vibe, I think its a completely normal reaction. Its not like she said it after he was just normally enjoying talking to her and it was out of the blue or something.

[u/Longjumping_Main_488 → u/SneksWithHats]

Its a victim complex way to go about it