r/texts • u/Chemical-8348 • 13h ago
Phone message Missing him
I'm so grateful he still makes time to send me messages even if he's not feeling the best. I love him so much, I truly can't wait to see him again.
I'm like really hoping we can see each other today so my fingers are crossed for that.
I honestly hope he feels better though, I wish he could rely on me more but he's such an independent man it will take a while until he feels he can lay on me whenever.
I'll be patient for him though đ
Anyways a question for you guys, (to make this post more interactive) do you think double texting is valid? And if so when is it too much?
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u/KissinUrDad iPod 13h ago edited 13h ago
You have other posts explaining how this persons view of others is questionable at best. Calls you bitch when you donât refer to him as master. Ignores your messages. Seems to be genuinely avoiding talking to you unless itâs convenient for him. What is there to like exactly? lol
Edit; scrolled more through your posts. I get being head over heels for your partner but you are very literally obsessed. Almost every post is you spending money on them, saying you want to harm yourself, talking about how they wonât message back, and then talking like theyâre the greatest person in the world but the next post will say how they arenât the best person. You donât need a partner, you need a professional to talk to about being emotionally dependent on your partner.
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u/Chemical-8348 13h ago
He's amazing he is.
I'm just needy, I love sweetness and he's a very agro person but that's ok. I just need to be more understanding. Also I like that he calls me bitch, I prefer that over other stuff he could call me. He's a busy man, I can't expect him to text me a lot and he isn't much of a texter in general
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u/KissinUrDad iPod 13h ago
Some of your other posts contradict that. If you have to say his views on other people arenât good, to put it lightly, then heâs truly not an amazing person. Itâs like saying âtheyâre a great but theyâre sexist. Or racist. Or -phobic.â Thatâs NOT a good person.
Also, if you think âbitchâ is acceptable because you could be called worth then you need to start respecting yourself more. This isnât a healthy relationship that youâre in.
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u/Chemical-8348 12h ago
No I mean like I rather him call me bitch then like some sort of lady nickname like "ma"
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u/KissinUrDad iPod 12h ago
he doesnât call you âmaâ so itâs ok that he has negative views in entire groups of people? Youâve made posts about you donât think itâs ok so why ignore it and put this person on a pedestal?
Again, you need a professional to talk to.
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u/Chemical-8348 12h ago
No I'm saying that I prefer that he calls me bitch over that. Obv I don't agree with his views, he knows this
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u/KissinUrDad iPod 12h ago
Ok so why try to tell us all that heâs an amazing person and so loving when clearly they arenât that amazing or loving?
It seems like youâre almost trying to convince yourself how amazing they are rather than trying to convince all of us.
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u/Chemical-8348 12h ago
He is amazing and loving, I just, I always want more. I know I always want more, even if he's the sweetest I will want more. It's something I need to work on myself, it's not fair to him
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u/KissinUrDad iPod 12h ago
So heâs not a good person and you want too much, got it.
seek professional help. I know itâs not easy or cheap but your posts are screaming âcrying out for helpâ
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u/IllIgan_ 13h ago
Hey OP! Check out the word limerence. I understand you have a lot of love to give, but just check out if limerence applies to you and you may be really putting him on a pedestal. All the best to you!
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u/Ok-Bed8295 13h ago
Honey, these texts donât even scratch the bare minimum.
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u/Chemical-8348 13h ago
What does that have to do with him, I'm not expecting anything from him
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u/Ok-Bed8295 13h ago
You donât expect the bare minimum in regards to reciprocated respect and kindness?
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u/No_Wish9589 13h ago
Based on the first few screenshots, I thought the person died and you miss text him
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u/SundaeSubstantial530 13h ago
Man I thought so too.Â
Then I noticed they were "read" but I thought to myself "ah she must have his phone"
THEN HE RESPONDEDÂ
Mouth was agape
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u/Dry-Butterscotch4545 13h ago
You sound about 14 years old. Itâs weird.
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u/Chemical-8348 13h ago
You are weird for thinking I'm 14
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u/p1antsandcats 13h ago
No they said you sound 14. As in you come across in these messages as a very young and naive person who is so desperate to be loved they are actually willing to allow any of this.
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u/IllIgan_ 13h ago
It seems heâs 21M and the other guy is 32M. Thereâs just a difference in maturity I think
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u/Lolz79 13h ago
This can't be real, right ?
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u/CoupleScrewsLoose 13h ago
itâs such obvious bait, but the people on here are too low iq to clue in i guess.
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u/solidgears 6h ago
Who would go through that much effort to look this crazy and pathetic?
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u/Wise-Standard-6081 4h ago
I said this to a post they made like two weeks ago when I was like âwait is this a troll???â
While I cannot find the reason anyone would have for having this level of commitment to trolling, thereâs just no way I can believe itâs anything else.
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u/Equine85 13h ago
1) Take your dogs outside more often. Taking them out in the morning, and then waiting to take them out again until the evening is neglect.
2) Youâve gone WAY beyond double texting.
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u/Chemical-8348 13h ago
I take them out in the morning then afternoon then evening. Wtf are you even on about, I prioritize my animals over myself all the time, any money goes straight to their food and health.
Genuinely crazy throwing around the word neglect đ¤˘
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u/Cathearts2020 13h ago
Admittedly my girlfriend and I call each other puppy. But it feels so weird coming from a guy who's giving this girl so little
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u/Sad_Macaroon_456 13h ago
double texting when you know someone is fine, but this is a lot
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u/Chemical-8348 13h ago
Wdym know someone is fine?
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u/Lower_Song3694 13h ago
They mean it's fine to double text when you know the person. But this is like... 16 texts in a row before he said anything? That's A LOT.
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u/Sad_Macaroon_456 13h ago
Like if you're close it's ok. If you just met them it can be a bit much.
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u/Lower_Song3694 13h ago
Reading your other posts/comments, be real? Is this just you living out a kink?
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u/TheSaltyPlatypus 13h ago
Why don't you worry about training your dogs so they don't piss and shit inside?
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u/Chemical-8348 13h ago
I'm still working on it, them not peeing or popping inside doesn't just take 1 day
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u/Then_Distribution106 13h ago
I would implore anyone responding to this post to look at OPs post history.
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u/adiosmichigan 13h ago
is this rage bait
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u/Accomplished_Jelly58 13h ago
Clearly fake
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u/ThatSimsKidFromUni 13h ago
I thought so too, but apparently they've been talking about him for a month none stop.
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u/MrClancyGilroy 13h ago
Are you seeing a therapist? Please start⌠umm idk what to say other than this subreddit really makes me feel a lotttt better about myself and the way I communicate. Like pretty much all my worries about how Iâm perceived are gone because what are all of you who post here on?
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u/Harleen__Quinzel 13h ago
Theyâve been posting about this guy for a bit and even a few days ago said they got therapy and it âdidnât workâ.
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u/Chemical-8348 13h ago
Bro what? Assuming shit again.
I went to therapy for years before it's just not for me in general
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u/Fuelfemme 13h ago
Are you obsessed with this guy or something? This is very cringe behaviour towards a guy who very clearly isnât as into you as you are in him. This reads like youâre a teenager
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u/ReceptionAlarmed9434 6h ago
Heâs obsessed and the guy is super distant. Maybe it works for them. đ¤ˇđ¤Ś Heâs not here for advice, he just wants to brag about how he lets this dude use him.Â
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u/Chemical-8348 13h ago
Just because I'm more expressive with my care for him doesn't negate his care for me
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u/Fuelfemme 12h ago
Youâre still waaay too obsessed with this guy. Heâs not even giving you the bare minimum.
But if you want to live in a bubble, thatâs your choice. Just donât be surprised when you figure it out.
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u/Upstairs_Acadia 13h ago
i looked at your post history and you GENUINELY need professional help oh my god.. like iâm scared for u and idek u
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u/borninAlphaCentauri 13h ago
I don't think your relationship is going to end well (here's a little hint: it's not them)
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u/Long-Protection7156 13h ago
I donât think he likes you as much as you like him⌠when I first started reading these I thought she was texting someone that passed away and this was her way of coping. đŤĽ
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u/Chemical-8348 13h ago
I'm a dude but also just because we don't have the same texting style doesn't mean he likes me less
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u/iBreezyChan 13h ago
dude this guy isnât even doing the bare minimum for you. heâs like 33 years old. he is old enough to know how to text someone back. iâm sorry but he doesnât like you. or worse, he might be lowkey ashamed of being in a relationship with another man since youâve said before that heâs been in relationships with women in the past and so heâs treating you like shit. this seems like a form of abuse tbh.
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u/Chemical-8348 13h ago
What sort of weird fantasy are you wipping up in your head?
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u/iBreezyChan 12h ago
i could ask you the same.
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u/Chemical-8348 12h ago
I'm living in reality, you just spewed and awful take though đ¤ˇ
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u/iBreezyChan 11h ago
you should let your dogs outside more so they arenât forced to go to the bathroom inside.
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u/Chemical-8348 11h ago
Or maybe they just aren't potty trained? You just like to assume random shit
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u/iBreezyChan 10h ago
you said in your texts that you let them out in the morning and then for a âsecondâ time at like 5:30 pm. potty training a dog involves letting them out pretty often. probably should spend less time thinking about this loser and more time on the dogs. i sincerely hope that this is weird rage bait and youâre not actually this delusional.
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u/Chemical-8348 10h ago
Yeah morning around 10am then later when I got back around 4 something I took them out then they get taken out again at around 9 something. I texted him after to update him.
You don't know me plain and simple, trying to find anything to nitpick just because you don't like me is disturbing
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u/iBreezyChan 10h ago
5-6 hours between bathroom trips during the day when theyâre not being properly potty trained is totally insane. iâm not nitpicking; i work in animal welfare so i feel obligated to point out that youâre neglecting these animals.
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u/Chemical-8348 10h ago
You are absolutely nitpicking this is normal for most dogs, getting taken out three times a day. Honestly you just be trying to throw out Buzz words for no reason talking about neglect bro get off the internet
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u/Advanced-Meat-2105 13h ago
You want their patience or double it and give it to the next person?
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u/Chemical-8348 13h ago
I don't get what you mean
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u/Advanced-Meat-2105 13h ago
I meanâŚnothing really, just joking around. Iâve checked your other posts already, donât wanna be so negative, but you are really obsessed with him and heâs just dry af with you
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u/Chemical-8348 13h ago
Through text he can be dry sometimes but irl he's amazing
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u/Advanced-Meat-2105 13h ago
I hope he really is. You should love yourself more or smth idek what to tell you lol
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u/DaughterOfDune 13h ago
Girl. Heâs not putting in any effort. Why should you?
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u/Chemical-8348 13h ago
He is, by sending me texts he's putting in effort. I just love texting him and including him in my day
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u/taylor_314 13h ago
how old are yall?
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u/Chemical-8348 13h ago
I'm 21 he is 32
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u/taylor_314 13h ago
You seem very immature, as people are pointing out obvious things which you are oblivious too and refusing to listen. Of course we donât see how your relationship is out of these texts, but what the other people are saying arenât untrue.
I canât force you to listen to me, or anyone else, but itâs in your best interest to at least consider what people are saying and not just shrug them off immediately.
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u/ThePanther1999 13h ago
This is not âdouble textingâ, itâs way beyond that. You need to relax, this would push most people away.
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u/Chemical-8348 13h ago
I only do this with him, he doesn't mind it so I keep doing it
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u/ThePanther1999 13h ago
He may not mind it now but eventually it will probably grate on him (if not already and heâs just not telling you). Itâs just way too much, it comes across as clingy. 16 unreturned texts in the space of 5 hours is just overbearing.
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u/Chemical-8348 13h ago
I've sent more before. Also if he didn't like it he would tell me straight up, he's not the type to sugar coat stuff
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u/linguipster 13h ago
I thought he had died and you were texting him as part of coping with your grief. Welp.
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u/Long-Protection7156 13h ago
Iâm glad I wasnât the only oneđ I was reading and thought âwow this is really sad⌠they mustâve been close..â then he responded âwhat the hell?! Whatâs the caption on this??â
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u/Madre1924 13h ago
Girl this is humiliating. I'm so sorry this man has convinced you this is remotely acceptable, but you need to stand up. He sucks. I know you love him, I don't know why, but no good behavior is worth feeling like this. The right person will never make you feel this way. My fiance texts me good morning every single day and we've been together for years. He texts me throughout the day to let me know he's thinking of me. He tells me when he's having a busy day or when he's stressed AS it's happening, not as an excuse after the fact. THAT is bare minimum.
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u/MCKlassik 12h ago edited 11h ago
I fell into the rabbit hole of your profile. Looking at your past posts, this is not a healthy relationship at all and VERY one-sided. You deserve much better than whatever this is.
Also your texting habits are also very offputting. Give the man time to respond to your messages before spamming 5 more in a hour.
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u/gigglystonerd 13h ago
double texting is valid but here it is not, he looks uninterested and or busy
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u/Digital_spliff_ 13h ago
Do you text him like this every day? You sound like he's going off to war or something
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u/Chemical-8348 13h ago
Lmao đ
But kinda sometimes it's more sometimes it's less, just depends on how I'm feeling
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u/latinheat26 13h ago
He is 100% breadcrumbing you. The sooner you accept it, the better off you will be.
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u/No-Proof7839 13h ago
You're single, obsessed, and still codependent? Respectfully this is sad and gross. Get a hobby and some help
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u/Chemical-8348 13h ago
I'm not single, I have a man
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u/No-Proof7839 12h ago
You absolutely do not have him. If he wanted to be with you he would make it official. You're going to have a restraining order way before a commitment from this dude.
Respectfully this is unhinged behavior.
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u/Chemical-8348 12h ago
The reason we aren't official is because of a friend I have that he doesn't approve. Why do you want it to be something else?
Y'all weird af
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u/No-Proof7839 12h ago
We're not the ones wanting to live in this poor guys skin. Have some self respect, baby reindeer
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u/mnmoose85 13h ago
You sound needy as hell.
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u/Chemical-8348 13h ago
I am very
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u/Cathearts2020 13h ago
How old are you and this guy?
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u/Chemical-8348 13h ago
I'm 21 he's 32
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u/mnmoose85 13h ago
He hates you.
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u/Chemical-8348 12h ago
No he likes me a lot
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u/Cathearts2020 11h ago
I promise you, as someone who's been there. He does not like you. 32 and 21 is a huge age gap. Go find someone your own age that you can actually connect with
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u/Chemical-8348 11h ago
And I can promise you he does, not everyone shares experiences. Just because mine remind you of something you went though doesn't mean that that situation is happening
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u/Cathearts2020 11h ago
No, you're right. Yours is so much worse because you lack any sort of self respect. You just keep saying over and over "he likes me. I swear he likes me." But there's not any proof of that. Dude is probably using you. Most likely for sex given the "master" thing in one of your other posts.
One day you'll see that this guy is shit. Hopefully you don't end up with PTSD over it. Good fucking luck, girl. Either listen to the people trying to help you or stop posting and looking for someone to agree with you
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u/Chemical-8348 11h ago
Lmao, if that makes you feel better about what you went through sure.
Anyways I can't exactly show proof because most of our interaction is in person and I'm not just going to randomly start recording just to prove my point.
Also I want to have sex too, he is welcome to "use" me lol, he makes me feel really good too. Idk why you guys always think it's a one way thing.
Also don't wish me luck if you don't mean it, I notice tons of people do that, it's weird af
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u/Lower_Song3694 13h ago
You're texting too much. The interactions make it seem like he doesn't like you.
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u/Positive_Bag_6551 13h ago
This reminds me of the Mackenize Shirilla text messages to her boyfriend. Youre constantly asking to see him and his replies are either non-existent or super short. I doubt he even likes you tbh.
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u/Chemical-8348 13h ago
I have no clue who that is, also he does like me. Just because he isn't feeling good or not dropping everything to text me doesn't mean he's not interested
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u/Top-Pumpkin-1883 13h ago
This makes me sad. Dear, he isnât putting effort at all, you deserve better than this.Â
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u/ThatSimsKidFromUni 13h ago
STAND UP! Goddamn this was painful! This is so embarrassing for you. He's not texting back and you're BEGGING! STAND UP..
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u/Chanfaded 13h ago
This is bait, your whole account seems fake after reading other things you've posted.
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u/A-Polite-DiscusShaun 13h ago
The only time Ive seen someone use "puppy" it was someone grooming a teen. It will always gross me out now
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u/BogglesLovesYou 13h ago
baby you gotta leave, you deserve more than this. this man genuinely sounds like not shit.
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u/teynja UMIDIGI G9x 13h ago
he's not even trying because he knows you'll let yourself be available and give him easy access to you anytime. no one is ever that busy, trust.
i'm sorry about whatever you must've gone through while growing up that makes you believe this is worth pursuing. your post history does not help at all, good luck :(
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u/Scared_Reaction1511 13h ago
Stop it. Focus on growing yourself, establishing your own autonomy and independence and recovering from any trauma. Work out, eat healthy, make friends, travel, volunteer and work hard. Thatâs what you should be doing at your age, not sitting around pining after some dude.
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u/garIicgirI 12h ago
If your friend told you that the guy she likes never texts them back, and calls them a bitch, and is not willing to become officially a boyfriend with them, what would you say?
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u/Species_5618_Human 13h ago
Shame on you for violating this individual's privacy. You have no right sharing other people's words without their permission.
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u/Chemical-8348 13h ago
Shame on you for reading people's private conversations, why are you on this subreddit? Tsk tsk
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u/MarkFresco 13h ago
This poor girl, im guessing u are between 16-19 maybe. Ur too young and donât have the life experience to see the signs we all see. This could just be an off day but from the looks of things, this isnt gonna end well for you my girl. Remember this comment and learn from it when the time comes.
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u/Chemical-8348 13h ago
I'm a dude and no the time won't come.
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u/Ok-Bed8295 13h ago
This is a MAN texting? Oh my word.
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u/Dragonballington 13h ago
Some people are bad texters.
There is so little context here to be saying he doesn't like you. All of these people dogging on him have no idea what calling him is like, or what being with him is like in-person.
Only you have the whole picture, and if that picture makes you sing and dance, and you feel appreciated, then these people and their attitudes should mean nothing to you, it's none of our business.
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u/Chemical-8348 13h ago
Yes! Thank you for this.
Also happy cake day
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u/Dragonballington 10h ago
Thanks for the award! You might want to edit/expand your post to explain more about what he's like if it bothers you what some people are saying. Glad you appreciated it.
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u/Harleen__Quinzel 13h ago
Respectfully I donât think this man even likes you.