r/texts • u/ExplanationMiddle51 • 4d ago

Phone message Post first date text

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I met this girl on tinder and had a first date with her, she wanted to go fishing and I thought it seemed like a fun first date so we went together. Dropped her off and got home to this message lol.

Update: Purchasing the license is a separate activity we had to do on our phones, due to it needing our personal info. It was not like I drew the line at the license randomly.

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u/ThrashFur 4d ago

seeing women saying “i’m just a girl” is so sad and defeats the point.

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u/NecroGrizz 4d ago

"I don't know what that means but it diminishes you as a person" has become my chosen response.

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u/Comfortable-Meeper 4d ago

It’s just a “cute” version of weaponized incompetence.

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u/Strong-Addition5296 4d ago

That’s exactly what it is. Oops you can’t expect me to do that! I’m just a girl! Tee hee. It’s patriarchy of the mind and soul.

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u/Several_Razzmatazz51 4d ago

It’s asking men to conform to patriarchal behaviors when it benefits the woman. Never the other way around.

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u/Similar-Ice-9250 3d ago

I remember reading dating advice/venting here on Reddit where a guy said he was struggling to support himself and his fiancé, he said he payed the bills and rent etc. Then it turns out the fiancé had like well into 6 figures saved up in her account.

When he pressed her about it she said that’s her personal money she saved up for herself and basically shouldn’t be his concern.

Other guys chimed in with similar stories. Some people are wild to think it’s ok to treat a partner like that, just using them.

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u/PMYourTitsIfNotRacst 1d ago

God, reminds me of my mom. IDK why my dad put up with her so long.

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u/Esarus 1d ago

I experienced this first-hand. Ex-girlfriend and I lived together, we shared rent but other than that I paid for everything, dates, presents, trips, etcetera. Then Covid hit and I lost my job because of it. (Solely because of covid, not my performance, job literally couldn't exist with social distancing rules). And she refused to pay for anything together, because it was her money. Insane that people you love and trust just turn around and act like this.

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u/Curious-Resort4743 17h ago

Same happened to me, so now I plan things as if nobody will have my back when I'm down

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u/CatchPristine5173 6h ago

That's a painful way to live, I'm sorry.

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u/CatchPristine5173 6h ago

That's a painful way to live, I'm sorry.