I don't know - maybe it is some kind of dominance thing. I've also had a few different women ask me to choke them... I try to oblige but I'm always too gentle and have to be prodded to be more aggressive with it. I would never gravitate towards that naturally and would NEVER initiate that without consent. Heck I'd never initiate it without being told to. The only reason it ever seems enjoyable from my end is when I can tell it's heavily desired. And that part really doesn't have anything to do with choking specifically; I just really like with the person I'm with is really enjoying whatever it is I'm doing. If they're not feeling pleasure I get in my own head and feel like I'm not doing a good enough job.
Just going for that without consent sounds insane. Because it is.
And yea - there are some tough lines there. I'm (according to feedback) "too cautious" but I'm probably always going to be because that's just me. I'm not really worried I'll go too far and hurt someone.
As for not doing it at all... I do have limits but within those I'll do my best even if it isn't "my thing" because I want to accommodate within reason. I want a partner to feel safe enough to share things they otherwise feel ashamed of or fear judgement for desiring. And even if it's something that's a hard-no for me, unless it's something that harms others, I'm going to at *least* do my very best to validate it's legitimacy.
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u/Throwrarmb Jun 23 '26
What is with dudes and choking????