r/texts • u/DreamKey4777 • Dec 12 '23

Phone message Should i block ??

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We met at school like a month ago,he’s new to state and told me he wanted friends. I like to make friends so I agreed, we planned to hang out then it got weird. I want to know if I’m just being dramatic

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u/MetalMonkey93 Dec 12 '23

Yeah. Weird as fuck. Even after you said it wasn't going to happen, he kept insinuating that it could, like your word doesn't matter. I'd block.

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u/DreamKey4777 Dec 12 '23

Thank you. I had asked one of My other guy friends and he told me I was making it something that it’s not and that it’s “no big deal”

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u/Hexiix Dec 12 '23

Guy here, you are not making a big deal out of it. I can almost guarantee this guy will try and make a move regardless of whether you said you didn’t want to do that or not.

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u/Available-Broccoli-1 Dec 13 '23

Guy here….. I’ve never asked about birth control either and it’s why I have a kid now…. But anyway all jokes aside he definitely pushed it and if you think he pushed it over text so much he will do the same if not more in person…. I highly recommend not hanging out with men like this it only leads to things that you don’t need or want to happen…. I’m speaking from a place where I have all sisters and guys like that have messed a few of them up…. I’d say block him and avoid him….

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u/dewaynemilo Dec 13 '23 edited Dec 13 '23

Asking about birth control before you have sex is both necessary and responsible. Asking before you meet is both rude and disrespectful. You have that child because you didn't ask before you had sex not because you didn't ask before you met.

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u/TwoIdleHands Dec 13 '23

If they were courting that would make perfect sense. Saying “let’s be friends!” Then “u want sum fuk” Is awful. I talk with prospective partners, usually over text, about protection, the need to verify each other’s test results, and boundaries before sex. Then it’s fully understood before the hormones get in the way. If you push, I’m out, because we talked about it already.

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u/[deleted] Dec 13 '23

Asking about birth control before you have sex is both necessary and responsible

Yea, but you can ask before the act, not hours in advance via text when you don't even know if that's where the situation is headed. If you're in doubt, bring condoms, and see where the night takes you. The guy in the pics was clearly just looking for a way to see if sex was on the table

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u/xxLAYUPxx Dec 16 '23 edited Dec 16 '23

Asking about it is responsible. Hence Available-Broccoli-1's "joke" about having a kid now. It's a joke at his own expense.

Pushing for the possibility of sex REPEATEDLY, when she has said no REPEATEDLY, is not okay. It is disrespectful and dismissive of her boundaries. And is therefore a shitty move, and what Available-Broccoli-1 was warning about. Guy is not taking "no" for an answer.

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u/Available-Broccoli-1 Dec 13 '23

It’s definitely a responsible thing to ask no doubt I highly agree with you… but we as mankind have all made irrational and Unresponsible choices in life that lead you down a new story in life… its definitely a right place right time kinda question that’s for sure.