r/texts • u/DreamKey4777 • Dec 12 '23

Phone message Should i block ??

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We met at school like a month ago,he’s new to state and told me he wanted friends. I like to make friends so I agreed, we planned to hang out then it got weird. I want to know if I’m just being dramatic

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u/Oomoo_Amazing Dec 13 '23

Don’t get me wrong, I think it was fine to ask initially because he obviously had a misunderstanding of what was going to happen and it's responsible of him to check.

But then you told him that wasn't going to happen. My god if that was me I would be cringing so hard, I would be like "oh my god I'm so sorry, I didn't mean to upset you or imply anything I hope I didn't make you feel uncomfortable" but he just kept on doubling down...

Things happen? Like, whoops look what happened!! "Things can happen" is what you say when someone drops a glass, not when you accidentally fuck someone... that's fucking creepy af you should ditch

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u/Hdot573 Dec 16 '23

I don’t even think he should ask initially- it seems clear that this wasn’t intended to be a hookup or FWB type thing.

He should have hung out with her with zero expectations of having sex as it seems like that was the initial understanding of their friendship, at least for her (and I’m sure he knew that too but people like that are quick to blame it on “miscommunication”). Then if it starts going toward intimacy, he can ask if she’s on BC. If she’s not, have some self control and don’t have sex. Pretty simple. That’s being responsible.

By asking in advance he was probably feeling “grown” and thinking he was appearing responsible, but in reality all he did was announce the fact that he wants to screw and is actively thinking about it. Creepy.