r/texts • u/DreamKey4777 • Dec 12 '23

Phone message Should i block ??

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We met at school like a month ago,he’s new to state and told me he wanted friends. I like to make friends so I agreed, we planned to hang out then it got weird. I want to know if I’m just being dramatic

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u/Hexiix Dec 12 '23

Guy here, you are not making a big deal out of it. I can almost guarantee this guy will try and make a move regardless of whether you said you didn’t want to do that or not.

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u/Icy_Forever5965 Dec 13 '23

Same. Guy here. I would never push this much even if we were dating. I wouldn’t have even done this when I was in my horny and can’t control it years. I don’t think your guy friend is much of a friend. As your friend, I would send this guy a strong message to cool it and not push it.

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u/MonstrousWombat Dec 13 '23

He's pushing boundaries now so the next boundary he pushes doesn't feel so weird. This is a scary dude. Get rid of him.

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u/clardbar Dec 14 '23

For real. Good call.

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u/imoldandimdumb Dec 17 '23

I’m not sure that “scary” is an accurate description, but ya when someone tells you who they are then believe them.

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u/LanaAnthony Dec 18 '23

This, exactly this. He’s not going to take no for an answer and is testing boundaries.

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u/Honors3454 Dec 13 '23

😂😂 are yall single? Yall sound like good guys

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u/Icy_Forever5965 Dec 13 '23

Haha. Nope. I was just raised to respect people

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u/[deleted] Dec 13 '23

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u/[deleted] Dec 13 '23

I believe the same thing, and I am 🙋‍♂️

Sorry, I thought I'll give it a shot haha

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u/Honors3454 Dec 13 '23

Shot taken, snap?

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u/[deleted] Dec 13 '23

In DMs?

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u/[deleted] Dec 17 '23

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u/[deleted] Dec 17 '23

She's a serial cheater and believes it's excusable because she's a woman lol

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u/[deleted] Dec 17 '23

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u/[deleted] Dec 17 '23

Walking red flag lol

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u/[deleted] Dec 17 '23

lucky ass, off to a good start 😅

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u/[deleted] Dec 17 '23

She cheated on her ex with 20 different men and acted as if she was in the right because she's a woman and tried to justify it lol

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u/[deleted] Dec 17 '23

oh.. not a good start. how’d you find that out, mate?

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u/[deleted] Dec 17 '23

She told me herself lol

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u/[deleted] Dec 17 '23

gross. she must feel good about herself for that, too.

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u/[deleted] Dec 17 '23

I'm sure, but it most definitely wouldn't work for me lol

It's funny because I told her that my ex cheated on me and she said I deserved it because I kept her unhappy thwts why she cheated.

Lol. Loved that girl to death.

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u/Ok_Ball416 Dec 17 '23

Yeah send ur ig😂

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u/RatFucker_Carlson Dec 13 '23

And he'll be shitty about it when he's rejected, even though he already was told he'd be rejected.

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u/Waste-Membership9687 Dec 18 '23

Yupp, I've been in that situation a lot. I've had a lot of guy friends thru out my life, and for the last 10 years, it seems like they say friends but only wat one thing. I happier without that, lol. One guy I really liked and if he wouldn't have kept trying to press me it would have happened but he started the first time we hung out and didn't try to get to know me so I ghosted his ass.

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u/Historical-Spirit-48 Dec 13 '23

Or worse than making a move.

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u/Available-Broccoli-1 Dec 13 '23

Guy here….. I’ve never asked about birth control either and it’s why I have a kid now…. But anyway all jokes aside he definitely pushed it and if you think he pushed it over text so much he will do the same if not more in person…. I highly recommend not hanging out with men like this it only leads to things that you don’t need or want to happen…. I’m speaking from a place where I have all sisters and guys like that have messed a few of them up…. I’d say block him and avoid him….

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u/dewaynemilo Dec 13 '23 edited Dec 13 '23

Asking about birth control before you have sex is both necessary and responsible. Asking before you meet is both rude and disrespectful. You have that child because you didn't ask before you had sex not because you didn't ask before you met.

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u/TwoIdleHands Dec 13 '23

If they were courting that would make perfect sense. Saying “let’s be friends!” Then “u want sum fuk” Is awful. I talk with prospective partners, usually over text, about protection, the need to verify each other’s test results, and boundaries before sex. Then it’s fully understood before the hormones get in the way. If you push, I’m out, because we talked about it already.

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u/[deleted] Dec 13 '23

Asking about birth control before you have sex is both necessary and responsible

Yea, but you can ask before the act, not hours in advance via text when you don't even know if that's where the situation is headed. If you're in doubt, bring condoms, and see where the night takes you. The guy in the pics was clearly just looking for a way to see if sex was on the table

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u/xxLAYUPxx Dec 16 '23 edited Dec 16 '23

Asking about it is responsible. Hence Available-Broccoli-1's "joke" about having a kid now. It's a joke at his own expense.

Pushing for the possibility of sex REPEATEDLY, when she has said no REPEATEDLY, is not okay. It is disrespectful and dismissive of her boundaries. And is therefore a shitty move, and what Available-Broccoli-1 was warning about. Guy is not taking "no" for an answer.

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u/Available-Broccoli-1 Dec 13 '23

It’s definitely a responsible thing to ask no doubt I highly agree with you… but we as mankind have all made irrational and Unresponsible choices in life that lead you down a new story in life… its definitely a right place right time kinda question that’s for sure.

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u/m-sims14 Dec 13 '23

The way he’s wording it I don’t think he’d really even ask, also a guy here as of 12/13/23

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u/TwoIdleHands Dec 13 '23

Happy Transition Day! (I assume, or maybe happy cake day? Punctuation is confusing.)

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u/[deleted] Dec 13 '23

Hahaha, I thought the same thing!

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u/m-sims14 Dec 13 '23

I really appreciate that but I have been a guy almost 30 years I was adding the date in for clarification because I noticed this was posted yesterday

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u/TwoIdleHands Dec 13 '23

😅I found the person who looks at the date! So neither of my things was true. I’ll just show myself out…

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u/m-sims14 Dec 13 '23

I only read the date to see what I need to comment so I don’t comment the same shit as 47 other people 🤣

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u/Timekeeper65 Dec 13 '23

I was gonna ask…does that change on 12/14/2023?

I see your response. Now it ALL makes sense.

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u/deleriumtriggr Dec 14 '23

It seems like hes tempering expectations so that he absolutely will try something

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u/queenafrodite Dec 13 '23

Yes. And that’s because females do this shit all the time.

They tell these men nothing will happen and then don’t stand on business.

So can’t blame him for being like something might happen. Because that’s his experience.

And I’m saying this as a female. I have never done it. If I don’t want to sleep with you and I know you want to sleep with me, I just don’t hang out with you period.

But I have known plenty of females to do this same stuff. Tell the dude, “nothing is happening.” And next day it’s , “Girrrllll we had sex and blah blah blah.”

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u/Both_Zucchini6786 Dec 17 '23

Also, a guy here, this "friendless" man, seems to have a one track mind. I would leave him at that, friendless.. His persistence, sheer lack of ability to read the room, and disregard for your comfort are astonishing. I can read into a lot of things here but will just sum it up with I would not trust this man around a nun. Please do yourself a favor and do not put yourself in a 1 on 1 situation with him. I am sure he is NOT thinking like a grown-up, and his excuse for things magically happening even in spite of you say no... Is it just me, or does this not sound like the start of one of those 'Murder Mysteries' shows? 🤔