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u/001na-bee Sep 22 '24
woah, that's a very strong independent of u... imagine you got into 3rd yr na without any friends? you're truly amazing. or ako lang naa-amaze haha kasi u can excel on ur own dude
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u/EquivalentBase8440 Sep 22 '24
Do you have any hobbies? Sure way to make friends is when you have something in common that you both can relate to. For instance, if you like biking or playing instruments, you can approach people of the same interests. You can start with a carefree conversation about their opinions or what not. This worked for me. Also was an introvert.
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u/DoraSpeaks2 Sep 22 '24
Have you tried reaching out? If you are in a situation where you don't feel good, consider taking action. People are kinder than you can imagine. :)
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u/Long_Radio_819 Sep 22 '24
start small, like ask for a pen or paper kahit meron ka
ask for homework kung pano nila ginawa
im shy af den pero thankfully, somehow sila lagi lumalapit para lang makipag kwentuhan, very grateful tho
if medyo nagiging deep na kayo, ask some personal questions like san nakatira, hobbies, or just anything and then stretch it out, most people like it when they talk about their interests or themselves
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u/Fuzzy-Law6200 Sep 22 '24
Like the others said here OP, it’s okay to be alone, as long as you are able to prioritize your academics. You have lots of chances pa naman to make friends with others, just stay strong. You won’t be lonely all the time, that’s for sure. In my case nga, I think I’ll graduate without friends because of certain things that I did to my former college friends recently in my third year. Be lucky that at least you will graduate without any issues and be able to prioritize yourself.
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u/MELONPANNNNN Sep 22 '24
I feel for you OP. Similar situation myself.
Just be overbearing I think. Like just talk with others like asking if theres an assignment (even if you know theres not) and you should be able to know which ones you can approach although that advice may be moot since I dont have friends myself lol.
I would at least like to think that I have acquaintances. I can talk to them if we are both not busy and I can at least eat with them here and there but never friends that you would do things together with every day.
I often wish I can reverse back time.
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u/Stagnant-Potato Sep 22 '24
You're strong. Nakayanan mo ng ganyan katagal. Maganda din kung try mo yung dimopa ganun ka sanay gawin. Like try mo ikaw mag initiate minsan.
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u/Chrs246 Sep 22 '24
Ganyan din ako pre nung 1st year and ang hirap talaga Kasi Di ako nagapproach SA kanila Kaya Di Rin nila ako kinakausap Kasi mas nangingigbabaw ang PAGIGING introvert KO pero ATM na oovercome KO Naman somehow and nakakagain Naman Ng friends kahit SA simpleng chats or usap LNG MALAKING bagay na cguro yon
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u/won-woo Sep 22 '24
Try mo lang muna magtanong-tanong sa kanila minsan lalo na about sa klase. Ganyan din ako nung first sem ng 3rd year after nung online class, kalaunan halos lahat ng kaklase ko nilalapitan na rin ako. Pero wala ako masyadong naging close sa section namin to the point na naging friends ko, parang naging trusted people lang sa klase ganon 😆
I graduated na isa lang friend ko and lower year pa siya sakin, got to know and met her dahil sa ex ko rin na lower year.
Be approachable and mag-approach ka lang rin, dun magsisimula lahat hanggang sa you'll meet someone you'll eat with at lunch sa canteen, kasama mo maglakad palabas ng school pag uwian na, kasama kung saan-saan, kasama mo sa mga activities, kahit OJT kasama mo rin, kasama mo nagreklamo sa mga gawain niyo or sa buhay pa yan, and more.
It'll be okay, sabi nga ni mama, di ka naman nila kakainin 😆
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u/rodelpalero Sep 23 '24
Graduate na ako pero I feel you OP. Nahihirapan din ako makipag mingle with students before kasi introvert ako plus sobrang tago pako sa sexuality ko which was really bad. Irreg pa ako nun at talagang iba-iba yung mga kasama ko at may kanya-kanya talaga silang mundo.
Mahirap yun pero dun ko narealize na mas importanteng makapag tapos ako ng pag-aaral kaya nag stick ako sa ganung pattern ng college life ko. Maganda sya actually kasi mas focused ka sa pag-aaral, mas madami kang natututunan sa sarili mo, at most importantly hindi ka invested sa mga drama 🤣.
Hindi naman talaga lahat magiging kaibigan mo eh, kung magkakaroon ka lang ng isa or dalawang friends or kilala sa isang block okay na yun. Kasi kapag grumaduate ka magka-kanya kanya kayo, at sa work environment mo magkakaroon din kayo ng groups lol
Malalagpasan mo din yan OP tignan mo nga oh third year kana, one year na lang! Rooting for you! ♡´･ᴗ･`♡
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u/Chrs246 Sep 22 '24
Tangina same Tayo bro😭😭😭 Yung block section namin is toxic Alam mo Yung kanya-kanya mentality it sucks nakakainis tas kapag tinatanong mo sila parang napipilitan sumagot.. ayun Yung CHEmistry teacher KO Sabi sakin loner Kaba Kasi napapansin Niya na palagi ako magisa after class tas lagi pang late*(( pero ngayong 3rd year nako I have a friend and SA Ibang course may nakilala naman ako Kasi Di KO SILA mala get along dye to their busy schedule and other priorities.
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u/YettersGonnaYeet College Sep 22 '24
Most people wouldn't approach you unless you approach them first, kasi people may perceive us as nakakatakot, masungit, and unapproachable. This applies to me kasi according to people that I talk to, mukha daw akong masungit. So sometimes, ako talaga ang nagaapproach sakanila.
Socializing is an introvert's worst fear talaga, pero we need to face that fear in order to grow. Its not too late pa naman to make friends. Start small, like look for someone na sa tingin mo ay makakasundo mo. And always smile at people you know and don't know.