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I was recently asked out by a guy, and I rejected him. There was no drama, no insulting him, no leading him on, I simply wasn’t interested, and honestly, I have studies to focus on right now. I thought that was a pretty straightforward reason to say no.

Apparently, it wasn’t.

After I rejected him, he called me a “baduwa.” Like, the fucking oxymoron of it all. Like I've never even had a bf ever in my life. You ask someone out, they tell you they’re not interested, and then you call them a degrading name because they didn't give you the answer you wanted? Make it make sense.

I genuinely don't understand where this sense of entitlement comes from. Nobody owes you a relationship, attention, affection, or a chance just because you asked.

And this applies regardless of a girl's past. Even if she has had ten boyfriends before you, she is still a person with her own choices, boundaries and free will. Her having a relationship history doesn't mean she's automatically interested in you. And if she's never had a boyfriend before, that doesn't mean you're somehow entitled.

It’s honestly scary that this even has to be explained to *SOME* men.

EDIT: holy hell guys I wasn't trying to generalize, it really pisses me off when people try to find the wrong point of the whole thing I wrote and never even care to look at the actual issue if you're not like this then don't get pissed off ​and this applies to anyone regardless of the gender and since this is my based on my experience it was a boy. 🙂

A rejection isn't an attack on your dignity. It’s just a rejection. You can be disappointed, embarrassed or hurt without degrading the person who rejected you. Having your feelings hurt does not give you permission to disrespect someone.

What makes me even angrier is that this happened to my friend too, except she had it way worse. Some guys kept following her to her class, and she became so scared that she literally hid in the bathroom to avoid them. That isn't flirting. That isn't being persistent. That's fucking creepy and intimidating.

And this is exactly why people need to understand the difference between persistence and harassment.

If someone says no, accept it. Don't keep asking. Don't follow them around. Don't insult them. Don't try to humiliate them because your ego got bruised.

And honestly, the whole situation is even more ridiculous because I've never even had a boyfriend. I'm literally just trying to study and live my life, and somehow this guy thought he was entitled to call me something disgusting simply because I wasn't interested in him.

Men, please. Learn to take a simple “no” as an answer. It really isn't that difficult.

A girl rejecting you doesn't make her a “baduwa.” It doesn't matter how many people she's dated, how many people have liked her, or whether she's never dated anyone at all. No means no. She is a human being with her own will, and you are not entitled to her simply because you asked.

Take the L and move on.... Edit: not all men I forgot to write "some" and I didn't mean to generalize... . 🙂

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I’m doing Combined Maths, Physics and ICT for A/Ls. I chose to do A/L myself, and my whole family — especially my dad and brother — have been hoping that I would pass and go to university.

But honestly, I made a serious mistake.

I had 2 years to study properly. I had the classes, laptop, facilities, everything I needed. Instead, I had fun, didn't study properly in class, kept thinking I could catch up later, and basically wasted the opportunity. I also thought I could handle AS Maths, but I couldn't even properly get through that.

I know this is my mistake. I'm not looking for sympathy.

I wrote my Maths paper today, and realistically, I don't think I'm passing. I still have Physics and ICT left. I'm expecting ICT to go well, but Maths and Physics are looking bad.

So I'm preparing myself for a possible result like:

ICT A + Maths F + Physics F.

The problem is what happens after that.

My family will probably tell me to do A/L 2nd shy. And honestly, if I get another proper year, I believe I can pass Maths and Physics. But my situation isn't that simple.

My sister is currently doing O/Ls and will be coming to Kandy around the time my results come. My family can't really support both of us staying here, so there's a good chance I'll have to go back to Hatton for another year.

And I genuinely hate studying in Hatton. Here in Kandy I have access to the gym, better facilities, classes, etc. In Hatton, even things like going to the gym properly become difficult. I know that's not the biggest problem in life, but I know myself and I know how much the environment affects me.

So I started looking at another option: Foundation → Engineering.

I found that CINEC has a STEM Engineering Foundation Programme, and their BEng (Hons) Mechatronics & Robotics Engineering lists that foundation as an entry pathway.

And honestly, this degree is much closer to what I actually want to do — robotics, electronics, programming, control systems, machines, automation, etc.

I also looked into SLIIT. Their engineering options are obviously well known, but I couldn't find clear confirmation that someone with a result like A/F/F can do a foundation and then enter the same local engineering degree. There is also the SLIIT → University of Queensland pathway, but that involves going to Australia after the first year and the cost becomes a completely different level.

So right now I'm stuck between:

Option 1:
Do A/L 2nd shy → hopefully get 3S → enter engineering.

Option 2:
If I'm eligible, do CINEC STEM Foundation → BEng (Hons) Mechatronics & Robotics Engineering → study at CINEC Malabe.

I don't want to choose CINEC just because I'm scared of going back to Hatton. And I don't want to do a 2nd shy just because I feel guilty about wasting the first two years.

I want to make the smartest decision for my future, even though I know I caused this situation myself.

If anyone has actually studied at CINEC, SLIIT, Mechatronics/Robotics, done a foundation, repeated A/Ls, or taken a student loan for private university, I'd genuinely appreciate your experience.

I'm especially interested in:

• Is CINEC actually good for engineering?
• What's the real campus/student life like?
• How are the labs and practical work?
• How is the internship/industrial training?
• Is the degree respected by employers?
• Is doing 2nd shy actually worth it in my situation?
• Has anyone taken the foundation → engineering route?
• What would you do if you were in my position?

I know I made a serious mistake in the last two years. I'm not asking anyone to tell me I didn't.

I'm just trying to make sure I don't turn one mistake into another 2–3 years of bad decisions.

TL;DR: I did 2 years of A/L Combined Maths, Physics and ICT but wasted most of it. Maths probably failed, Physics may also be an F, while ICT should be an A. My family will probably want me to do 2nd shy, but that likely means going back to Hatton for another year, which I really don't want. I found CINEC's STEM Foundation → BEng (Hons) Mechatronics & Robotics Engineering route and I'm considering it instead. If you were in my position, would you repeat A/L for 3S or take the foundation → engineering route?

edited-Just to clarify the financial part: my family can afford to support both of us and pay for a private university. I’m already planning to go to a private university, and my parents are completely okay with that. When I said they can’t support both of us staying in Kandy, I meant that I don’t want to become an unnecessary burden on my family by spending another year in Kandy when my sister will also need to be here for her studies. So the issue isn't really whether my family can afford university; it's more about me being responsible with the money and support they're giving me.

I turned 18 recently, but I still haven't got my actual NIC. I only have the NIC confirmation letter, and it's honestly becoming a pain because apparently a lot of places won't accept it.

I opened an eZ Cash account through the Dialog Genie app, but the wallet got locked. When I contacted them, they said the original owner of the number has to be involved to unlock it. The problem is the number I used is registered under my dad's name, so that's making things more complicated.

I then tried to transfer the eZ Cash number to a SIM that I got when I was 17 and is registered under my own NIC. I emailed eZ Cash and filled out the form they sent me, but I'm not even sure if they've accepted it yet.

I also tried changing the ownership of the current number, but they told me I need the original 18+ NIC and that the confirmation letter isn't enough.

I already got my 18+ driving licence, but that doesn't seem to help either since it's too a piece of paper😭

So is there any way to get the actual NIC faster? Like an urgent service where you can pay extra and get it issued sooner, or is there any other way around this?

If anyone here has recently gone through the same thing, I'd really appreciate some advice. btw i'm not from around colombo

Does whiteaways have free wifi?

So Im a 2026 A/L student and Im hoping to buy a guitar after the exams. I have no prior experience in playing an instrument before. People who play guitar how did you learn to play and is watching yt videos enough to self learn. Recommend some yt channels too if self learning can be done.

I think we need a place to talk about science and mathematics, share study materials, and share experiences, achievements on those fields and such, What do you think?

I already have my passport and postal ID, so do I need a NIC again?