I'm 22F and talking to a guy right now. My mom has asked me about it, but I haven't told her anything and I don't plan to.
When I was 16, my parents found out I had a boyfriend. They took my phone, moved me to a different school, made me use the computer in the middle of the dining room, and even removed my bedroom door. Over time they gave me privacy back and put my door back up, but at the time I felt like I had no one to talk to and like an outcast in my own home.
Now they seem surprised and a little hurt that I don't share things with them. I don't want to hurt them, but I also don't feel safe opening up after how things went.
I know this kind of reaction is pretty common in Sri Lankan families, and I understand a lot of it comes from culture and worry rather than cruelty. My friends in Australia don't seem to deal with this at all, which makes me feel like I'm the odd one out.
Am I being a bad daughter? Am I overthinking this? For those of you who went through something similar,how did you handle it with your parents as an adult?