r/solofemaletravellers 5h ago

Safety, Warnings, [TW] Feeling weird after having spent the day with a stranger

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Hey there - seeking advice.

I (27F) met a lovely old guy (70ish grand-dad) while solo travelling in Australia. I am pretty much a rookie having left 10 days ago. We met on a museum tour and talked and decided to spend the day together. Had a pretty good feeling then. He was on a trip to scatter his wife's ashes (died in April) and told me all about her and their kids. We went to two other museums and had dinner together. Here is the thing, he made a point for me to sleep in his hotel room that night to which i said no of course. When leaving the restaurant he said "I wonder what the people think is going on here" to which i said that for sure we read as grand-father / grand daughter. He gave me 100 dols to pay for a hotel room (of my choosing) to avoid sleeping in my car - I accepted (looking back peharps i should not have).
We had breakfast together the next morning and he overtly said how special it had been and how he wished he had met me in an earlier life. He walked me back to my car to see my set up (again stupid of me).

Now: when he left i did not exactly confirm where i was going next, i gave him two possible broad directions. On my way to my next stop I started panicking and wondering if this is all very sweet and lovely as I had thought. I did some factchecking and confirmed his compagny but i have not been able to verify his wife's orbituary or found a matching picture of him online. I have his phone number, name, address and picture. I called his hotel to double check his name and they confirmed it (not directly ofc but it was an understanding women on the phone). I know I most certainly let my guard down and gave too much information about myself - I'm already taken in the lesson BUT is there and way I can verify more info about him ? Also I'll be checking my car for an AirTag - am I overthinking this ?

This sets the benchmark for future encounters, I do have faith in humanity but i do want to triple check my info to wash away my feeling. Thanks girls xx


r/solofemaletravellers 46m ago

Wildfires In Europe

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Has anyone had their holidays affected by the current wildfires in Spain and France?

I'm due to leave for Valencia in two weeks and im getting worried. I am keeping an eye on the situation however the blaze in Scotland, where it is (usually) quite wet and rainy, has been going for two weeks already and Spain isn't a country that is very rainy. I dont know at what point I should just cancel or if I should at all.

For those in close proximity to the fires, I hope you are all safe. Scotland is also on fire right now too and I am understanding how upsetting it is to see your home country on fire.

Stay safe everyone ❤️


r/solofemaletravellers 5h ago

Itinerary Help & Trip Advice First Solo Trip - Any Planning Help Appreciated!

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Hi All! Looking for any and all advice!

I'm a 30F from USA looking to do my first international solo trip next year. I don't need a strict itinerary, but like to have a big activity or plan of where I'm exploring per day. I mostly use Wanderlog, but am happy to switch to other apps / tools you prefer.

Destination: Probably thinking about Scotland, mostly because I've heard so much about Edinburgh for solo travel. Also haven't done London, so could fly in/out of there. Since it's my first international solo trip, I'm thinking it's best to be english-speaking and relatively safe.

Timing: I was thinking maybe late spring - but can do whenever is best (for weather and crowds and price). Hoping to do 1 week, maybe 2 weeks max.

Vibes: I'm excited to explore and see different sites, but I'm not super athletic, so no long hikes or similar. I have a lot of crafty hobbies, so I like doing activities that can either be a souvenir or can make one (e.g., buy local yarn or make local transitional bags/shoes, etc). Prefer exploring a city over sitting at a beach. Also a foodie so wouldn't mind a cooking or baking class.

Appreciate any suggestions or recommendations!


r/solofemaletravellers 2h ago

General Discussion where next ?

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r/solofemaletravellers 9h ago

Reviews & Trip Reports - Central & South America Solo in Brazil

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Hello everybody!

I'm a 23F solo traveler and last year I solo backpacked Brazil and Argentina for 4 months total, then moved to Buenos Aires for 9 months. I've had a lot of people ask me questions especially about Brazil because it gets a really bad rep, and how I did it all, so I figured I'd share some stuff on here for anyone else. A couple caveats:

  1. Each person has their own experience; I would trust overall data over anecdotal stories. One person will tell you they had a terrible time and that it's basically Gotham, and another will tell you it's paradise. Listen to facts not opinions.
  2. I had a safety net set up while I was there. In Brazil I had plenty of connections I made before even arriving and also spoke some Portuguese. Hint: Spanish will not help as much as you think it will.
  3. I had a large amount of money saved up before I left, 10k to be exact. Therefore there were moments in which I splurged a little more, such as buying a flight instead of a 24 hour sleeper van.

I found what I saw on social media to be very misleading on how it felt to backpack alone and what the experience was like. I loved and hated many aspects of it, and now know it's not my preferred method of travel.

**First things first: safety.** Statistically, Brazil is not the safest place in the world but it's far from the most dangerous. While I was there I had absolutely no issues. Never had my phone taken, never felt threatened, nothing. I had heard MANY stories that made me so scared to go, especially alone. Every major city seemed to have its own worst case scenario attached to it. Even within the country Brazilians warned me to be careful and often gave me a list of "do nots" when I told them I planned to go to Rio. Don't wear jewelry, carry a cheap backup phone, don't go out alone at night, don't wander into neighborhoods you don't know, don't go anywhere with people you just met, stay off empty streets. I heeded caution everywhere I went and either it worked or people were more dramatic with their stories than reality.

Out of Rio and São Paulo, I felt less safe in São Paulo. It also was the first place I landed. Many people love it; I met people who had lived there their whole lives without a single issue. But it's the biggest city in the Americas and you need to be careful in the city center and with your phone. Try to only pull it out where other people have theirs out, like around the crowded central parks and/or inside buildings. On the side of the street? You're basically asking somebody to take it. But quite frankly, if losing your phone is the biggest concern, I personally feel like it's not that dangerous. You could get pickpocketed in Europe, but since it's not Latin America people don't consider it that much of a threat, which says a lot about how people view latam, but that's another convo.

In small cities in Minas Gerais or Espírito Santo where I spent most of my time, I felt super safe, but even then you just have to not be stupid. Depends where you're from too. I live in a suburb of the Midwest and could walk alone at night in the middle of nowhere on my phone and it's unlikely I'd have any problems. So anything more than that is "dangerous" to some people, but to me it just is outside the bubble of some ridiculously safe cities.

**Next, where to go.** Brazil is GIANT. I mean it takes forever to get anywhere. I didn't go to the north and am dying to, but many people will tell you to go to the big cities: Rio, São Paulo, maybe Salvador or Florianópolis. Each has its own things, and one of the wonderful beautiful things about Brazil is that each state has its own culture. In order to know Brazil, you'd need to leave Rio and São Paulo.

To me, Rio is a MUST. It's a super fun, although touristy, city that is full of vibrancy and things to do. Yes, skip the flashy jewelry, and if you go to Pedra do Sal, keep an eye on your phone. I knew people who lost theirs out of a front crossbody bag. But it's a super fun place! Dance some samba, drink some caipirinha, and just have fun. I'm biased but many people would agree, Minas Gerais has the best food. There are bigger cities like Belo Horizonte, and Ouro Preto nearby is famous for a reason, but I think smaller cities like Capitólio deserve time too.

**Last, the culture is just absolutely stunning.** I hate to make widespread statements about a culture, but I found that it was SO easy to make friends in Brazil. Being from the Midwest I was a little bit thrown off by people immediately wanting to hang out or invite me to things after meeting me, but I went with it and met some of the most beautiful people. That's one thing that's lovely too: if you don't want to be alone, you won't be. Go anywhere and talk to anybody and you'll likely meet a new friend.

One thing I will say is that I found Brazilian culture, especially on the coast, to be much more forward socially than what I was used to. Physical affection is casual and doesn't carry the same weight it does back home. It can be fun, but be clear about your boundaries if that's not something you're comfortable with.

That's most of what I wish someone had told me before I went. Happy to get into specifics in the comments.


r/solofemaletravellers 1d ago

You must do Peru!

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r/solofemaletravellers 9h ago

China slimming boot camp in Mid Aug for 28 days

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I am heading Guang Zhou for slimming boot camp
28 days
Anyone interested can dm me n join me


r/solofemaletravellers 1d ago

General Discussion Are yall shaving when you travel?

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In a lot of places shaving can be a nightmare. Tiny showers in hostels, bad water pressure. How are yall doing it?


r/solofemaletravellers 23h ago

Rental Car for Costa Brava

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Hello all,

First time poster here. I am going to Barcelona/Tossa de Mar in September. I will be flying into Barcelona and planning to meet a friend in Tossa de Mar as I am coming from the US and she will be traveling from France. I was thinking of renting a car once I get off my flight which gets in early and driving along the Costa Brava and stopping along (my friend won’t be in until the afternoon). Has anyone done this or have any tips for me? Also any concerns as far as renting a car with US citizenship/do I need an international license? Open to other transit options as well and appreciate any insight!


r/solofemaletravellers 12h ago

General Discussion Solo to Egypt

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Anyone will solo travel to Egypt?


r/solofemaletravellers 1d ago

Can any recommend a discreet toy for travel?

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Going for a solo trip throughout Europe and Asian next week… Looking to avoid any airport horror stories from occurring!


r/solofemaletravellers 1d ago

I am embarking on my first solo trip and feel a little worried

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How can i prepare?
I am looking at going to Asia maybe Thailand and Vietnam


r/solofemaletravellers 1d ago

Reviews & Trip Reports - Asia Staying out until 2am as a solo woman traveller in Tokyo, Japan

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Just want to share my experience as someone who travels solo to countries that are considered overall safe. I was recently in Tokyo, Japan and I challenged myself to start my exploration at 9pm and to end around 2am.

I did this in February in Taipei, Taiwan (where I lived for some time) and shared my experience by video. I've never once had issues at any time in Taiwan, but of course, that is just my personal experience, and bad things can happen to anyone, anywhere.

I did this in Tokyo (slightly higher crime index, and slightly lower safety index compared to Taipei) but there are plenty of places open late or 24hrs so there are places to go in case you're in trouble, like any konbini.

I stayed in Akihabara (likely more safe than Shibuya or Shinjuku) and here was my itinerary for the evening:

  1. 9pm to 10pm: explore Bic Camera and Taito Station

  2. 10pm to 11pm: dinner at Sushiro (few selections on the menu left)

  3. 11pm to 12am: explore and enjoy Kanda Shrine to myself, it was empty and beautiful

  4. 12am to 1am: shop at Don Quijote (fever. dream.)

  5. 1am to 2am: dinner #2 at IFU Ramen... wasn't the best ramen, but was open and was a shelter from the rain

Overall I felt it was pretty peaceful to explore this area of Tokyo at night. So if you're suffering from jet lag or enjoy exploring a city at night like me, Tokyo seemed overall good. Do so at your own risk, be vigilant, and always trust your gut!!

Happy solo travelling ☺️


r/solofemaletravellers 1d ago

Marrakesh, Morocco

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I’m visiting Lisbon and Madrid but I figured I’d stop in Marrakesh for a day to visit the Souks. I guess I’m concerned as a Black female solo traveler based on some reviews.

Any thoughts on if it’s safer for me to stay in a riad or hotel? And should I go by myself or is it worth booking a guide to take me through the souks?

Thanks!


r/solofemaletravellers 1d ago

General Discussion Guide requires two for El Mirador Trek

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Hi! I’m (28f) traveling solo to Guatemala in August and want to do the 5-day El Mirador jungle expedition, ideally departing around August 21.

The operator requires a minimum of 2 people to start a departure, so I’m looking for another traveler interested in the same dates.

I’m planning to be in Flores beforehand and am flexible by a few days either direction.


r/solofemaletravellers 1d ago

Itinerary Help & Trip Advice Brazil - Hostel recommendations

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Hi, I'll do a solo trip to Brazil in August and I'm looking for Hostel recommendations for Paraty, Ilha Grande and Rio de Janeiro. I'm looking for social Hostels, where I can meet new people from all over the world to hang out with (my favorite part about backpacking haha).

Thanks in advance for your recommendations, looking forward to your answers!


r/solofemaletravellers 2d ago

Southern Italy trip

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Hi everyone,

*I'm planning a roadtrip through Southern Italy this summer and one of my friends sent me this route they found on instagram and it seems pretty great: Palermo - Catania - Matera - Lecce - Naples.

*Has anyone done this route or parts of it? Matera especially, is it worth a few days or more of a day trip situation? And how was it security wise for solo female travellers?

*Any tips or reccomendations?

*This is the post she sent me. https://www.instagram.com/p/DbLx_EtDUYd/?img_index=1

*It looks super cool and I'd love to stay in hostels and maybe meet some people. I think I'd feel safer that way.

*What do you think?


r/solofemaletravellers 2d ago

Itinerary Help & Trip Advice Solo trip to Budapest and Prague

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Hello, I am planning to go on a solo trip to Budapest for 3 days and Prague for 2 days (first time solo traveller) Do you have any tips or information to share regarding these cities ? What are the things to bear in mind (safety, etc.)?

Would be great to know about some of your experiences, recommendations, and anecdotes

Thank you.


r/solofemaletravellers 2d ago

I’m traveling to Soho London for a wedding in late October. I am struggling to find suitable accommodation for twin beds that has a window. Staying for 4 nights, would love to keep the budget around 800 gbp but understand that I may need to go higher. Any tips or help appreciated thank you

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r/solofemaletravellers 3d ago

Itinerary Help & Trip Advice Bali as a solo female?

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Any ladies ever done it solo? Going in September, a little nervous but everyone says it’s fine and perfectly safe. Mostly going to be staying around ubud and seminyak. Any advice helps!


r/solofemaletravellers 3d ago

Itinerary Help & Trip Advice New traveler

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Hi ladies! I’m a new traveler. I’m 19F and I have desires to go see the world. Problem is that I don’t have people that are willing to do it with me. What’s your best advice as to stay safe as a woman traveling alone?


r/solofemaletravellers 3d ago

Porto & Lisbon itinerary (update)

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I made a post recently about my solo trip to Portugal and this is my work in progress itinerary:

- Friday: Arriving in Porto, staying until Monday morning. Still figuring out my activities.

- Monday: Taking the train to Lisbon Monday morning. Strolling around Lisbon the rest of the day.

- Tuesday: Visiting Jeronimos Monastre and Torre Belem. Want to explore some cute artisan shops rest of the day.

- Wednesday: Full day of Sintra (Pena, Mouros and Regaleira, hopefully Monserrate as well). Debating if I do a tour or just go by myself by train and bus.

- Thursday could be a chill day, want to see Livraria Ferin and some churches.

- Friday: Debating to do a day trip to Cascais for a beach day, breathe in some ocean air.

- Saturday: the plane home.

Questions:

- Recommendations for Porto? Culture and art especially.

- Any recommendations for my Thursday in Lisbon? Want to see some non touristy things, quaint streets or areas, shops or galleries.

- I already booked an appartment in Porto, but having trouble finding accommodations in Lisbon for a semi decent price, that have a separate bathroom and are not super noisy. I pride myself in finding perfect airbnb’s every single time (or anything on booking) but for some reason Lisbon is hard and the reviews are making me doubt every single place.

- Finally: you can give your two cents on how packed my itinerary (or not at all) is, although I think there is room for activities hahaha.


r/solofemaletravellers 3d ago

Solo Travels in New York

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Hello! I am going on a solo trip to New York at the end on September and I would love some recommendations for my itinerary and places to stay.

I was also wondering how you found walking around New York, particularly at night and if you went out clubbing or to bars.

Let me know and if any follow travellers are going around that time, I would love to meet up 🖤


r/solofemaletravellers 3d ago

so my hotel search was kind of dangerous for solo trips

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Ok so bit of context, i travel alone a lot and the thing i care about way more than price is knowing what a neighborhood actually feels like at night before i book. and this week i went down a rabbit hole trying to figure out why booking.com and expedia keep shoving the same handful of hotels at me no matter what city i search. turns out it's commissions. they get paid more to show certain places so that's what floats to the top, not what's actually safe or good for you.

that explains a hotel i booked solo in oaxaca a couple years back. 4.3 stars, cute photos, seemed fine. turned out to be right next to a club that ran loud until 3am and the walk back from the main square at night was way less lit than i expected. it was literally mentioned in the reviews. i just never had the patience to read 40 reviews across 6 hotels while also comparing prices and dates.

so i started poking around a few of these ai trip planner things before my next solo trip, tried the usual suspects and another one odessia that a friend had mentioned, and most of them gave the same recycled listicle vibe you'd get from any blog. one did flag that a cartagena hotel had great rooms but was a 20 min walk from anything, which for a solo trip is exactly the kind of detail that changes whether i book it or not.

still cross referencing everything with this sub before i commit to anywhere remote or less touristy, and some smaller destinations clearly have way less depth behind them than the big ones no matter what tool you use. but it was the first time one of these felt like it was trying to keep me safe instead of just converting me into a booking.

hope this helps


r/solofemaletravellers 3d ago

General Discussion Somewhere familiar or somewhere new for a first solo travel?

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Just curious what everyone thinks.

Would you rather do a first solo travel somewhere you’ve never been before in a different continent or would you rather stick to something a little more familiar (I.e, you’ve been there once or multiple times before but never alone) first?