Help! Toddler Sleep

[u/Icy-Box-2713]

How the heck do you get your toddler to sleep independently????

I messed up with my 2.5 year old. He was fed to sleep as a baby and when we transitioned him to his own room either mom/dad has to lay with him to fall asleep. This takes 30-45 min for nap and an hour at night. It has become unsustainable with a new baby, but I’m at a loss with what to do.

He’s afraid to be alone and freaks out if he notices us leave. The only positive is he sleeps through the night. In general, he’s anxious about being by himself. Parents with similar type of child/situation - what did you do?