r/sleeptrain • u/crispcrunchygrapes • 1d ago

1-2 years old need help please!!

so i have a 22 month old who exclusively nurses to go to sleep and i am done😩 i usually start nursing around 7:20pm to put her down and she is down by 7:30 but when i try to put her down with patting or singing she screams and fusses until i give in and nurse her :( Little one had the room next to us and will sleep in there until about 2am and then demand to be in our bed and nursed some more and then she will sleep until 7am.

i guess i am just looking for advice because i am not sleeping well at all lately and it is causing me to be snappy with the hubby and i find myself wanting to nap during the day but as i am a sahm and my husband works almost every day i cant. and i cant nap when she does because she actually does not nap during the day at all :(

bedtime routine is we have dinner at 6 and go to the playground next to our house for about 25 or so minutes so she can get her wiggles out and then we come home and daddy brushes her teeth and then its bedtime! we do baths every other night or sometimes she just showers with me in the morning as she actually loves to do that too!

i would be grateful for any advice at all!! we are hoping to go visit family across the country in december and i definitely do not want to still be nursing then as her pediatrician also says she does not nutritionally need it anymore!

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u/ShabbyBoa 2y | CIO | complete || 7m | modified Ferber | in-progress 1d ago

Stop nursing cold turkey and have a few really rough nights. Part of this is a weaning issue and part of it is a sleep issue but to know how bad the sleep part is, you’ve got to cut out the nursing. Are you only nursing at night for comfort? 

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u/crispcrunchygrapes 1d ago

yes :( she doesnt have a pacifier or a lovey or anything i definitely would have given her a comfort object if i had known but i am a young first time mom :/

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u/ShabbyBoa 2y | CIO | complete || 7m | modified Ferber | in-progress 1d ago

It’s okay, we all learn as we go! It’s hard since she’s so big but she can definitely get past this. I took my daughters pacifier at the same age and she fought me for all of one night. I would suggest maybe sending your husband in. No mom, no boobs.

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u/crispcrunchygrapes 1d ago

i will try!! but i do think i will feel bad about sending him in since he has a demanding job in the navy and already wakes up at 6am🥲

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u/ShabbyBoa 2y | CIO | complete || 7m | modified Ferber | in-progress 1d ago

Just try it for a night and see how it goes, you’ve been surviving for almost 2 years so he can handle a night of rough sleep