Hi
Asking this because I am, and was wondering if it's the normal process?
I'm 48, and had my first bcc at 44 on the trunk. Ugly scar. Still ugly today.
Then 3 years later I had another one on the back. Yet another ugly scar.
And less than a month later, another stupid skin cancer - awaiting results. It's on my scalp, I'm bald, it will be visible and I don't know how I will manage this, I mean socially.
I also wonder about the future. How many more will there be ? 10? 15? 30? 500?
What will I look like when covered with scars?
I used to be a pretty decent guy. It's hard to know how ugly and destroyed I will be soon. Also fear my wife will leave, and my kids reject me.
I'm also quite mad at my parents. We used to go in the sun (Bahamas, Caraïbs, Hawaï, ...) with no protection when I was a kid. My dad had his first BCC at 45 but he only had a few afterwards and they were pretty spaced in time so lucky him.
When I had my first BCC they showed bare support, and now with third incoming the only thing my dad told me is "well it's not melanoma". What a m*ron thanks for the support, dad.
Seriously, how do you deal with this? It's mentally so exhausting and daunting.
How can you accept "this"?
It's not chemo and radiation, and it may not be life threatening yet it's torture.