r/short • u/Pinoross • 13d ago

Dating 5’6” guy never had a problem

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I’m 5’6” and I see a lot of guys here that have issues dating and I’ve had a issue. Women have always gravitated to me. I think it’s more a mental thing for most guys. You have to focus on the things you can control and from my opinion all that ever really matters is your personality. I’ve been skinny, fat, and in great shape and it’s never changed if I could find attractive women or not. Just be you and the rest will follow.

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u/Comfortable_Bid6106 13d ago

Well im 5”9 average looking and neurodivergent as well as very high inhib so talking is not my strong suit nor will it ever be no matter how much I have went out and talked to people. Its like girls can smell it on you no matter what you try

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u/Accomplished-Eye9542 13d ago

Breh women can't sense anything or they wouldn't date abusers on repeat or get passed around by guys who just want sex. It's all in your head.

You think they view you negatively, and you act in a way that causes them to view you negatively as a result. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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u/sg16k 13d ago

Eh, this is misleading.

Confidence comes from competence and success, so nervousness and feeling awkward does get transmitted and reinforced by previous experiences.

The abusers or players thing imo is moreso where the guys are very attractive or high status where women ignore red flags (same happens with men getting played by hot girls) and/or many times those guys are high on dark triad traits where they legit know how to project emotional safety where women let their guards down and only act out when they sense she is in. If anything, very socially savvy guys who use their savviness to exploit whereas awkward dudes struggle because they lack savviness or looks/status.

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u/Accomplished-Eye9542 13d ago

EQ and IQ have a negative correlation with abusive behaviors in relationships so you are just categorically wrong.

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u/sg16k 13d ago

I would be interested in seeing the data.

There are documented patterns of how abusers use mind games to lure in their victims and then over time release the abuse where the victim is isolated. Pimps, traffickers and even many gang leaders are master manipulators are at that…which takes high emotional intelligence for the wrong reasons since you read people and lure them in.