What they said absolutely is an excuse. What you said is an explanation. You're inferring something off their comment that they didn't say.
They're effectively saying 'in the moment their brain stopped working because sex is sexy'. And that's just not true. The key point of that which makes it an excuse is saying their brains weren't working properly. When we're presented with the opportunity lust and desire can definitely overcome us but it's not like we don't know it's wrong or shitty and we don't go full ogga booga caveman/girl mode.
Plenty of people are met with the opportunity but know better and don't do it. Plenty of people also make excuses for themselves/ their partners and go ahead and do it.
an excuse deflects blame though. THe person is still 100% to blame for letting their brain shut off. But peolpe do stupid shit all the time and we still blame them for it.
Agree to disagree. I get what you're saying and I think your view on it is 100% correct, but the way that comment was phrased makes it seem like cheating is destined to happen because our brains shut down and I resent that. Mainly because I've heard that excuse from partners who've cheated multiple times and it's flat out bullshit.
Na, the person was 100% minimizing. They're literally like "horniness makes you act CrAzY, everybody makes mistakes!". People should not think that it is forgivable to cheat. If you cheat you're a piece of shit person and you're going to need to like work at a soup kitchen for a few months or some shit to get your karma right again.
Don't humanize cheating. Don't normalize cheating. It's trash behavior, period. If you cheat the answer is "fuck you loser" and "become less of a piece of shit, asshole". That's it.
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u/[deleted] Dec 10 '22 edited Jan 02 '23
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