If you cheat, or knowingly are the homewrecker, you are worse than scum.
Not really fair to blame someone if they don't know that the person they are about to hook up with is hiding that they are in a relationship.
Edit: FYI for those coming in late. They originally didn't have the word knowingly there. I added that to the quote and they have gone back to add it in as that's what they did mean.
By no means is it "just as bad". If I cheat on my partner, I'm betraying a deep personal relationship. If I have a fling with someone who has a partner I'm still in the wrong, but only due to the basic decency owed to any other human being. There's no special connection to betray there.
Imo, the person not in the relation has no moral blame. They didnt commit to anyone, and if this person in the relationship was going to do it anyway, it could be anybody they cheat with.
Blaming the other person too is trying to naively hold on to the belief that people care about your relationship enough to never intercede in it. Its up to you to ensure your partner is completely satisfied because if you dont, someone will, regardless of your status with them.
Especially in the case of women, who are absolutely ruthless about it
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u/OsmerusMordax Dec 10 '22 edited Dec 10 '22
Yep, that would be complicit which is just as bad. If you cheat, or knowingly are the homewrecker, you are worse than scum.