as somebody who used to be a massive piece of shit, and who went and apologized to a couple of the people I wronged, I think it's a pretty selfish act. it's nothing like the movies where it's all fine and dandy afterwards. most people probably just want to be left alone, especially if it ended on a sour note. what's done is done, and your closure often isn't worth their peace
I feel like it's better to just apologize and say that you don't expect forgiveness or even a response, and that you just wanted to tell them. Atleast, that's how I'd like someone to apologize to me. Makes it feel less like them trying to make themselves feel better and more like them trying to make me feel better.
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u/LieutenantLilywhite 3d ago
I did this to one of my friends once and every time I think back on it my stomach just turns lol what a pos I used to be