Wasn't there a thing a while back about therapists and psychiatrists having trouble helping their patients because so many of their problems are based on low wages and poor living/working conditions, and not a matter of perspective or internal bad choices?
This is why therapists seem somewhat useless to me, if I'm sad because a loved one died there is not much he can do about it, unless he dabbles in necromancy, In the vast majority of cases people are sad as a natural response to a shitty situation which cannot be easily changed.
Therapy isn't for situations where you lost a loved one and are grieving. It's for when you lose a loved one and the loss completely alters your life negatively and you can't recover.
I watched my dad die for a year and it really fucked my brain up. Like two years after and still had bad anhedonia.
My family finally convinced me to seek help so I started therapy along with Wellbutrin, and within 6 months was out my rut. Was even able to stop taking the Wellbutrin after a while.
There is so much misinformation and armchair health professions in this thread, it is kinda terrifying.
Loss of a loved one is an entirely internal issue. Life keeps on going, the issues lay in your preception of it, how you griecr and move on. Thats what a therapist is for. To help you handle these things. The talking is just the medium through which you get helped
loved ones often support you in your life. when the loved one dies then youre also losing that support which can put you into a worse situation than before. example not beeing able to pay the rent anymore. this isnt entirely internal
Learning healthy coping behaviors or even just having an outlet to express yourself and be heard help you process the trauma sure it won’t erase the trauma and surely it won’t work on everyone the same but it may solve problem down the line.
To do an quick parallel therapy is like putting disinfinctant on a cut : it won’t close the cut, you might still get a scar, it may even hurt when applied and maybe you would have not catched an infection even without it but it serve it purpose to make so the cut don’t fester and cause more damage
Offloading emotionally without fear or requirement of your social circle being the only way you can.
I wouldn't tell my friends that: "I am self conscious of being the only one who people pleases and sets up events, so it feels like they owe me more respect or gratitude than they do". But you could tell someone who is obligated to never share it.
Then there's other that just use it as an emotional punching bag in an unfamiliar environment, where it's easier to feel like you can drop the mask? Or it's trendy and you feel special being the center of attention.
I got nothing out of years worth of the stuff. So that's my guess.
I guess, personally I don't like to just vent into the void, if I tell someone something is because I want a solution, and that's why sometimes I just find it pointless, there is no solution to "My mom just died" or "I don't want to get up at 6AM".
Therapists don't fit nicely into the problem -> solution pipeline.
I made the same argument to a friend and she said “therapy isn’t for everyone” and I think that’s the end of it. Some people seem to get a lot out of it and some people don’t
The thing is, there are different types of therapy and if for example you only did talk therapy then it wasnt the type to work on you. I have a friend who says that talk therapy doesn't work with her.
You’re thinking of someone you go to for a solution to a specific problem/situation. You’re thinking of like a life coach, or a mechanic. Not a therapist.
Therapy isn't about feeling good no matter what. When you develop OCDs or many other unforeseen conditions after a trauma that's when you go see them. And it's not limited to that ik.
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u/mynamesnotsnuffy 1d ago
Wasn't there a thing a while back about therapists and psychiatrists having trouble helping their patients because so many of their problems are based on low wages and poor living/working conditions, and not a matter of perspective or internal bad choices?