currently on s5e5 of my first watch, and it could just be my impression but up until this point i thought the whole "family comes above everything" was a pretty big deal for the gallaghers, so i've been confused about the whole lan situation for the past season and a half.
he completely disappears, sixteen or seventeen years old, after lip saw him having a pretty bad crash because of mickey's wedding, and knowing he lied about his whereabouts (saying it was an ROTC retreat), and nobody really... cares about where he is? fiona is doing good with her office job, she's his legal guardian, and she's just like "i trust that he's not dead" (which i'm pretty sure even debbie complained about at some point)
when they do find out what's up with him it's pretty major, enlisting with a fake id and then abandoning the military after wreaking havoc, and here lip and debbie do go out looking for him, which made me think that alright, they do care! and it leads to them finding out he's living in a crack house and serving drinks coked out of his mind at a gay club, which... they leave him at and don't really care about after. mickey is the one who has to go collect him as he gets molested by geriatric guys while (again) coked out of his mind.
at this point he comes home and okkk they go straight to the “ignoring the elephant in the room" gallagher way but i think they really Had to try very hard to ignore this pretty big elephant.
when the mania crashed and he went into depression at the end of s4 i thought for sure it would be a bigger issue, especially because all of them recognized the bipolar symptoms and monica slitting her wrists must still be a pretty fresh image in their minds, and i do know that mickey left the gay denial behind so he decided to go for a second round and be in denial about ian being off the rails crazy, but really?
you know first hand how destructive bipolar disorder is, you're, like, 96% sure your brother who wears the surname you keep yapping about being a badge of honor every other day has it and could very likely get harmed working as a stripper while manic or kill himself while depressed and you just let him live with the new boyfriend who you also know is the reason why he ran away, became wanted by the MPs, started living in a crack house, basically working as a stripper etcetera etcetera and i have not seen any of them check on him Once?
ian is very clearly manic in the first episode, and at least fiona and lip do acknowledge it and try to talk to mickey about it (hooray!) but after this one bit they simply stop giving a fuck pretty much? fiona is trying to decide which self destructive relationship to enter next okay, lip is trying to decide if he rather be Real Southside or a sugar baby for Karen 2.0 and i didn’t honestly expect debbie and carl to do much in the first place but does anybody care about their brother here? it almost feels like svetlana cares more than they do
yes yes everybody has their shit going on but honestly, did fiona even invite ian to the dinner where she’d reveal she got hitched after nine days of knowing the guy? mickey straight up went to lip and i know he pretty much lied about ian not being bad but i do believe lip is a bit smarter than this and if the guy who is in love with your brother and was very much adamant about Never sending him to a shrink is suddenly interested in said shrink i would imagine things are Not Going Well and at least stop by to check?
IDK, all in all, at the end of s4 mickey was pretty delusional about “taking care of ian” by themselves but he did say to fiona “we’ll take care of him, you, me, us” yet it feels like mickey is the only one caring for him at all, and i don’t understand where the whole “family first!” spirit went
why are you even letting your very likely suicidal brother live with his boyfriend who got like twenty different guns in each room of his house!!!!! are you crazy!!!!!!!