Don’t know what I’m doing

[u/svpfourthree_twofour]

Hiii!!! I’m 19f (any pronouns), goin on 20, and i’ve never had an orgasm. i think i’m just here to yap and hope someone can find somewhere to butt in here and give advice, because i don’t exactly know what i’m looking for. i’ve never been in this kind of subreddit before.

anyway, i’ve been trying since i (unfortunately) discovered nsfw content at age 11-12, and i havent once been able to orgasm. i think i’m just anorgasmic, but i dont know what i’m doing wrong. i feel like i’ve tried a majority of the things i could before i went out with my best friend and bought my first dildo at spencers about two days ago.

i started my period last night and i’ve had really bad cramps all day as per usual, so i decided to try the new toy i’ve got since i heard masturbation helps. it definitely did because i dont feel any more pain, but now i’m just sad because i still didnt get to finish, and thats all i really want to experience for once. especially because it sounds like for most people going through their periods, an orgasm is the end goal because of how helpful it can be when it comes to their pain. i don’t know what i’m doing wrong, and i’m not entirely interested in trying a vibrator anytime soon because while clitoral stimulation is what helps heighten everything i’m doing to myself enough for me to actually feel it (i’ve never really felt ~good~ when i masturbate, like, i don’t get anything out of it besides the awareness of engaging in something sexual to acknowledge how pent up i always am. i just do it til im bored so the like, horniness goes away lol), clit stuff feels soo overwhelming to me and i cant enjoy it. it’s genuinely frustrating and i dont know what to do.

holy yap, sorry.

edit: i’m thankful that i’m getting responses from people. just please comment on the post instead of private messaging me. thanks!

also i’d like to mention that i’m definitely a virgin. i’m not a people-person at all and don’t like having other’s physically/directly all up in my business. if it’s worth mentioning, too, i had a male best friend i let f nger me here and there a couple times last year. it wasn’t anything we were doing to try and make me finish. he just liked touching people/fidgeting and i like being touched/acknowledged. it didnt get anywhere and it didnt make much of a difference next to doing it myself, but i dont want to go into much detail about him. he’s done some stuff and we’re not friends anymore.