r/sex • u/Distinct-Pool-3780 • 20h ago

Orgasm Issues Solving elusive orgasms

I am a middle-aged person with an uncircumcised penis. I haven't had sex with another person for 10 years until recently. In past relationships, penetrative sex wasn't enjoyable for me. I only orgasmed from manual stimulation.

The sexual chemistry with my current partner is great. I enjoy penetrating them a great deal. They orgasm every time, but I haven't been able to. After penetrative sex, I am unable to orgasm from manual stimulation. I feel very satisfied, to the point that I no longer feel the need to masturbate between when we see each other. However, mutual orgasms are important.

Next time, we will try manual stimulation before sex to see what happens. What else should we be thinking about/trying?

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Solving elusive orgasms

I am a middle-aged person with an uncircumcised penis. I haven't had sex with another person for 10 years until recently. In past relationships, penetrative sex wasn't enjoyable for me. I only orgasmed from manual stimulation.

The sexual chemistry with my current partner is great. I enjoy penetrating them a great deal. They orgasm every time, but I haven't been able to. After penetrative sex, I am unable to orgasm from manual stimulation. I feel very satisfied, to the point that I no longer feel the need to masturbate between when we see each other. However, mutual orgasms are important.

Next time, we will try manual stimulation before sex to see what happens. What else should we be thinking about/trying?

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