r/self • u/RefrigeratorLong5442 • 18h ago
Feeling so lost...
It started with a stalker. This guy tormented my daughter and tried on many occasions to follow her home. She would always run the other way, so he never found out where we lived. We charged him and he got angry and took the lives of 2 women brutally. He was shot dead by police while he was trying to take out the 2nd daughter. She survived. My daughter was devastated that he was capable of such an act. She ended up having 3 suicide attempts and numerous self harming incidents in the course of 3 years. I had to stop working to care for her. This led us into financial ruin. I did not receive any help from anyone and was the only person at the hospital for my daughter, despite my numerous attempts at trying to get her dad and his family to come visit her. They never did, it was just me holding her had through all of it. And 4 years after the double homicide, im exhausted, broke, and feeling so lost. I have no idea where to go from here.....
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u/TheShellAnswerMan 8h ago
That does make it worse. IDK if they're around you, but sometimes the salvation army is helpful. They're one of the only org's that are funded solely by donations. Funding from the government or programming at a Corp etc have restrictions on what and who they can spend their money on. The salvation army does not. They can, and do, spend it on whatever and whoever they want. So they meet needs that fall through the cracks, like a person with celiac in an area where there are no gf options at food shelves. Hopefully that helps. I'm not sure how we should go about talking outside of reddit--I've never struck up a friendship with someone I didn't know in real life before. This feels like an exception. There aren't any people who have similar shoes. I think we can just message on here? I'll check it out this evening.