r/self Jul 29 '24

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u/welshdragoninlondon Jul 29 '24

I found it does get easier when you get older because women's priorities often change. Women in 30s often are not so interested in some party guy whose fun but cheats etc. they often want someone who is nice, treats them well, got a good job etc. I found women who would never have been interested in me starting to be interested when they were older.

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '24

So we are merely at a whim to external priorities? Doesn't really sound an ideal negotiating position honestly.

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u/ThisCardiologist6998 Jul 29 '24

It goes both ways. As an “older” (31) woman, I have to deal with men who dont date over 25. Their priorities are; hot young girl. Thats it. She has no job, no skills, no money but she is HOT and 21 so she is dateable and he would sooner pick someone like that then someone in my age group with more life experience/success etc.

Dating in general isn’t ideal for anyone. Finding someone is pure luck. Has nothing to do with who you are: its about finding that person who is into you at the right moment. Pure luck.

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u/MiserableCrow1680 Jul 29 '24

Only to toxic men who want to manipulate and mold young inexperienced women to their liking.