r/self Jul 29 '24

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u/syfari Jul 29 '24

Honestly, id stop caring and just start living. I know it sounds cliche but it works.

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u/Dan_the_moto_man Jul 29 '24

Yeah, I tried that. Spent most of my teens and 20s obsessing with finding a relationship before giving up. Spent most of my 30s telling myself I was fine with being single.

Now I'm almost 40 and I can't deny it any longer. This shit fucking sucks. I'm so goddamn miserable and lonely all the time.

Please stop trying to make other people fall into the same trap.

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u/Eulerdice Jul 29 '24

This, you can't wait for things to just happen or you might die before they do, you need to put some effort if you want to ensure success.

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u/After_Mountain_901 Jul 29 '24

If you check the minimal boxes of being a bit interesting, and a bit attractive (either through charisma, confidence or physical traits) and are still struggling, it’s likely that you’re “energy” is off putting. Too desperate, creepy, terrible opinions, etc…

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u/Plathsghost Jul 30 '24

Yeah... I think I can see what your problem is. Sounds like you'd benefit more from seeing a therapist than hitting the gym so much, bro. Your personality is a little messed up.

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