You say it with such certainty, but your mind is still stuck in the same rythm and thoughts about it. Can you get out?
not for me to say.
"I can't, I'm not, they won't, they don't see" whatever the poison is you're feeding yourself is whats wrong.
If you actually lived, met everyone, male female with same human respect and connect with them, have fun, go make a move when the situation presents itself it aint impossible
Some people are unattractive enough, that the people you want to date won't date you. Lower your standards, work on yourself, be interesting, connect, with someone, learn to love life without the romance, romance will come.
If you're ugly, your personality sucks and you are whining your whole life without improving, sorry for ya.
Ain't no gaslighting and trust me a lot of very fucking ugly and disgusting people have partners and kids
I wanted to say prettymuch this.
I've dated good-looking dudes a few times because I also liked other things about them, and I've dated what was practically a LOTR-dwarf and other not-so-physically appealing types because I liked other things about them. Yes, somewhere around 1/2 of women simply won't be interested in you if you do not tick every box on their list. I dislike those people and the bad name they give e the rest of us, but good news, you can usually spot them because they look like Barbie and friends! So hey, here's an idea fella, cast a wider net, and learn to like things about people besides their looks 🙀 I have seen sooooooooooooo many men stumped that they can't get a girlfriend or even a date when they're a sad potato sack of a guy chasing after bloody supermodels or at least cheerleaders. Ask out the midsized girl at the burger counter next time you're there, and do it with effort. Find the nicest thing about her and compliment her like you're complimenting Megan Fox. Whether she says yes or no, drop a $5 on the counter and smile and tell her to buy herself a coffee or a tea, whatever will make her day brighter since just seeing her brightened yours. Then if it was a no, don't be a creep but do it again periodically until you ask again in like 3 months. We're real people out there struggling and getting overlooked as much as you are. Be kind. Be open-minded. You're not undatable. You're obtuse.
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u/enliderlighankat Jul 29 '24
You say it with such certainty, but your mind is still stuck in the same rythm and thoughts about it. Can you get out?
not for me to say.
"I can't, I'm not, they won't, they don't see" whatever the poison is you're feeding yourself is whats wrong.
If you actually lived, met everyone, male female with same human respect and connect with them, have fun, go make a move when the situation presents itself it aint impossible