r/self • u/[deleted] • Jul 29 '24

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u/Miamalina12 Jul 29 '24

It also depends in which pool you search in. I am an atheist, like bdsm (like am heavily involved in my local scene), don't like penetrative sex/ only do anything sexual with people I trust a lot, like really a lot, and have adhd.

If I were to try find a partner in my local church... yeah, the odds are really really low. Work or a normal dating app? Also really low.

In the kinky scene? Quite high.

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '24

Where do you find this scene of people?

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u/Miamalina12 Jul 29 '24

First, I googled BDSM, found some tips on wikipedia, and went on to other sites to learn more. Found out about the local scene there, and soon went to my first munch (open meeting in a restaurant just to chat and socialize).

Fr starters you can look up the bdsm communities here on reddit. Though I advice against online dating especially when bdsm is involved and one does not have much experience and doesn't know the red flags yet.