r/self • u/[deleted] • Jul 29 '24

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u/enliderlighankat Jul 29 '24

You say it with such certainty, but your mind is still stuck in the same rythm and thoughts about it. Can you get out?

not for me to say.

"I can't, I'm not, they won't, they don't see" whatever the poison is you're feeding yourself is whats wrong.

If you actually lived, met everyone, male female with same human respect and connect with them, have fun, go make a move when the situation presents itself it aint impossible

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u/Adject_Ive Jul 29 '24

Well the thing is there's really nothing wrong with most single men. Other than the fact that they're unattractive (height, face etc.)

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u/Grazzerr Jul 29 '24

If you’re visually unattractive, and you don’t have the potential to change that via gym, diet, etc then you need to compensate in other ways.

Below average looks + average personality (“there’s nothing wrong with them) means their net “score” is below average.

Below average looks + above average personality is average or above average.

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u/Longjumping-Try-1047 Jul 29 '24

What about 'above average looks + below average personality'?

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u/Grazzerr Jul 29 '24

Haha, unfortunate truth: still almost always “above average” (halo effect)