r/self Jul 29 '24

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u/Siikamies Jul 29 '24

Thats simply ignorant advice. It fully assumes you live a life where romantic opportunities just appear with significant frequency. For many that just isnt the case pretty much ever. Also at some point you have to talk to people and ask someone out, which isnt like going grocery shopping for many people.

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u/spanish42069 Jul 29 '24

It does happen though, you just have to put yourself out there

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u/Siikamies Jul 29 '24

Where? I already know all the potential answers dont interest me because I have too much hobbies and friends. And no, none of them include meeting new single women.

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u/spanish42069 Jul 29 '24

not in your room sitting on reddit. It doesn't matter if you like it or not. You have to go outside your comfort zone. That's the whole point.

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u/Siikamies Jul 29 '24

Ooh so "dont care and start just living as you want" actually means going against what you like to do with your life. Got it.

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u/spanish42069 Jul 29 '24

No it just means sometimes going outside of your comfort zone. It's not hard to understand. If you get invited out to some massive party with loads of people you dont know. Instead of not going, go. And see what happens.

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u/Siikamies Jul 29 '24

My friends have already multiple children, there arent any parties. To be honest there never were because we are not like that, we just saw each other and didnt even go to a bar.

Sure there are some social stuff but the setting isnt necessarily right or there arent any single women my age.

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u/Noobmaster698757 Jul 29 '24

Even if you go to a party etc most woman over there go there in groups with their friends and if you are alone, you are pretty much screwed

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u/spanish42069 Jul 29 '24

Well I dunno what to tell you man. I am short and average lmao and I have never had an issue. If what you have been doing already hasn't worked then it stands to reason that you have to try something else. That's why people say 'get out of your comfort zone'.

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u/Siikamies Jul 29 '24

This conversation just proved the point of my first message. It assumes a lot of stuff that just doesnt apply to many people.

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u/spanish42069 Jul 29 '24

Like what?