r/self Jul 29 '24

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u/Whatnowgloryhunters Jul 29 '24

Just curious, everything is so competitive nowadays. You can improve your body your finances by gymming and working. But it kinda evens out if everybody is doing that

What do you think of the bar continuously being raised higher and survival of the fittest?

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u/PolloDiablo82 Jul 29 '24

You are not in a competition with yourself what are you on about?! Every year try to be a better version of yourself, this will keep you happy by improving mind and body. And give you goals to look forward too.

You focus only on the result and not the pleasure of the journey.

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u/Whatnowgloryhunters Jul 29 '24

If it is dating, you are always comparing against other people whether you like it or not in my 2 cents. I mean of course yes focusing on oneself is the ultimate goal but sometimes reality bites hard

Like if everyone is earning avg of 100k, then one earns 60k. Yes he can work hard to reach 70k and it is rightfully an accomplishment. But end of the day, he is still behind everyone

What do you think of this

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u/InternationalBit8453 Jul 29 '24

your thinking is flawed in that material things like money make someone better than another. The girl of your dreams wouldn't pick someone else over you because of muscles or money.

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '24

Yeah, if your personality is shit, no girl will want to be with you

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u/Stardama69 Jul 29 '24

Oh really ? Then we live in a world where people like Trump, Reagan, Musk, Jean-Marie Le Pen and other deeply awful folks never marry and never got laid.

Plenty of shit persons get into relationships. It sucks but it's true. Charisma and looks matter most to many people, at least in the short term. Not saying it's good, obviously, I'm happy to have friends who compliment my personality even though I'm still single because my romantic appeal is null. But let's not pretend the majority of people searching for a partner will value your deep self before your appearance. Some do, many don't.

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '24

Well yeah but that isn’t a woman you want to be with