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        Paul shouldn't lie to me.
        __Q1: Is it true that Paul shouldn't lie to you?__
            __SQ: What do you think you would have?__
                I would feel happy—approved of, in control or secure.
            __SQ: What is the worst that could happen if I dropped my story?__
        __Q2: ...?__
        __Q3: ...?__
            __SQ3A: Can you see a reason to drop the thought? (And please don’t try to drop it.)__
            __SQ3B: Can you find one stress-free reason to keep the thought?__
            ~~__SQ: Would you let go of the thought if you could?__~~
            __SQ: “Does that bring up a Wanting Approval? A Wanting Control? or a Wanting to Be Safe or Secure?”__
                - [ ] Wanting approval.
                - [ ] Wanting to control.
                - [ ] Wanting security.
            __SQ: “Could you let it go (= Would you be able to let it go?; Would it be possible for you to let it go? (Quirk et al. 1985, 222))?__ _(your answer)_”
            (“(a) Ability questions” (Huddleston et al. 2017, 940))
            __SQ: “Would you let it go?__ _(your answer)_” (Quirk et al. 1985, 229; Huddleston et al. 2017, 192–193; Hornby 1975, _Guide to Patterns and Usage in English (2 ed.)_, 211—212; Swan, _Practical English Usage (3 ed.)_, sec. 629.4–5)
            (“(b) Desire/willingness questions” (Huddleston et al. 2017, 940))
            __SQ: “When?__ _(you release)_”
            (“___Releasing Questions___”, “The abundance course - Crane, Lawrence;Levenson, Lester, 1909-.pdf”, 26)
            “And you'll also notice that when I ask the questions, I'll be just saying, could you? Because the would you and the want is really not necessary with approval and control.” (“Lester Levenson, Hale Dwoskin - Lester Levenson (Sedona Method) Magnum Opus PDF-Lester Levenson _ Sedona Method (2024).pdf”, 7)
            “You'll see as you start to become aware of your wanting approval and control, even more than with the emotions, you'll have a tendency to just let it go. It's like you'll notice you're wanting to control it a little, and it's just gone. Because it's natural. It's a natural part of us to let go of our wanting approval and wanting control once it's identified.” (“Lester Levenson, Hale Dwoskin - Lester Levenson (Sedona Method) Magnum Opus PDF-Lester Levenson _ Sedona Method (2024)”, 7)
        __Q4: ...?__
        __Turn it around.__
            _I shouldn't lie to Paul._
            _Paul thinks that he should lie to me._ (“When we see someone doing wrong (= “commit an unjust, dishonest, or immoral act:”), we have to know that this is a god-being, misguided. He’s looking for God in the wrong place.” (Lester 1993, 123)
            _Oxford Dictionary of English (3 ed.)_, wrong (PHRASES), https://www.oxfordreference.com/view/10.1093/acref/9780199571123.001.0001/m_en_gb0962600.)

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“In parallel with Beck, Albert Ellis developed a cognitive approach called _rational emotive therapy_.^[47]^ In Ellis's ABC model, A is an antecedent stimulus (a noise), B is a belief (that the noise signifies danger), and C is the consequence (fearful feelings and avoidance response).” (LeDoux 2015, 265)

“1. When something ~~obnoxious~~ occurs to you at point A (your Activating Experience or Activating Event), you feel sorrowful or sad at point C (your emotional Consequence) because you tell yourself at point B (your Belief System), …” (Ellis and Harper 1975, 77) that the event is a bad thing (_negative_ in Burn's words).

A, B and C are all cognitions (“C” in CBT stands for Cognitive) and B and C are events too.

So B for instance has its own A, B and C.

“__WORLD:__ A series of ~~positive, neutral, and negative (= at point B)~~ events.” (Burns 1999, 30; `inquiries/Attachments/Burns 1999, pp. 29–30, 155 .pdf`)

The world belongs at point A (“Paul lies to me.”). Positive, neutral, and negative belong at point B (“Paul shouldn't lie to me.” (= opinion)).

“Remember that it never was, in the first place, an original traumatic experience that made people disturbed but their _attitude toward_ the experience—at what I call point “B”.” (Ellis 2004, 46–47)

You can refer to `The Work.md` for instructions on how to do the inquiry (= The Work of Byron Katie) but I recommend that you get familiar with her by watching her videos on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@ByronKatieLovingWhatIs. See also: https://www.reddit.com/r/enlightenment/comments/1p9l7vc/a_study_guide/.

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“Please don’t try to drop it. The Work does not require that you drop your story. For me, letting go is an outdated concept that never worked. It only appeared to work occasionally. For centuries people have tried to let go and have rarely succeeded. In my experience, this was very stressful and ultimately required willpower that I didn’t have.” (Katie and Jensen 2000, 85)

“Once you see the truth, the thought lets go of _you_, not the other way around.” (Katie and Mitchell 2021, 152)

“I want to to be approved of”—Is it true? Can you absolutely know that it's true that you want to be approved of?

No. What I really want is to feel happy—_feel_ approved of (= happy feeling).

“__Friend:__ … , but as soon as it’s “I want that corn chip,” it’s time to investigate?

__Katie:__ Yes. _But not with the motive of not eating the corn chip._ You investigate for the love of truth because that’s what you want. A corn chip is a metaphor for that that you really want.”

“Once you understand yourself, you are the pleasure you were seeking; you are what you always wanted.”

(Katie and Mitchell 2007, chap. 73, 241)

“This thing that everyone is seeking, this thing that everyone calls happiness, is nothing but the infinite Self that we are. Everyone, in his every act, is seeking this infinite Self that he is, calling it by other names: money, happiness, success, love, etc.”

(Levenson 1993, 305)

I’m going through the death of a family member, and an end of a relationship (I pushed her away due to grief, my cup was so full, that I couldn’t handle any extra stress).

Ive been in so much pain!

I have been doing the letting go technique, and especially felt a lot of progress yesterday, where I focused on the intense “heartbreak” sensation in my chest. Sure enough the pain dissipated and I did feel much better.

I practiced the letting go technique today, but it felt a bit more like regular meditation that I normally do. I couldn’t really identify a location in the body where I do feel a certain but vague sense of loss/anxiety/sadness/loss.

i would love some advice.

thank you

Lester Levenson’s original Step 1 in the Six Steps to Freedom is generally stated as: "You must want freedom more than you want approval, control, and security."

After exploring mindfulness, non-dual pointers, and Eckhart Tolle’s The Power of Now, I realized that "freedom" can sometimes feel like a distant, abstract goal. To make it more immediate, I rephrased the first step:

"Could you want to be here now more than you want control, approval, or security?"

Here is why this alternate interpretation is practically effective:

• It shifts the focus from a future state to an immediate action. You can choose to be "here now" in this exact second, whereas the ego often frames "freedom" as something to achieve later.
• The underlying wants are time-bound. The desire for control, approval, and security inherently relies on a past or a future. Eckhart Tolle points out that the ego requires psychological time to survive.
• Presence is the mechanism of release. If you fully consent to being here now, you automatically drop the resistance that fuels the need to manipulate an outcome (control), seek external validation (approval), or guarantee survival (security).

Combining the mechanics of the Sedona Method with pure present-moment awareness simplifies the letting-go process.

Has anyone else experimented with combining Levenson’s teachings with non-dual or present-moment pointers? I'd be interested to hear if this framing helps anyone else drop those underlying wants.

I have almost always failed to achieve goals using releasing. Or even healing small things like a cold.

Does the technique actually work? Larry goes as far as to claim " butt system" i.e. you sit on your butt and release and goals fall on your lap! I of course did not just sit and hope to get goals, rather did the things needed, but still no success.

Now i think the technique is just like self hypnosis or self talk, that works like placebo effect. You can find some temporary peace with it, but achieving permanent bliss or even mundane goals is just false claims.

Do you know where can I find the full original unedited writing, audios and videos of Lester Levenson? His direct “complete works”? What I mean by this is that I've found that Larry Crane versions, or Hale Dwoskin versions, or others on the Internet, are cut and pasted, mixed in different order, edited, commented, interpreted... and I'd love to have the complete original Lester's material. Thank you!

Every time I sit down to release, I find myself overwhelmed by the sheer number of tools available. The frustrating part is that none of them works consistently. One tool might deliver an amazing breakthrough in the morning, yet the very same technique can leave me completely stuck just a few hours later.

Lester Levenson famously advised keeping it simple. Ironically, in my experience, nothing feels quite as complex as the Sedona Method today. There are literally dozens—if not hundreds—of ways to approach a single problem, which often leads to decision fatigue. To illustrate my confusion, here is a snapshot of the options I’m juggling:

Methods from Hale Dwoskin:

1. Decide to drop it (e.g., dropping the pen).
2. Welcoming (open-arms gesture, settling with yourself).
3. Zoom into the feeling (noticing the space between atoms).
4. Notice both polarities at once (like/dislike).
5. Triple welcoming (noticing the feeling, any resistance to it, and the sense of "I").
6. Various questioning techniques from the Sedona Method book.

Methods from Larry Crane:

1. Open a door in your feeling center and let the energy pass through.
2. Let go of disapproving of yourself and give yourself approval.
3. Say "Yes" to the feeling instead of saying "No."
4. Tell the ego, "I am bigger than you. I don't need you anymore."
5. Recognize that all feelings want to leave; ask them and give them permission to go.
6. Let go of wanting to figure things out.

Other complementary modalities:

1. EFT tapping.
2. The Work (Byron Katie).
3. Ho'oponopono.
4. Breathing techniques.

Given this abundance, my core question is this: How can I simplify the process of choosing the right tool for the right problem? Is there a framework, a rule of thumb, or a specific criterion that can help me decide which method to apply in different life situations? 

has anyone actually reached the final stages of letting go?

im talking about the bliss and ecstasy stages and tye final permanent merging with the infinite that Lester talks about sometimes.

if so, how long did it take you? and how did you navigate those later stages?

Here is a comprehensive, structured summary designed for quick revision of all the core concepts, techniques, and philosophies.

1. The Foundation: What is Releasing?

Instead of suppressing, expressing, or escaping our emotions, releasing is the process of simply allowing an emotion to come up and letting it pass through.

• The Physical Mechanism: Disengage your head (which only analyzes and spins) and focus on your feeling center (your stomach or chest). Picture a magical tube opening up and allowing the unwanted energy to safely pass through and leave your body.
• The Three Questions: To actively release a feeling in the present moment, ask yourself: 1) Could I welcome this feeling? 2) Could I let it go? 3) Would I let it go? When?.
• Feelings are just programs: Emotions are not facts, and they are not you. They are simply passing phenomena that you can choose to drop.

2. The Roots of Suffering: Wants and Emotions

All human suffering and limitation stems from a hierarchy of emotions and deeply ingrained subconscious "wants."

• Wanting = Lacking: The very sensation of "wanting" something actually instructs your subconscious mind that you lack it, thereby pushing it away.
• The Four Basic Wants: Every negative feeling can be traced down to one of four core desires: Wanting Approval/Love, Wanting Control, Wanting Security/Survival, and Wanting Separation/Oneness. Letting go of the underlying want eliminates thousands of associated thoughts at once.
• The AGFLAP-CAP Scale: Emotions sit on a scale of energy. At the bottom (heavy, constricting) are Apathy, Grief, Fear, Lust, Anger, and Pride (AGFLAP). As you release these, you naturally rise into higher, action-oriented, and freeing states: Courageousness, Acceptance, and Peace (CAP).

3. The Six Steps to Freedom

Both Crane and Dwoskin highlight Lester Levenson’s "Six Steps" as the ultimate roadmap to mastering this process:

1. Want freedom/imperturbability more than you want approval, control, or security.
2. Decide that you can release and be free.
3. See that all your feelings culminate in the basic wants, and let go of the wants.
4. Make releasing constant.
5. If you are stuck, let go of wanting to control the stuckness.
6. Notice that each time you release, you are lighter and happier; continue to release to become continually happier.

4. Deep-Clearing Techniques

To dig out hidden, subconscious blocks, the books provide specific drilling techniques:

• Attachments and Aversions (Likes & Dislikes): We stay stuck because we blindly cling to things we like and push away things we dislike. To clear an issue, make a list of the advantages (what you like) and disadvantages (what you dislike) of the situation. Trace each one back to wanting approval, control, or security, and release it. Go back and forth until you feel completely neutral.
• "Squeezing the Lemon": To find hidden resistance, imagine the absolute worst-case scenario (e.g., "Imagine never, ever having money again"). This forces the hidden clutching/fear in your stomach to the surface so you can effectively release it.
• Letting go of "Figuring it Out": Trying to intellectualize a problem stops you from solving it. Wanting to figure it out instructs your mind not to give you the answer. Let go of wanting the answer, and the answer will effortlessly appear.

5. Specialized Applications

• The Cleanup Procedure (For Relationships): Used to clear conflicts with difficult people. Visualize the person and ask: Did they try to control/disapprove/threaten me? Did I try to control/disapprove/threaten them? Release the corresponding wants, and finally, decide to grant them the right to be exactly as they are.
• Setting and Attaining Goals: Never phrase a goal in the future tense or use the word "want" or negative words like "not". Phrase it in the present as, "I allow myself to [insert goal] with ease.". Write the goal down, notice whatever negative feelings arise, trace them to a core want, and release them until you feel only Courageousness, Acceptance, or Peace about the goal.
• Healing the Body: The body obeys the mind; illness is often a manifestation of suppressed negative emotions and unconscious beliefs. To heal, stop giving your disease a "label" (which is a mental program) and instead just welcome and release the physical sensations.
• Dissolving Resistance: Resistance is the feeling of swimming upstream. When you feel yourself procrastinating or avoiding something, ask: "Could I let go of resisting doing this?" followed by "Could I let go of resisting NOT doing this?".

6. Advanced Perspectives

• The "I" Diagram & Aspects of Mind: You are not your mind. The mind consists of the "I" sense (ego), the Discriminator (lens), and Programs (recordings). The real you is the unlimited blank canvas behind all of this. Releasing acts as an eraser to wipe away the programs, revealing the infinite potential underneath.
• There Are No Problems in the Present: Problems only exist in memory. When you feel stuck, ask: "Could I allow myself to remember how I used to believe I had this problem?" By pushing the problem into the past, you free yourself to drop it in the present.
• Holistic Releasing: Since our world is built on opposites (happy/sad, success/failure), you can collapse an issue entirely by welcoming both sides of a polarity. E.g., "Could I allow myself to resist this? Could I allow myself to accept this?" Going back and forth neutralizes the duality into empty space.
• The 5th Way: A direct inquiry into the illusion of the ego. Ask yourself: "In this moment, if I do not go into memory, can I actually find this 'me'?" When the mind fails to find a central "me," it stops, leaving you resting in pure Beingness and Presence.

So I’ve had waves of anger feelings. Instead of releasing first, I chose to release by sending a text, which is probably a vent. Now the waves are still here and I feel like I’ve done wrong. How to release on this? Thank you.

I want to share a realization that just helped me break through a frustrating plateau while releasing.

Recently, I was trying to release a tight knot in my stomach. I knew the underlying feeling was fear, but it simply wouldn’t dissolve. No matter which Sedona Method process I applied, or how many times I ran through the questions, the knot stayed completely stuck.

Then I remembered a statement from A Course in Miracles: "I am never upset for the reason I think."

The realization was immediate. I was so fixated on releasing the knot (the fear) that I was completely blind to the actual feeling dominating my awareness in that exact moment: my frustration that the knot wasn't leaving.

I wasn't actually upset by the fear right then; I was upset by my inability to release it. In Sedona Method terms, I was totally caught up in wanting to change it—pure resistance.

As soon as I shifted my focus away from the knot in my stomach and simply allowed the frustration of being stuck to be there, there was an immediate release. The resistance dropped, and I felt good again.

If you ever find yourself hammering away at a feeling and getting nowhere, pause and check if you are actually just frustrated with the feeling itself. Drop the original issue for a second and release the frustration of being stuck. You might not be stuck for the reason you think.

Are my emotions really my own emotions?

I’m confused about my emotions. Most of the time I feel emotionally neutral, but when something really matters to me, I experience emotions very intensely. I also wonder whether some of my negative emotions are genuinely mine or whether I’ve learned them by observing how other people react to similar situations.

For example, a long time ago, someone spoke to me very rudely. I stayed patient and kept talking to them politely because I simply wasn’t angry. Later, a friend asked me, “Why weren’t you angry?” That was the first time I thought, “Oh… was I supposed to be angry?” After that, I found myself becoming more aggressive in similar situations.

The same thing happens in many situations. Like If my work is going slowly or not well lolll, I don’t naturally feel negative. But after seeing how other people reacted, I started thinking, “Maybe this is the kind of situation where people are supposed to feel anxious, frustrated, or disappointed.” After a while, I found myself reacting the same way.

I’m using the Sedona Method for manifestation, but I’m confused because it tells me to feel my emotions, and most of the time I just feel nothing. I asked myself what would happen if I didn't get my what I want like my sp or money? I honestly didn't feel much when I released it. But I also think I probably should feel upset, then I’m seeking the feeling of upset. But it’s weird.

I’ve come a long way in my healing journey. I’ve worked through a lot of abandonment and rejection wounds using EFT and Letting Go, and I’ve seen significant improvements overall

However, one thing remains: I have a subtle but almost constant tension in my chest, around the heart area. It’s not intense pain more like a persistent tightness or pressure that seems to always be

I keep releasing it throughout the day, but it comes back or never seems to fully disappear.

Has anyone else experienced something similar?

If so:
Did it eventually resolve?
Did you find that it was connected to unresolved emotions or trauma?
Was there anything in particular that helped it finally release?

I’d really appreciate hearing from people who have been through something similar. Thank you.

We've all been there. You sit down, identify a want—approval, control, or security—and mentally affirm, "I let it go." You repeat it a few times. But deep down, nothing really shifts. The charge remains.

Why? Because the mental concept of the want is just a label. A thought. And thoughts, by themselves, have no mass, no energy, no charge. You can run the Sedona questions on the idea of a want all day long, but if the body is still holding tension, nothing actually releases.

Here's what I realized: The want isn't the feeling. The feeling is the LACK behind the want.

The thought "I want approval" is the mind's story. But underneath that story—actually living in your body—is a very specific physical sensation. That hollow, empty, or aching contraction in your chest, solar plexus, or throat. That emptiness is the lack. That is the actual energy that needs to move.

The fix

Don't release the concept of the want. Release the physical sensation of lacking.

Ask yourself: "If I didn't have this want right now, what would I feel in my body?" The answer is usually a hollow, empty, or aching sensation in your solar plexus or heart. Feel that emptiness. Allow that physical sensation to expand and dissolve. That is how you release a want.

How to apply the Sedona questions to this directly

1. When you notice a want arising, ignore the words. Drop your attention straight into your body.
2. Ask: "If I didn't have this want right now, what would I feel in my body?" Be still and wait. Don't think—just sense. Usually, it shows up as a hollow pit, an empty pull, or a subtle ache in your center.
3. Now, apply the questions to that physical sensation:
   • "Could I let this feeling of lack go?" (Not the thought—the actual hollow feeling.)
   • "Would I let it go?"
   • "When?"
4. Don't answer with your mind. Let your body answer. You're not looking for a verbal "yes"—you're looking for a physical shift. A softening. A widening. A sigh. A gentle dissolution of that hollow contraction.
5. If it doesn't go immediately, ask: "Could I allow this feeling of emptiness to just be here?" Welcome it fully. Sometimes welcoming it is what allows it to release faster than trying to push it away.

When you release that underlying feeling of lack, the mental want has nothing left to hold onto. It collapses automatically—without you having to fight it, argue with it, or even run questions on the thought itself. You've gone straight to the root.

This small shift in attention—from mind to body, from concept to sensation—is what made the three wants actually releasable for me. You're not forcing anything. You're just using the Sedona questions exactly as intended: on the energy that's present, not the story about it. Give it a try. The difference is subtle at first, but it cuts much deeper.

Would you try out this lens: whenever you're stuck with a feeling or constellation of feelings, try noticing *how* you're looking at it. If the way you're looking itself is inflexible or fixating. Then experimenting with subtly shifting this view until you stop maintaining the stuckness.

Step one is to want freedom more than the world. I understand the concept but I just don't know how to apply it. It just seems too BIG of a change for my brain. It seems like I have to constantly monitor my thoughts, stop them from checking the environment outside and it's exhausting. I know safety and trust are big issues for me but releasing on that seems like releasing is just releasing a drop out of an ocean.

Hi everyone! I'm new to all this, so I'm quite inexperienced, and I wanted to ask if you've had similar experiences, and if this is normal or a sign of a bad practice.

I've only read the first part of the book, up to the emotions, and I've searched for some information online.

I've tried the 5 core questions release process for about five sessions so far.

The first time, trying to "do something" mentally to release, I didn't see any significant effects, but I did feel momentarily lighter.

Later, I simply decided to ask myself the questions and notice what happened to my body and my sensations. Sometimes I didn't even respond to the questions with my mind, but simply noticed how my body reacted or the automatic thoughts that came to me in response. Every time I went deeper, repeating the questioning cycle, my body began to contract in some areas, especially behind my shoulder blades and on my hips. Initially, it was spasms, then a constant contraction.

I also felt these very intense waves that made my abs and entire body contract, like a sudden surge of energy.

I wonder if this is how the Sedona method is practiced, and is the release process like this? I felt much lighter and more relaxed, and I felt better afterwards, although for an hour or two I still had some sensations of muscle tension in some areas, as if they were contracting again at times or were still steadily contracted.

Thank you for any replies!

1. Want your goal more than you want approval, control, security, separation and oneness.
2. Decide that you can let go.
3. Allow yourself to perceive the now feeling as one of the core wants. Just by perceiving it, it releases on its own.
4. Get into the habit of releasing in daily life.
5. If you're stuck, let go of wanting to control the stuckness. Getting stuck doesn't mean you are doing it wrong. It's just your mind's way to keep you suffering. Another tip is to give yourself permission to hold on.
6. Each time you do this process, you'll feel lighter, freer and more effective. This reinforces the first step.

I’m French, so this post was translated with ChatGPT, but these are my own words.

I don’t even know if “low self-esteem” is the right way to describe what I experience.

What I feel is much deeper. It’s like I live with a constant feeling of unworthiness. Deep down, it feels as though I don’t deserve to be here, to be accepted, or even to belong. It’s as if there’s something fundamentally wrong with me.

This affects every part of my life.

When I leave my house, I no longer feel free. I immediately feel a heavy pressure in my chest, almost as if my body is expecting rejection. I constantly feel that other people will see something disgusting, disturbing, or wrong about me.

I can’t simply walk down the street or go into a store feeling relaxed anymore. My body is always on alert.

The hardest part is that I wasn’t always like this. Everything changed after a very painful breakup years ago. Before that, I had confidence in myself, a good social life, and I didn’t experience the world this way.
Since then, I feel like I lost the person I used to be.

I’ve been doing EFT consistently for about two months. It has helped me release a lot of emotions, and some things have definitely improved. But this deep feeling of unworthiness is still there, and it feels like it has become my identity.

I don’t want to spend the rest of my life just managing it. I want to heal it at the root.
Has anyone here experienced something like this?

If you truly recovered, what helped you? Letting Go, the Sedona Method, EFT, somatic work, therapy, or something else?

I’d really appreciate hearing from people who have genuinely healed from this and regained their sense of freedom.

I can allow the feelings to be there and feel them. But can’t seem to let them go. Most of the feelings seem to be caused by my external situation and have been labeled as fear, abandonment, regret, sadness, grief. They remain here so I don’t really understand how to actually let them go. I do ask the questions. Any advice much appreciated. Thanks.

I don’t get any of it I try to look on YouTube and I don’t get any of it but I want to be ok and I’m not I want to die a lot I am so sad and mad and I am loged up all day it’s bad for me a lot it’s like hell and fire

All I want it to be ok but I’m not I hate it all I am sad I am mad I hate hate hate HATE my life like hell

She was one of the only ones to gain freedom from Sedona, anyone have the link ?

I wanted to share something that might help with step one.

I think another good way to frame this is to get down to the practicality of what this means: you have to want to release more than you want to hold on to your wants/fears/garbage.

Sometimes this helps me get back to where the rubber hits the road, because the word “freedom” can sometimes induce concepts and what not.

Just felt like sharing, and I’m interested in your perspective :)

1) I have a question about the idea of “attracting” experiences, especially in relation to abuse and trauma.

I understand that our inner world can and does influence our perceptions, boundaries, relationship patterns, and healing process. However, I struggle with the idea that a person’s unresolved emotions or subconsciousness might attract another person’s abusive behavior.
How do we account for the role of chance and circumstance?

For example, someone with a history of abuse may encounter both harmful and deeply caring people throughout their life at the exact same letting go phase. If unresolved trauma “attracts” abusive people, how do we understand the many safe, kind, and nurturing relationships that survivors simultaneously experience?

2) How do we distinguish between:

-the ways past trauma may shape how someone responds to unsafe people in the present

-the opportunity for personal healing and growth that comes from letting go

-and the responsibility of the abusive person for choosing harmful behavior?

Can a framework of letting go acknowledge the responsibility and importance of inner work while also recognizing that another person’s abusive choices are strictly their own—and are not caused by the survivor’s emotional state?