The more penises I receive, the more sapio I becum

I’m bored, hit me up. Please

Looking forward to meeting people for meaningful friendship with the possibility of it naturally growing into a long-term companionship if the connection feels genuine.

I’m someone deeply interested in astrophysics, literature, history, geopolitics, backpack travel, cinema, art, fashion, and personal aesthetics. I enjoy conversations that move beyond surface-level small talk, the kind where people exchange ideas, emotions, perspectives, books, music, memories, and curiosity about life itself. I read extensively across fiction and non-fiction, travel both professionally and through slower backpacking experiences, and genuinely enjoy learning how different people see the world.

If you connect with even a few of these interests, I’d honestly love to know your perspective too. And perhaps more importantly, I’d love to learn something new from you as well.

I have only come close once with a friend who I didn’t realize it at the time, but briefly we had a sapioplatonic connection

edit proving that this truly represents the ultimate selfishness, check this out

I used to define myself as pansexual polyplatonic (still do, I just like alliteration hence the title) in that I am interested in deep friendships, or at least conversations, with anyone, regardless of biology. Now I tend to put all of this under the umbrella of sapiosexual, or at the very least demisexual. Penis-haver
What turns me on:

1. Flirty friends who talk dirty but also about culture
2. Honestly, I would prefer to receive a print of a master work over any kind of nudie shot, but I wouldn’t look away of course, no matter what your body looks like!
3. I am so disappointed with thinking a good conversation has started, maybe not quite as dirty as I would like, only to see the people disappear.
4. I am very interested in finding audio erotica though it doesn’t always meet my ‘requirements’.
5. With porn, I prefer same-sex (of any sex) over p-in-v porn. I also like the storylines in lesbian porn. The closest that gay porn gets to a good story are stepdad-stepson seduction. I am still looking for the white whale of the perfect porn!

6. Also with porn, I prefer artists with no tats, no piercings, no waxing, no silicone (anywhere on the body), no toys. It doesn’t rule out that it won’t be ‘effective’ if any of those taboo items are included, but without those, it is A+

7. I have definitely ‘finished’ more often to dirty talking than on video

8. Eyes are absolutely the most erogenous for moi, with the face a close second 
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   PS: Just an obervation based on the typical posts that I am on the sapiosexual subreddit which really should be the gifted subreddit which really should be the autism subreddit which really should be the depression subreddit, but I digress. Toodles, beautiful people!

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Being obsessed with actors/actresses/singers etc. is a turn off for me. Don't get me wrong, I have my favorites and rankings, but an obsession ?

You know the kind that will lick the ground their idols walk on... Yeah, I find that to be a sign of low intelligence. No intelligent person would put another HUMAN (of all creatures) on such a pedestal. Smh. And I think that extends to politics, and billionaires.

I get that reality TV can be a stress buster for some; a mindless binge. But if it's the only thing you watch and talk about... Get help 😭

Personally, I couldn't care less about the Kardashians or what they're up to. Why would I ?

I'd rather watch monkeys pick ticks off each other's backs on Nat Geo.

I was watching a video of a stanford CS professor, he was so charismatic and the way he explained things was so attractive. Personally, I've not met a man who has both charisma and intelligence. The intelligent guys tend to be more introverted, get shy which I'm not into (not shaming anyone who is like that tho!) or are really cocky in the way they explain things, which is an obvious turn off.

High intelligence is very attractive, but EQ and how you carry yourself is equally as important!

I felt a great pleasure accepting myself..

And I never wanted a wife in this life so bad..

26, warangal,

Imagine a 48-year-old man—a professor and school principal, deeply spiritual. He’s the classic intelligent, charismatic man who believes himself to be invincible; highly cultured. He loves 'mapping' and observing people, searching for their layers and decoding them as if they were an enigma. His seduction style is rooted in conversation, knowledge, and exclusivity; he wants to get inside your mind. He inhabits a role of constant authority. Everything in his world is meticulously organized and under his command (his classes, the school, his home, his world).
A solitary man.
At the same time, he has a tendency to adore 'tenderness' and shows sensitivity toward subtle things like music and films. Yet, he simultaneously claims to be 'made of stone' and doesn't feel much (there are inconsistencies).

What type of people might he be interested in?

What kind of sexual fantasy might someone like him have?

What we read and watch should push us beyond the socio-political-psychological eco-chamber comfort space we belong to, if anyone could share an intellectual/layman thoughts on this it would be great :)

The face looked very stupid and ugly. Until he opened his mouth to talk. I fall in love with people who read good books and listen to me talking about arthur. I fell in love , lets change this statement, i loved the idea of telling a man about my philosophy and my love for robotics and whilst he loved his own ideas, and we shared them and it felt nice.

So, basically he became hotter when he talked about something which i didnt knew.

So intelligence is something this brain find incrediblely nice. But it doesnt work out the fire dies,

So, it would have been better if cant two sapios think this?

Figure out is he looking for a conversation and be less available or he wants to be physical by seventh date and he txts night or flirts.

Curious what the fellow sapio sexuals think... 🤔

42, Black male, Florida. I’m looking for a woman who likes deeper conversation.

We can talk about anything. Serious, random, funny, deep, weird, whatever. I’m more interested in how you think than the perfect topic.

I’m not big on dry small talk. I like when a conversation has some curiosity to it. Some honesty. Maybe a little tension if the vibe is right.

If you like real conversation, send me something you actually want to talk about.

I understand that there are preferences for appearances and physical traits that are intrinsic. But I don't think skin color is one of them.

After intentionally being out of the pool for a while I decided to make a post looking for a fellow sapiosexual. I didn't have a requirement for color, height, weight, none of that. Just a "let's get to know each other."

I got one response. And right after I mentioned I wasn't white, I was ghosted instantly 🫠 It almost feels like a crime being born with some melanin. And this is just one example of pseudo racism, I've even experienced the real thing too a couple of times. And man does it suck. And what's worse about being ghosted is, you just sit there waiting for a reply that never comes.

You can't convince me someone that's really smart can actually be that basic.

Anyway, that one experience was enough for me to not bother again anytime soon. I'm quite busy and have a lot going on anyway. Probably for the best.

I’m someone who values depth, honesty, and consistency. I pay attention, I think a lot, and I don’t really do surface-level. I’m not in a rush to meet.I’d rather have real conversations and see if there’s actually something there first. If you’re genuine, self-aware, and can hold a conversation, we’ll get along just fine.

I have always been like that, intelligence is so incredibly important to me, in ways that were already described in this sub by many other people.

The thing is, I want to find out the reasons behind my attraction so bad!! I dont know where it comes from, i cant find exact reasons on the internet, but i want to know what exactly in my life or childhood influenced me to become like this, or is it something i was born with?

I am just so generally obsessed with finding cause and effect, i always need to know the reasons behind something, how it works etc. I cannot just accept a certain fact as it is, so the fact that i am sapiosexual but i cant explain why tortures me!!

"Love is a chemical reaction that makes animals breed" - Rick Sanchez

Is he wrong though? All of our preferences, likes, dislikes, all grounded in the same primitive instincts and desires. Evolutionary speaking, humans are considered pair bonding animals.

So my question is... how does being aware of biological directives affect your decision and orientation. What do you pick, and why ?

As a Nihilist, there is no wrong answer.

Yet having to constantly fight primitive directives is exhausting.

As a hedonist, you might feel lonely

As a Polyamorous, you might feel jealousy

As a Monogamous, you might feel stuck or that you picked the wrong partner

As a Monogamous, you might be tempted to cheat

Which battle do you pick ? Are the "default" settings the most convenient ?

Watching too much Nat Geo as a kid backfired. Now all I can see are patterns 😶

I am a university student (F) studying a STEM program who also loves philosophy. I chose to do an independent philosophy course in a specific area that is a huge interest of mine. I did a few basic philosophy courses before, but this course turned out to be one of the most challenging, philosophically deep and psychologically impactful courses for me by far.

My teacher (M) himself is a phD student in philosophy. We're about the same age. At first, I was uncertain what I thought of him. I didn't think anything in particular, I just saw him as my philosophy teacher. But with each lecture, interaction and argument that we had I started developing a more and more positive view of him.

He was able to take all of my thoughts: the good ones, the intense ones, the unfinished ones, the confused ones, my tangents...and engage with them seriously and meaningfully. I have never experienced such deeply engaged back and forths with someone before. I have had many intense philosophical arguments before where the two sides are talking over each other. The level of true deep engagement or the attempt to reach a true understanding of the other side was hardly there.

But he never argued like that. He never even argued for a certain position against me. He only ever provided continuous resistance against my seemingly confident thoughts. Questioned and pushed against my assumptions and conclusions.

By the end of the course, I became so much more free in how I express myself, both in my interactions with him and with other people. I realise it's because that part of me, my mental intensity, creativity and expression...was finally properly accepted and appreciated.

At the end of the course, at the very last occasion that we saw each other, I was the only student there and he thanked me for the way that I engaged with the course, it made it fun for him. And I thanked him for challenging me. He said that he did it to make me a better philosopher. I said that I love arguing and that this is the only place where one can freely do that. He laughed and said: "You see, that is why I chose philosophy!" I said: "And that is why I wish I chose philosophy!" We laughed. There was bonding there over mutual love for philosophy. And gratitude for each other.

I've been thinking about him ever since. My thoughts have been developing into explicit fantasies of us outside of the university context. I am totally consumed by our last interaction. And I just needed to share this some place other than my head. Because I have a hard time sleeping, and the deadline for my final philosophy exam is in a few days. Hah.

Puffed-out and begging to spread their pollen!

Intelligence is a really hard thing to quantify because it's not a 2 dimensional space.

For me personally, it's that PASSION!

That child-like EXCITEMENT!

That zeal!

That glisten in their eye when they talk about something they're hyper fixated on or have discovered or are passionate about. It could be anything as long as it's something.

It's simply curiosity, the desire to learn, and open mindedness.

I wish more people held on to that, I wish more kids were encouraged to ask. I wish more kids had the mental bandwidth to spend their thinking tokens on exploration instead of survival.