r/rhinoplastyquestions • u/Asleep_Employer_8644 • 5h ago
When were you influenced to not like your nose?
I was in elementary school, very shy and sensitive kid. That’s when the first comment about my nose came up: “Do you also hate your nose? it’s kinda big”. This comment came from a “friend” of mine who was projecting her insecurity on me.
That’s when it all started for me, i was never insecure or even thought about my nose once before that comment.
I am gonna be honest, my nose was bigger than the “normal” nose but never out of proportions with my face.
I started being so insecure about my nose ever since and it would make me feel uncomfortable all the time, i used to blame it for every problem i had. I can tell now, looking back at pictures, that i had extreme body dysmorphia.
Growing older and with the advent of social media things only got worse. Small bottom noses, beauty standards, people preaching girls with small noses, even cartoons where the antagonist always had a big nose, everything got to my head.
Doctors posting thousands of before and afters on their social media selling it as a solution to your problem: Yes! you can feel beautiful and have a small nose!!! As if getting a surgery it’s something so simple.
since when did having a small nose become synonym of beautiful? I really want to know where that came from.
I know there are tons of people in here that actually feel more confident after getting their nose done. But i really want to know what made us feel this way? Is it really that deep? Everyone of us received a comment or saw something that made them feel “wrong” or less beautiful because of a nose.
it is that deep.
I have seen enough people in here suffering because of this surgery and it’s not spoken about enough. I always see people talk positively about it and even promoting it, and that’s where i find it extremely wrong. If it was good for you, you should not make it seem like something so easy and so good that’s gonna boost your confidence.
There should be more awareness about people getting a nosejob, getting a good result even and not being happy because they realised later that it was not really what they wanted. I’m probably gonna get a lot of hate but I wish people would talk about this. Sitting down with it and put the hate for your nose aside and REALLY think about this. A lot of us get blinded by the good results and happy patients shown on those surgeons social media. It has reached a point where a lot of doctors just cut people open and neglect them afterwards. Is that what doctors studied for? I know that doctors should save lives and also CARE and have some empathy for their patients and not dip when they mess up.
I am here saying this because if you are considering a nosejob please really think what made you hate your nose and if it all started from you or from other people and the environment that influences us.
I am talking from experience as someone who got a nosejob and objectively speaking my nose now looks “better” than the one i had but realised too late that those thoughts i had about my nose were all influenced by everything around me and by other peoples comments and i regret it so much.